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This day is the second anniversary of Qian Yifan's acquaintance with Qian Liuyang, and it is also the day that Qian Yifan thinks is most suitable for telling the truth.
He really had to, because the first three relationships were all defeated by confession. Being in love for half a year is the most fragile turning point in the relationship. He explained the reality in detail. If he can't afford a wedding room, he will choose naked marriage. So girlfriends, without exception, reluctantly give up what they love and find another fate. Several friends around him said that he was stupid and not sensible, and warned him more than once. Nowadays, a daughter-in-law and a house are like chopsticks. Without either one, you can't eat the bowl of marriage. Unless feelings are inseparable.
But how do you define this?
When an experienced "pick up girls" brother taught him the secret of love privately, he told him that the feelings between people are like two pieces of meat sewn together, from fragmented to complete. The longer the time, the higher the degree of fusion between the two pieces of meat, and the more difficult it is to separate. If they have to be separated under the action of external forces, they will certainly tear off each other's meat in the heartbreaking pull, leaving the pain far from being as simple as bleeding. If you allude to the relationship between men and women, it will take at least two years for girls to break up easily. In other words, you have to be in contact for at least two years before you can admit to naked marriage with a girl. Maybe the other person will accept it for affection. Thus, this "two-year confession theory" was deeply imprinted in Qian Yifan's stylized brain.
Although Qian Liuyang is a down-to-earth man, it does not mean that he has no requirements for men's material conditions. The bottom line of her mate selection is simple, that is, to find a man who can afford a house, because the house is the carrier of home. The reason why Qian Yifan has never been asked if he has a marriage room is because he is afraid that his boyfriend will question the impure feelings. Just because you don't say what you said doesn't mean Qian Liuyang doesn't know what to do. According to her inference of Qian Yifan's family conditions, her father is an accountant in a state-owned enterprise and her mother works in the personnel department of a paint company. At least her family can afford a down payment of several hundred thousand yuan, and then she pays a mortgage of several thousand yuan every month. The wedding room is not a problem at all.
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But most of the time, the more seemingly not a problem, the more problematic it is. The two are tit for tat, thinking that once a showdown is held, it will inevitably lead to disputes that affect intimate relations.
Not bad. Qian Yifan and Qian Liuyang are not eloquent people. So when talking and learning for the first time, both of them were very calm, although the waves were rolling in their hearts. As a result, the long-awaited preparations for the second anniversary were condensed into an embarrassing dinner.
When leaving, Qian Yifan hesitated for a long time and couldn't help saying, "Don't leave me because of the house. I really love you. "
Similarly, he has confessed three times. Although we face different faces, we finally experience the same ending. He prayed that this time would be an exception. Besides, they even have the same surname, which shows the deep fate, right
The wedding dress can be rented, because it is only rented for one day, and the house should be bought, because you have to live for a lifetime.
Qian Liuyang thought like this but avoided answering. He only kissed Qian Yifan on the cheek before turning around, with a hint of melancholy that he could not detect. Qian Liuyang knows very well that no marriage room is equivalent to the end of the relationship. Even though he cares about his old love, he feels sorry for his mother.
In the corridor turning window, Qian Liuyang caught a glimpse of the oblique shadow under the street lamp. Yes, Qian Yifan stood in the halo, yellow and fuzzy, just like an image in memory. So I stopped and peeked at the image until it was flooded with tears.
Love is really cheaper than a house, so cheap that "two years of confession" is hard to work.
In fact, Qian Liuyang doesn't want to live so realistically, but marriage keeps dragging her into reality. Strangely, all the married friends around us are married to tenants, regardless of whether the other party is local or not.
According to Lu Xun's logic that "there is no road in the world, and more people walk, it becomes a road", the choice of married women undoubtedly illustrates a truth. There is no hardware condition for marriage, and more people are needed, which becomes a necessity. Therefore, in this big environment, if a boy doesn't have a house, a girl can't get married easily.
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"What if I really love him?"
When Qian Liuyang told his mother this sentence, her mother sneered, "Does he love you? If he really loves you, he will prepare a house for you. But if this man can't afford to buy a house now, he will marry you easily and he won't cherish you. Do you still expect him to buy a house when you have a child and your income and expenses are even tighter? Finding someone who has a house and loves you on our terms is not a problem at all. Therefore, long-term pain is not as good as short-term pain, and there is a new life after separation. "
"What if I really love him?"
Qian Liuyang gave the same words to his best friend, hoping to get the song of * * * between sisters. I didn't know it was still a blow. "The house is a weapon for men to test women's bottom line. If you give in, he will win. This is not the time for us to show the atmosphere. You know, in a marriage without a house, women are always passive. It's okay for men not to change their minds. If they change their minds and get divorced, isn't your youth trampled on in the rental house? "
I want to go too. Marrying a houseless household means that life will always lag behind others from now on. When others are going to have children, you should consider buying a house. You should consider buying a house when others outline their dreams and plan to start a business. Everyone else has changed a villa and two BMWs, and you are still considering buying a house.
Let alone take Beijing as an example. 10 years ago, two people who also had 200,000 cash, one bought a house worth 6,543.8+0,000 with five times leverage, and the other deposited all the cash in the bank to enjoy stable interest. Today, ten years later, the house price in Beijing has risen by 1.5 times. The original house of 1 10,000 is now worth10.5 million, while the interest earned by bank deposit for ten years is only about 30,000 to 50,000. The wealth ratio changed from 1: 1 to 60: 1.
That's enough. Qian Liuyang couldn't bear to think about it any more, and abruptly cut off the terrible idea that was extending. At that moment, she finally decided to break up.
Three days later, Qian Yifan got a call from Qian Liuyang and had a bad feeling.
As expected, he relived the heartache of lovelorn again, and this time the pain was enough to make him despair of love. He didn't mean to stay, because Qian Liuyang's voice was so firm that she completely lost her previous femininity. Obviously, she has made up her mind.
For women, choosing a spouse is like recruiting. Different women will post different conditions and then rank them in order of importance. All men who meet the "recruitment requirements" or are particularly outstanding in some aspects can be considered, but in the end, who can be officially "hired" to get a marriage certificate has to go through the running-in of love. This is very similar to the probation period before signing a contract, and men dare not take it lightly. In fact, in the eyes of most women, men will not be easily "disgusted" as long as they have no principled problems and do not touch the bottom line of marriage. In addition, just like the threshold requirements of age, education and major in the recruitment brochure, girls will also set three "necessary items" such as marriage room, height and work when choosing a spouse, and "having a house" has become the headline standard for choosing a spouse at present. No matter whether a girl is gentle and lovely, beautiful and blue-hearted, she will ask her husband to have a house, not to mention a woman with a refined appearance like Qian Liuyang.
So it is doomed that Qian Yifan will once again embark on the road of lovelorn.
He is really an ordinary person, so ordinary that he is not even qualified to get married. Even if he is kind, filial and enterprising, even if he works steadily, all this is worthless because he can't afford the down payment. Qian Yifan has nothing but heartache. Perhaps for many single men who have no house like him, it is necessary to make money to buy a house first and then spend the next month.
One day about a week after breaking up, he received Qian Liuyang's WeChat.
The words on the screen are dazzling against the sunshine:
I love you, but I will not marry you. It is not that I have become a substance, but that everyone has become a reality.
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