Xiaohui, born in a patriarchal family, has a weak father who is often scolded by her mother for wasting, a mother who always scolds her for "losing money" and a younger brother. Her mother is very strong. She has the final say in everything at home, and treats her younger brother completely differently from her, so Xiaohui has no childhood, only a shadow.
Xiaohui said that from the moment she was born, the words "losing money" accompanied her, and even after she became an adult, her mother would say these words to her from time to time.
Xiaohui said that when she was a child, she liked reading and her grades were excellent. But before she finished junior high school, she was forced to drop out of school by her mother. Even if she begged her father again, his father was indifferent. She just said to Xiaohui, "I can't control this, your mother has the final say." Finally, Xiaohui had no choice but to ask her mother, but her mother said to her, "Losing money to study is just a waste of money." So from then on, Xiaohui gave up the idea of studying.
Then Xiaohui was sent to the factory by her mother and helped her earn money at home. At that time, Xiaohui thought that her life might be miserable, and even her marriage could not be decided, because at that time her mother said that she could not fall in love and her family would find her. Xiaohui knows very well that this is the bride price her mother wants. To put it mildly, her mother just wants to sell her daughter.
Fortunately, Xiaohui finally married the person she wanted to marry, but her mother didn't stop her. Because Xiaohui's marriage partner is very rich at home, Xiaohui's mother asked for a bride price of 6.5438+0.5 million, with only a dowry of 5,000.
When she first heard her mother's request, Xiaohui thought her marriage was over, because no husband-in-law could accept such a request. To her surprise, her husband and mother-in-law didn't get angry with her, but let her break off the relationship with such a family, saying that the family would really love her if they didn't love her. This made Xiaohui very moved. From that moment on, Xiaohui made up her mind to break up with her family after marriage because of her.
At that time, Xiaohui thought she would never see her family again, but she knew that in the third year of marriage, when she was preparing to buy a house, her mother unexpectedly found her door.
After seeing Xiaohui, her mother said directly to Xiaohui, "Daughter, your brother owes 300,000 yuan for playing cards. Please help him return it. " Xiaohui was shocked and said, "It's none of my business. Why should I help him? " Xiaohui thought that her mother would be speechless when she heard this, but she still said righteously, "You little brother. If you don't help him, someone will make trouble at home every day. He is still young. Don't you want to buy a house? " You must have money, don't buy a house yet, help your brother pay back the money first. That's all that matters. "
Xiaohui was angry when she heard her mother's words, because she thought her mother was too eccentric and hurtful. She has been eccentric all her life, but she didn't expect to be like this after marriage. So at this moment, Xiaohui couldn't bear it anymore, refused her mother directly and drove her away. Hearing Xiaohui's refusal, her mother was furious, slapped Xiaohui directly, cursed Xiaohui for being unfilial, and finally asked the security guard to drive her mother out of the community.
After her mother came home, she joined her relatives and friends and called Xiaohui to put pressure on her. Either swearing or teaching people a lesson, but Xiaohui didn't take it seriously at all, and then changed her mobile phone directly.
For Xiaohui, some people tell jokes that are too cold-blooded. From destruction, she watched her brother suffer without giving a hand. Even if someone gossips again, Xiaohui is too lazy to explain, because she thinks she is not wrong. Although she speaks badly, sometimes she will come to me after thinking about her brother's tragic experience in the future and ask me whether she wants to help her brother or not.
Bian Xiao has something to say:
In my opinion, I don't think Xiaohui has any obligation to help his brother who is gambling debts, because it is unreasonable to be emotional. Even if Xiaohui's brother doesn't gamble, even if he is sick and needs money, Xiaohui has no obligation to sacrifice her own interests for her brother, because she has no responsibility to raise her brother. She is willing to help out of love and unwilling to help, which is also her duty. No one can make irresponsible remarks.
Perhaps seeing this, some people will say that Xiaohui is heartless, because after all, they are the closest relatives of Xiaohui, and no matter how angry Xiaohui is, she will have to bear all this.
In fact, for these people, I just want to say one thing: "You haven't experienced everything that others have experienced, and you haven't eaten the sufferings and sins of others, so you are not qualified to evaluate at all, because you don't understand at all. If the needle doesn't stick to you, you will never feel pain, just like drinking water, knowing yourself in the cold and warm. "
In fact, Xiaohui is not only a heartless person, but also a particularly emotional person. From Xiaohui's question, we can see that how many women can still think of that home after so many injuries?
I told Xiaohui that since your life and marriage are very happy now, you must learn to cherish and stay away from those parents who make you unhappy. They will only bring you harm and pain, so you must stay away.
Besides, if you really want to be nice to your brother, you can't help him in this matter. He is an adult, and he must take responsibility for himself. This will definitely make him suffer a punishment that he will never remember. Otherwise, he won't change at all. After you help him, he will only get worse, cause big trouble, and even destroy your family himself, so he can't help.
In my feelings, I often warn the boys and girls around me that once I get married, I can put my small family first and consider everything for my family. Otherwise, marriage is doomed to be unfortunate.