My friend Xiao Di, who I haven't contacted for a long time last night, sent me a message saying, "My cousin is now a sophomore, but the other day she told her family that she didn't want to go to school, and the family couldn't say anything. How can I persuade her? "
Xiao Di and I were classmates in high school. In our place, junior high school students or senior high school students have a high probability of dropping out of school. However, most students who drop out of school are not unable to go to school because of poor family conditions. Now the country implements nine-year compulsory education, and junior high school simply doesn't cost much. Even if high school has to pay tuition, the average family can afford it.
But why did you suddenly drop out of school?
Xiao Di told me that when he learned that his cousin was going to drop out of school, he quickly called her to discourage her from making a decision easily. But his cousin said casually, "I don't have good academic performance and don't like learning." I feel sleepy when I see a book. " Besides, I just want to be an ordinary person. Why bother? "
I told Xiao Di that in fact, her cousin was excusable for not wanting to go to school, and high school was under great competitive pressure. As a scum who has been crushed by other students, it is really a very hard thing to stay.
On the other hand, her cousin is really wrong. She thought that as long as she was an ordinary person, she could escape or even get rid of the cruelty of reality, so she stopped working hard?
Second,
Do you think it's easy to be an ordinary person?
1.
Neighbor uncle, farmer; His son is a migrant worker in the city. It can be said that they are the most ordinary people in China. But their life is not easy at all.
When my uncle's son reached marriageable age, my uncle and aunt set out to find an object for his son, and found seven or eight matchmakers back and forth. Give me a good cigarette ticket with both hands. "Please introduce us to hanako. If we can do it, we will definitely thank you in the future. "
So Hanako started the blind date mode off guard. Although Hanako is unwilling to find the other half of her life through blind date, what can she do? He knows that blind date is the best way to be single. The most frequent blind date is more than seven times, coming out of this home and being taken to another home by other matchmakers.
Despite this frequency, Hanako has not found a suitable partner for a long time. They either despise others or despise themselves. Of course, the so-called disdain depends on looks and family conditions.
If Hanako's marriage can't be solved for a day, her uncles and aunts will not lie for a day. One day, uncles and aunts said to Hanako, "Hanako, as long as others are willing to follow us, we won't choose the next blind date, ok?" You see there are fewer girls now, so don't just watch the second marriage in the future. "
You see, uncle and aunt Hanako are ordinary people, but is their life easy? Later, I heard that Hanako was engaged, but the woman asked for a lot of bride price, saying it was a custom there. Uncle and aunt have worked hard for most of their lives, which is not enough to marry a daughter-in-law for their son; Hanako went out to work before graduating from junior high school. When she got married, she didn't have any money left, and she still owed foreign debts.
2.
14 After graduation, Mr. Zhang came to Beijing and became a member of Qian Qian's "Northern drift".
Before coming to Beijing, he thought he would be very hard and believed that he would get better and better soon.
But the reality is always a little cruel.
During this period, although Zhang Cheng changed several rented houses, he shared a small house with others. Although his salary has tripled in the past two years, he still dares not go to a better restaurant, buy some expensive clothes and change to a better rental house in this big city according to his own wishes. Because he has to send some of them back to his hometown, his father's ability to make money is not as good as before when he is old, and his younger brothers and sisters still need money to go to school.
In the past two years, Zhang Cheng has not only tripled his salary, but also spent the rest of his life sharing a house, squeezing the subway bus, finding the cheapest small restaurant and sending most of his money home. ...
Zhang Cheng's father said to him, "Son, I have wronged you for this family. If you want to go home, come back. I will help you build a house and ask for a wife. "
After listening, Mr. Zhang felt a dull pain in his heart. He doesn't know whether he can persist in Beijing, and he doesn't know whether he should go back to his hometown or continue to be uncertain about how to stay in Beijing in the future. He is always entangled.
As one of thousands of ordinary people in Qian Qian, do you think Mr. Zhang's life is easy?
Third,
As an ordinary person, it is not easy to be an ordinary person.
Therefore, even ordinary people still need to work hard.
Yes, ordinary people don't need to shoulder great responsibilities like political leaders, business elites, scientists and other unusual high-end talents, and they don't need to be nervous all the time.
However, they have one thing in common, that is, they are all working hard for their roles.
Uncles and aunts try hard to find daughters-in-law for their sons, while Hanako tries hard to make money by herself. Zhang Cheng works hard to earn money to support his family in Beijing. They are the epitome of millions of ordinary people, farmers, migrant workers and even white-collar workers in the company.
I said to Xiao Di, "You tell your cousin that no matter whether she wants to be an ordinary person or an ordinary person in the future, she must work hard. Escape from the present, and you may live easily in a short time. But God is fair, and the hard work she has escaped now will be fully rewarded in the future. Being an ordinary person is really not as easy as I thought. "
You may be an ordinary person who works hard, but if you don't work hard, you are doomed to be an ordinary person who feels unhappy everywhere.
How to choose, Xiao Di's cousin know fairly well.
For us, we have a good idea.