I still remember when I was a child, Lily would look disdainful when she saw bottles and old clothes accumulated by her elders for many years. After many unsuccessful attempts to dissuade her, she made up her mind: Well, when I have my own home, I will never be as pedantic and sloppy as they are!
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Many years later, at the moment of collapse, Lily realized that she still had such a strong yearning and pursuit for the quality of life!
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When she first got married, Lily and her husband bought furniture to decorate her new home because she was young and inexperienced. The couple were startled when the delivery man delivered the furniture to their door. After the sparrow-sized house was crammed into three sofas and tables, the whole space was almost occupied. At that time, it was a world of two people, and the young couple thought it would be okay to make do. If they buy everything, forget it.
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Lily likes shopping. When she sees cute little things, she can't help but buy them in buy buy and keep them at home as treasures. Every time I clean up, Lily is distressed: "This can't be lost, that must be kept. When I have my own house in the future, I can show them all! " Lily's wish is very beautiful. She has her own ideas and plans for everything. She has a dream in her heart: in a sunny garden, she wears a rotating robe, sometimes fiddles with flowers and plants, sometimes sits on the swing, plays with books and lives a comfortable life. And this kind of life, she put it in the future, she thinks all this will be realized in the future, but now is not the best time, because the reality and objective conditions do not allow it. Facing the increasingly dilapidated house, she is reluctant to spend money or throw things. She doesn't think it's worth her trouble to sort it out. Emotional appeal is a luxury and waste in this harsh living environment.
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The wardrobe at home is getting bloated, and Lily finally makes time to prepare for parting. Every time she picks up a dress, "no! No way! This dress is still wearable. I don't have many beautiful clothes. What a pity if it is lost? " "You can't lose that one. I haven't worn it once! " So Lily folded them and stuffed them back into the closet. Lily didn't like this crowded and disorderly life at first, but after a long time, she got used to it.
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Every day when she comes home, Lily's mood is very stable. For her, home is just a place where she can stay and shelter from the wind and rain. And people just have a home, so what do you pay attention to? But deep down in Lily's heart, she always feels vaguely that something seems to be missing. As for what is missing, she can't say.
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Lily didn't know that it was the pursuit of quality of life, and the hidden desire for beauty prompted her to change her living environment. She not only wanted to, but also paid her own practical action. In the first few years of marriage, Lily and her husband had numerous disputes, all about her husband's carelessness and untidiness, which added countless troubles to Lily who loves cleanliness. How many times, Lily just cleaned up the house and her husband left behind. The food scraps she had eaten and the smelly socks she had changed suddenly appeared on the bright table and floor.
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Lily is not a traditional wife and mother. She can't follow her husband like an old lady and wipe his ass without regrets. In order to change Mr. Li's bad habits, Lily struggled with them for many years and persuaded Mr. Li to pay attention to his personal habits with gentle voice, emotion and reason. What's more, he lashed out at himself for being selfish and would never be willful considering the hard work and feelings of others for many years. However, Mr. Wang is a "firm" person. Regardless of the wind and rain, he firmly adhered to his habits and stand and was careless to the end. Finally, Lily gave up. She can't stand running after her husband like a crazy woman every day just to accuse him of being sloppy and causing her much trouble. While giving up, Lily exiled herself. She lowered her posture and pursuit and became the same person as her husband. She feels that only in this way can she get inner peace, and she can also get a harmonious atmosphere at home for an instant and ease the tense relationship with her husband.
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A few years later, the house is getting more and more dilapidated, the space is getting smaller and smaller, there are sundries and dust everywhere, and even the remains of insects, and three pieces of furniture are gradually showing signs of decay. Even so, the pent-up undercurrent in Lily's heart is still surging, and she has been fighting against all kinds of frustrations brought by the skinny reality. Finally, she fled, deeply depressed that she could not change anyone or anything. In countless reasons for making do and waiting, Lily learned to tolerate and compromise. In the wasted years, she was as low as dust and forgot her original beautiful face.
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Whenever there is a need to make a change, Lily can always find a reason to stick to it. She chose to ignore the dusty and boring things at home. Only in this way can she ignore her inner irritability and helplessness. When she learned that the area where her home is located is about to usher in the transformation of the old district, Lily's spirit did it one brace up and she was very excited. After years of waiting, there is finally hope of flowering and bearing fruit, which makes it even more unnecessary to reform: why waste money on reform? When you have a new house, decorate it and make it your dream house!
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One day, as usual, Lily came home from work. Opening the door, she was completely stunned by what she saw. Her familiar home is like a battlefield. Clothes and sundries were scattered in every corner, and food powder was spilled all over the floor. The whole house is dirty and messy, and the air is filled with a strange smell. In an instant, Lily collapsed. Why did things turn out like this? She was very angry and shouted at everyone in the family, even though she knew it was useless. Learn from a bitter experience, and she can't stand such days any longer. After several days of sorting and sorting, Lily threw away everything she loved for many years. When cleaning up, Lily was surprised to find that the clothes she had been reluctant to throw away had been worn for more than ten years. She used to be proud of herself, thinking that she was frugal and had a good temperament, and even old clothes could wear her own flavor. But at that moment, there was a trace of sadness in Lily's heart: even if she worked hard for so many years, she still couldn't change her living environment; I waited for so many years, but I wronged myself, lost my heart and feelings, and became the "vulgar woman" I once disliked the most.
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Lily made a decision. She gritted her teeth to clean up the three giants in the family, bought a suitable small table and sofa again, laid a tablecloth and put flowers on it. Lily is in a very happy mood when she looks at the bright flowers in the living room every day. She enjoyed the feeling. She prefers to stay at home, put on a spinning robe, make a pot of fragrant tea and live quietly. It turns out that what has been lacking at home is not material, but warm taste. It turns out that some good things do not need to wait. If you want to, you should create and achieve yourself first. We can start with the smallest and most inconspicuous things and send the most firm message-I am the master of my life!
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In fact, how many people pin their changes on the future? How many people want others to make changes first? The unhappiness in life turned out to be the prison we built for ourselves. While complaining about the imperfection of life, complaining that others can't support and understand themselves, they are willing to fall and refuse to take the first step of active change. We always thought we were victims, but who was the real perpetrator?
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Many people are afraid to love and open up after being hurt. However, no one can really hurt you, and all the cure lies in whether you are willing to pick up the power and ability of love. Please allow yourself to tell yourself that love is permissible and the ultimate right. Please allow yourself to love and continue to love. It has a process, but it will eventually be remembered!