A Liang said: "He especially blamed his mother, because his mother not only destroyed his family, but also hurt his wife, leaving him with nothing!" ! So he thinks it's not wrong to drive away his mother, because all the misfortunes in his family are caused by his mother.
A Liang said that he especially regretted divorcing his wife, and he was sorry for her, because he was an ungrateful person and caused her too much harm. That year, he and his wife met, knew each other and fell in love in college. His wife's family conditions are good, but he was born in poverty. His parents have been farmers for the past three generations, and they have no education. He can go to college because of his hard work and scholarship. So in his family, he is the greatest pride. In the village, he is also the object of parents' showing off. He is like a phoenix flying out of the mountain nest.
After graduating from college, his wife didn't dislike her at all. She married him a suite in spite of her parents' objections. At that time, in order to save face, his wife said to his face that he bought the house. After marriage, his wife was very considerate of him and took his mother to live in the city together. Because his father died early, he was always worried about his mother, and his wife helped him.
A Liang said that his marriage and family were destroyed because of his mother's arrival. Because in the second year of marriage, his wife was not pregnant, so his mother aimed all the blame at her, and often made trouble and quarreled, saying that his wife climbed into his house and came to see him. His wife didn't give him face to explain, but resigned herself. A Liang didn't explain for his own face, just turned a blind eye, and even advised his wife to be more patient, because it was not easy for her mother to bring her up alone.
At that time, A Liang thought this was the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. They are used to quarreling, and they won't quarrel in the future, but the fact always catches people off guard. On that day, the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law at home broke out completely.
That day, my mother said to her wife, "divorce yourself." Since you can't have a son, don't drag my son down. You are a commodity that loses money, and you can't even have a son. Go out of the house cleanly, don't even think about the house! " ! Perhaps the bitterness and grievances are too deep. My wife broke out completely that day, had a big fight with her mother-in-law, and then directly filed for divorce.
It is also because of this quarrel that A Liang's mother can't stand it. In front of A Liang's wife, he said directly to A Liang, "Son, let her leave home cleanly before you have any children." It was also her mother's words that made A Liang blush, and then A Liang faltered: "She bought the house." It was A Liang's words that left his mother speechless and frozen in place.
In the end, there is no suspense. His wife insisted on divorce, and A Liang chose to lead an honest and clean life, because the owner of the house was his wife's father, who bought it in full, which had nothing to do with him.
After the divorce, disheartened A Liang moved to a rented house with her mother and stopped working. She thought about things all day, and later made herself less sorry. In order to prove that his wife can't be pregnant, she convinced herself. He secretly went to the hospital for an examination. It turns out that the problem that his wife is not pregnant is all on him. He didn't dare to tell his mother, because he was afraid of stimulating her and kept it in his heart. It is also because of this incident that he is particularly painful and guilty. He was angry, too. He said to his mother, "Mom, you'd better move back to the countryside. Don't hurt me in the future!" " A Liang thought his mother would respond, but she said to him, "Mom is doing it for your own good. She can't have a baby anyway. Just marry another one! " ! It was also his mother's words that made A Liang particularly angry, so he drove his mother away directly.
A Liang said that he especially regretted and blamed his mother, because in his view, all these mistakes were caused by his mother. If his mother lost the city, his marriage would never have such a problem.
Bian Xiao has something to say:
In my opinion, although A Liang already knew regret and knew that he was wrong, he still didn't reflect on himself and didn't understand what the biggest mistake was.
In fact, the biggest murderer who led to the breakdown of A Liang's marriage was not A Liang's mother or A Liang's wife, but A Liang herself. As a man, he has no sense of responsibility and responsibility, and indulges his mother too much, so her mother will hurt his wife unscrupulously. It was because he despised and neglected his wife that she broke out completely and chose to divorce directly.
Psychologists all say: "putting the relationship between husband and wife first is the key to family happiness."
In my opinion, the biggest contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is definitely a man, because a "successful" man will never have an unsolvable mother-in-law problem at home.
Of course, A Liang's mother is also one of the chief culprits for destroying the family. Because she cares too much, doesn't know how to respect people and is aggressive everywhere, she pushes her luck, which is also the reason why her other son rushed back to his hometown.
I often warn people around me to be a mother-in-law. Children and grandchildren have their own blessings. Don't mind your own business when the children are grown up. Because this is definitely a thankless thing, while you are trying to suppress your daughter-in-law, you are actually destroying your son's marriage, which is doomed to be a decision that harms others and does not benefit yourself.
A clever mother-in-law never does these things. They know how to keep their distance from their daughter-in-law and treat each other as guests. Only a foolish mother-in-law would scold her daughter-in-law as a daughter, discipline her, and then make her family restless.
They all say: ten years to see a grandmother, ten years to see a daughter-in-law, mother-in-law should not be too hard on her daughter-in-law, because I want to see her again in the future if I leave a chance to be a man. The way you treat her now is the way she will treat you in the future.