I have a sister who is one of them. I especially admire her courage. I had the idea of buying a house when I graduated from college. I was worried about how to get off work early, but she was worried about how to make more money.
The differences between people are often reflected in the details. I seem to enjoy it, and she seems to have suffered, but her long-term efforts have been rewarded. It took her three years to save the down payment.
Without informing her parents and family, she went to see the house alone, then bought the house and signed the contract. She participated in the whole process alone, without company. As a friend, I also realized it. I didn't ask, and she didn't say anything afterwards.
So independent, she happened to meet her parents who didn't understand. Her mother was extremely patriarchal and treated her badly since she was a child. Her brother drinks milk, but she can only drink soybean milk. In short, the treatment is poor.
Growing up without love, she developed a strong skill. She didn't discuss with her parents and family about buying a house because she was used to making her own decisions.
But there is no airtight wall in the world, and her mother still knows about her buying a house. If you were a normal parent, you would be overjoyed, but her mother didn't. Instead, he immediately bombed the phone and accused her of spending money indiscriminately. Just use the money to prepare a bride price for her brother.
She was particularly angry at this. Why can't she spend the money she earned? Her brother can only pay the bride price for her wedding. She has no obligation to take his place.
The mother and daughter quarreled endlessly about this, but at this time, she was not what she was when she was young. She no longer endures and gives in, but knows how to fight back and protect herself.
The quarrel was so fierce that her mother threatened to break off the relationship between mother and daughter and asked her to pay a bride price. I was so angry that she hung up at once, but in a short time, she was crying like a crybaby.
These years of forbearance didn't make parents realize their mistakes, but intensified them and pushed her to death.
Only after crying did she make up her mind that such a "vampire" parent should be left alone, but the pain in her heart could not be calmed down.
This phenomenon will appear in many families. Although it may be light on the surface, it has always existed. It's just that Su Like Mingyu in the play is all right. She has no position at home, is not loved by her mother, is squeezed by her brother, and grabs resources for survival.
Although in reality, such a situation is unlikely to happen, it will still happen, but to varying degrees. My former colleague Xiufen is the thin version of Su Mingyu. The reason why she is a thin version is because she can't reach Su Mingyu's level and lives in a villa and drives a luxury car, but she is already the leader around us.
When buying a house, she also bought it privately without consulting her parents, because she knew that if she told her parents, the money would be required to be handed over, either confiscated or given to her younger brother.
She knows her parents too well and is so selfish that she has never felt sorry for her at all. Growing up, her parents' love was missing all the way, and she never did. She is extremely chilling. Sadly, just because of blood relationship, they are tightly tied together.
The more you struggle, the more painful it is. No wonder some people say that happy people are cured by childhood all their lives, and unfortunate people are cured by childhood all their lives.
If we are unfortunate enough to have such parents, it seems that we really have no other way to go except being brave and strong. Some people may say that parents who prefer sons to daughters should wake up from it.
This is no less than a fable, it's just an idiotic dream, and it will never come true. People are dependent, once they are addicted to it, it is impossible to overthrow it and start over, and so are parents who prefer sons to daughters.
Since parents can't go this way, we can only find our way from ourselves. Su Like Mingyu, she became stronger, became the pride of the whole family, and turned the tide with her own efforts.
But in reality, such women are very few, very few, and more are ordinary people, busy with life. Even so, we should work hard to turn the tables and write our own wonderful life.
Maybe we can't get what we want, but at least we have tried and have no regrets. Compared with those "old-fashioned" men, women who have made the world by their own efforts are really amazing, and they deserve a brighter life.