It hurts to think of it, or it hurts to think of it, or I hope I have never met it.
Those people are still in your WeChat, in your mind.
A long time ago, a friend told me that there are so many people who think about psychological discomfort, but they can't forget it. Should it be completely deleted from life?
Who in life should we kick out of our thoughts and our own circles?
The first kind: people who love but can't.
There is such a person who occupies the most wonderful scene in your life, but you can't get it and you can't forget it.
Lingling and her boyfriend fell in love in college for more than three years. After leaving the society, she chose to break up because of their work. Up to now, Linlin will subconsciously visit his circle of friends, saying that although he doesn't love them, he always misses them and wants to see if his life is good.
I remember two years ago, when I was playing in Nanjing, I accidentally saw my boyfriend. Lingling went to the movies with him, hoping to make up for her promise.
After returning home, Lingling did not tell her husband, but secretly deleted her boyfriend's WeChat and all contact information. At this moment, Lingling completely put the past behind her.
The second type: people who want to use you.
Xiaoling has a good friend at work, but what Xiaoling didn't expect was that she was sincere to her, but her friend took advantage of their friendship mercilessly and put herself in the position of supervisor. This position was Xiaoling's plan, but a friend told Xiaoling that her performance was almost poor and asked Xiaoling to give it to her first.
As a result, Xiaoling later learned that it had been decided that whoever performed best this month would be promoted to supervisor, and my friend had already got the news. Ever since I took the position of supervisor, my friends have been afraid that Xiaoling will take her place and secretly targeted Xiaoling everywhere.
Later, Xiaoling chose to resign, but before leaving, she emailed the manager what happened before. Xiaoling doesn't know what happened later, but after this incident. Xiaoling deleted that friend, hoping that she would never contact her again.
The third type: people who owe you nothing.
Xiaoling has a friend who has known her for more than four years. Recently, she borrowed tens of thousands of dollars from Xiaoling to buy a house at home. I will return it to Xiaoling as soon as possible, because I have known her for so many years, and Xiaoling has not urged her friends too much. But I never imagined that this IOU disappeared for more than two years.
Later, Xiaoling occasionally mentioned the house with her friends, suggesting that her friends would pay back the money, but her friends ignored Xiaoling as if they didn't know. Every time Xiaoling talks about the house, her friends complain, saying that the mortgage pressure is great every month.
In this way, she was in arrears for more than a year. Xiaoling feels more and more afraid that her friends behind her will not pay back the money. So I told my friends that there was an emergency at home and I needed money. Can I pay her back first?
This time, my friend really understood Xiaoling's idea, but said with a very uncomfortable look? It's not that I don't pay you back. I said I had something at home, so I was stingy. After so many years of friends, why didn't you find Xiaoling such a person? .
When you borrow money, you are a mistress, and when you pay it back, you become an uncle. This is what you call a friend. I don't know whether I am grateful to Xiaoling or complaining that Xiaoling is stingy. After this incident, Xiaoling broke off contact with her friends. Such a friend is unnecessary for her.
I remember a book once said that there are three kinds of people in your life who are the most irritating and the last to contact. A person you once loved but didn't stay together, a person who just wants to please you, a person who knows that he owes you but still has no guilt or even speaks ill of you. It is unfortunate that these three kinds of people meet, and I hope to remove them from your life as soon as possible.