When I see the perfect life, my first thought is that this is a life without suffering.
How good is it to live without pain? Why do some people choose not to give their children a perfect life?
I think most of the opposing views are entangled in this customization issue. To tell the truth, our life is 100% customized, and this need not be discussed. Nobody has the right to choose.
Da Meiling said it very well. We can't choose our parents, our gender, our family and not going to school. ......
There are so many damn things we can't choose. Before we were born, our parents chose to have children.
Isn't this customized? We were born as human beings, and our parents customized us. Where else do we come from in this world?
However, the issue of customization is not what I want to say. Speaking of the brain hole problem itself, I am more concerned that the other party has been saying that they will accompany their children through setbacks. I'm disappointed in your face.
If my parents tell me now that when I was born, they just pressed a button, I could get a perfect life, or if they pressed that button, I wouldn't suffer those hardships and pains when I was growing up, I think I would really resent my parents. Why not press it?
Why?
Because I have only lived for 25 years, and I have experienced too many hardships and setbacks that ordinary people have never experienced. Those hardships are really too painful for me.
Friends who are particularly familiar with me may know that I can tell too many stories. Pick a few big ones. I've been on the operating table five times and I've been blind for a year and a half. Ex-girlfriend committed suicide by jumping off a building because of depression. I saw my best friend hit by a car at 10 meters away. I was less than 2 meters away from him at that time. What other relatives have passed away, been lovelorn and poor? Which one have I not experienced? If my parents are not alive, I may lose the courage to live.
I really fucking hope I can have a perfect life, so perfect that I won't experience sad things for the rest of my life.
I remember drinking with a big brother once. He asked me, "Han Lin, I really envy you. You can forget anything unhappy. How did you do it? "
I didn't say anything. Can I say that I am used to experiencing pain at a young age? What if you haven't forgotten anything? Do you always remember? Suppress yourself?
But just think about it yourself. Too melodramatic.
What is the meaning of frustration and hardship itself?
Is failure and pain! It's not a fucking beautiful word, okay?
But why do we always praise them and praise them?
It is the success after setbacks, the liberation after suffering, and the rainbow after the storm. Those beautiful things are what we want and deserve our praise. What we want in our hearts is success, not suffering itself. Those who say that suffering is meaningful in itself are either talking nonsense or have mental problems.
What significance did the Wenchuan earthquake bring to the survivors? What about the tsunami? What about the fire? What about the flood? These disasters themselves only represent pain. Want to learn disaster prevention knowledge, how about reading a book? How was the lecture? Do you have to experience it yourself?
We praise the mother who saved the child, we praise the teacher who died to protect the students, but we seem to forget that they are dead, and they suffered great pain before they died!
Yes, we found our great personality. The media write articles and students write essays to praise us. But I would rather none of this had happened. Mothers may beat their children, teachers may open remedial classes to collect money, and no one has experienced those disasters and pains.
Tell me more about myself. What did I learn from the five incisions I left on myself? I don't even know, do those who praise setbacks and suffering know?
The death and injury of my ex-girlfriend has been my heart for seven years, and now I sometimes blame myself when I think about it. Hey, is it too expensive to learn to cherish the people you love?
I was blind for a year and a half in high school. I used to get good grades. Finally, the college entrance examination has to go to a junior college. Not everyone is Cai Cong. If I am blind, I will be afraid. I was so desperate that I almost jumped off a building and asked me to learn to cherish the light. Isn't this a bit outrageous?
My friend and I walked on the zebra crossing and didn't run a red light. He was hit by a car 10 meters away, and he was disabled for life. What did he learn? Crossing the road correctly?
I used to drive, but now I dare not drive, because every time I see a car coming in my direction on the highway, I get flustered and instinctively want to drive away.
After so much experience, I admit, yes, I have grown up, I have made progress, and I will be more mature than my peers, but the price of those experiences is that I can't sleep at night. Have you ever been unable to sleep after taking valium?
I don't want to complain, I just want to say, if possible, I don't want to experience these, I don't want to get these "precious" experiences. I just want to live quietly and honestly, I don't want those stories; I don't want to see my friend cry after hearing my story. I hope that every story I tell may not inspire everyone, but at least make people who like me happy.
If I can, I really hope my parents can customize a perfect life for me.