Young parents are very confused about the principles of parenting and the solutions to common problems. If parents are helpless in the face of common problems and don't understand the principles of parenting and the solutions to common problems, how can they bring the future flowers of the motherland to a better tomorrow?
What are the principles of parenting 1 Recently, a brand-new parenting concept has attracted the attention of many parents, that is, "peaceful parenting", which was proposed and advocated by Dr. Laura Markhan. For many parents who don't pay much attention to parenting, this term may be unfamiliar. Everyone knows little about it or has never heard of it.
So, what kind of parenting style is "peaceful parenting"? Take a look with all kinds of questions and puzzles.
1, respect children, appropriate decentralization
Many times there is a form of looking up between parents and children, and children can only look up to their parents. However, this kind of family education is not conducive to the healthy growth of children. The correct way is for parents to bend down and look at the problem with their children's height and pain.
Therefore, more often, parents should learn to respect their children and give them the right to speak, choose and be free, instead of ignoring their true feelings and making decisions for them. In order to respect children better, parents should understand their words, deeds and ways of thinking, which is of great significance to their healthy growth.
2. Fully understand and communicate deeply.
Dr. Markhan believes that only when parents fully understand their children can children become their good friends, and they will be willing to express their true thoughts, so as to have in-depth communication with their parents. This is convenient for parents to understand and master their children's latest trends and inner thoughts, thus establishing a harmonious parent-child relationship. In-depth communication and exchange between parents and children is very beneficial to the healthy growth of children.
3. Control your emotions and allow mistakes.
For many parents, when it comes to children's problems, they always can't control their emotions, and they often get angry, accuse and criticize their children because of their little mistakes. In fact, many times children don't really make mistakes, but make mistakes invisibly because they can't distinguish things. Therefore, parents should correctly understand their children's behavior.
Moreover, it is not a big deal for children to make mistakes. As the saying goes, "if you make a mistake, you can change it." As long as you know your mistakes, you are a good boy. Therefore, parents should allow their children to make mistakes, because children can learn more deeply from mistakes and help them grow up quickly.
4. Do less punishment and do more encouragement.
There is also a very important content in the "Peace Education Law" advocated by Dr. Laura Markhan, and that is to punish children less. Dr Markhan believes that the phenomenon of children crying is a very natural and normal thing, even a good thing. If parents punish their children for crying and other things, then this parenting style is wrong and fails.
Many times, children cry because they have needs or need to vent. Parents should meet their children's needs in time and provide them with opportunities to vent. Parents should not punish their children for crying, but should encourage them to vent their inner bad emotions, because it is very important for them to have a relaxed and happy mood.
These are the main points of the "Peace Education Law" advocated by Dr. Laura Markhan. This kind of education is very helpful to the healthy growth of children, and parents can try more.
What are the principles of parenting? Now most families are only children. How to cultivate children's good communication skills in early education?
Only children often have some shortcomings, such as selfishness, unsociable, poor sense of sharing, serious self-centeredness, and little consideration for other people's feelings. Therefore, in early childhood, it is very necessary to consciously cultivate children's ability to get along with others. At ordinary times, parents should do a positive demonstration of interpersonal communication, so that children have the opportunity to establish a positive emotional experience of interpersonal communication. At the same time, they can create communication opportunities for children, encourage children to actively communicate with their peers, and let children realize the importance of humility and sharing in constantly facing and solving communication conflicts. In the daily education process, it is best to adopt an appreciation-oriented education method, be good at finding the bright spots in children, encourage them more, enhance their inner strength, and cultivate their positive, optimistic, self-respecting, confident and courageous qualities. Such children are more likely to become popular contacts.
What principles should be followed in EQ education for infants?
First time principle: cultivate good behavior habits and do a good job of "first time".
Infiltration principle: infect children with good family atmosphere and influence children with good behavior.
Encouragement principle: Encouraging children often can enhance their self-confidence and stimulate their positive psychology.
Principle of randomness: Good EQ is not the result of surprise education, but the product of random teaching. We should seize the dribs and drabs of educational opportunities in daily life to cultivate children's emotional intelligence.
My baby likes watching TV very much and often refuses to sleep late. If you turn off the TV for him, he will make a scene. Is there any way to solve the problem of children's addiction to watching TV?
Watching TV does have many negative effects on children. However, it is not always the child's fault that children love watching TV. It may be that parent-child activities are not rich enough and children are bored. Parents can create more opportunities for outdoor activities or indoor activities for their children to divert their children from paying too much attention to TV. In addition, when children are at home or not sleeping, it is best not to turn on the TV at home, otherwise it will provide opportunities to lure children to watch TV. If parents have formed the habit of watching TV every day, try not to watch TV for a long time in front of their children, so as not to give them a bad demonstration.
My baby is 3 years old, so I have to hold my beloved doll everywhere, even if I sleep at night. Although the doll is very broken now, she still won't throw it away, even if she wants to buy her a new one. Why is this? Is there any way to solve it?
We can consider children's behavior from the perspective of fetishism, and many children have this phenomenon to some extent during their growth. As long as it doesn't affect children's daily life, parents don't have to be overly nervous or overreact, and can quietly help alleviate this behavior. Generally speaking, children's fetishism is often due to lack of emotional support. Parents can give their children more care in daily life, so that children can get enough emotional satisfaction from their parents, thus transferring excessive attachment to dolls.
Children are timid and cry if they say something heavier. When something goes wrong, you just cry to express it. How to deal with it?
Children may belong to the temperament type of depression. Children with this temperament need more patience and care from their parents in their usual upbringing. Different temperament types have their own advantages and disadvantages. Parents should first accept their children's emotional expression, give them more encouragement and praise, and increase their inner positive energy. A child with a strong heart will be more confident, which will help him face the difficulties in life bravely. You can also consciously educate your children about setbacks and exercise their psychological endurance.
My son will go to primary school in a few months, and now he can't sit still. I'm worried that he won't be able to attend classes normally after graduating from primary school. Is there any good way to make him sit still?
Rule out the child's illness. If children can't sit still just because they are naughty and active, parents can consciously cultivate their children's concentration. You can learn from the practice of Ms. Zhang Binghui, the "first mother in Korea", buy a set of tables and chairs for your child, and then prepare a small alarm clock, telling him that he can sit here and do what he likes in the future, and his mother will not interfere, but he must insist on it for more than 5 minutes at a time. This will cultivate the habit of "sitting still" for children. Because these things are all children's favorite, he usually won't resist such an arrangement, and it is usually easy to meet the time requirement of concentration. At this time, parents should praise them in time and encourage their children to consciously extend their concentration time. This method can give children the confidence to control themselves, which is very effective for children with poor concentration.
Of course, you can also communicate with the teacher, let him ask more questions in class, praise the child in time when he answers correctly, and maintain and strengthen his concentration.
My baby is 4 years old. When he is angry, he likes to say such cruel things as "kill you" If we discipline him, he will resist even more. what can I do?
Swearing is a common phenomenon among children of this age. At this time, they are in the "curse sensitive period" of language development, and they like to experience the power of language or express their emotions by saying ugly words. The more adults care about his expression, the more intense his reaction will be. If the child's behavior is repeated, it may be related to his lack of self-control, or it may be because his behavior is strengthened by the consequences (the overreaction of adults allows him to successfully experience the power of these languages). If you want to improve your child's behavior, "cold" treatment is the best way. When the child breaks out, pretend not to hear, what should I do? When children realize that such fierce words can't play the expected role, they will naturally give up this practice after a long time.
The baby is 3 years old and has recently become a liar. Moreover, he seems to be very proud after cheating us every time, and will continue to cheat us next time. Is there any way to solve it?
Children lie for many reasons, sometimes because they can't distinguish between imagination and reality, sometimes to meet their parents' high expectations, and sometimes to escape from something. But for whatever reason, the phenomenon of "continuing education" is usually strengthened by its consequences. Parents may wish to reflect: Do you overreact after finding out that your child is lying? Is it because she thinks it's funny that she is stimulated positively? Did he manage to escape anything by lying? If the answer is yes, then children will easily experience the power of lying, and naturally they will not give up this fun practice, and "lying" behavior will occur. Parents are advised to prescribe the right medicine according to different reasons for their children's lying. If children lie because their imagination is confused with reality, they will tolerate them. If a child lies under the pressure of a "good baby", it is necessary to check whether his expectations are too high; If children lie to avoid what they have to do, support them to face their responsibilities or obligations.
My baby is five years old. I don't like to talk when I meet strangers, and I'm not enthusiastic enough to communicate with friends. He doesn't like answering the teacher's questions in class. How to improve the baby's situation?
Children are likely to belong to the temperament type of mucus or depression. Parents need not worry too much. Temperament types have their own advantages and disadvantages, and there is no distinction between good and bad. Although these children are not lively enough, they also have positive aspects, such as being careful and prudent, and acting steadily. Finding the bright spot in the child's personality, praising him, guiding him to overcome the weakness in his personality and helping him to strengthen his inner strength may be helpful to change his current state, but give him enough time and don't expect too much, because a person's temperament type is born and cannot be changed overnight.