If possible, every girl wants to be unique in her parents' hearts. If I have to realize my parents' good wishes, I hope I am my sister, not my sister.
Who doesn't know the pain of being a sister?
When we were young, we always heard "If you are an elder sister, you should give way to your younger brother" and "If you are an elder sister and he is a younger brother, you should pay more attention to him".
And if one day, when you get used to being an only child for 20 years and come home, your parents are delighted to tell you that you are your sister, what will you do?
When you were planning your future with joy, your parents suddenly disappeared, leaving you a hungry, wet behind the ears brother. What should you do?
Zifeng Zhang's first film My Sister tells such a story.
Whether to continue to pursue an independent life or give up the dream of raising a younger brother is a question before her, which also leaves us with deep thinking.
How to choose between self and affection is an eternal proposition.
How to live up to yourself and not give up your responsibilities to your loved ones?
This kind of problem runs through almost any individual in any era, and of course there are countless stories.
If there is a movie that dares to face up to my sister's problems, tells many truths that my sister can't say, does not force a happy reunion, and does not criticize people to the moral high ground, then it is undoubtedly successful and sharp, and my sister does so.
In real life, my sister is always the one who was sacrificed, and everyone still takes it for granted.
Song Yunping, played by nursery rhymes in "Big Rivers", fully explained the perfect sister image of that era. She gave up the place to study for her brother, gave up the opportunity to continue studying for her husband, and finally died for her family.
She is the Bai Yueguang in many people's hearts, and we feel sorry for it, but many mothers say, "Nothing, that's how our sisters came."
Just like my sister's biggest tear is Zhu Yuanyuan's aunt, she said in a seemingly calm voice, "I am my sister, and I have been since I was born!" "
This sentence is neither light nor heavy, just hitting our tears.
At that moment, my valve couldn't close, and I couldn't help crying out of control.
When you see the role of aunt, you will think of the sacrifices made by their generation along the way and be moved by them.
So is my mother. She gave the opportunity to study to her younger brother and sister, and almost lost the job quota allocated in that year because she wanted to give it to her younger brother and sister.
But with what?
Unlike her aunt's resigned compromise, Zifeng Zhang's sister grew up safely and independently. In the first 18 years of her life, she was an only child.
She has a strong sense of self, with the unique imprint and thoughts of the generation after 00.
Today in the 20th century, she won't do anything that completely sacrifices her future, so she will want to give her younger brother to a suitable adoptive family, sell her parents' house, go to Beijing for postgraduate study and pursue her dream.
In "Origin and Fate", she was injured, so she always wanted to escape and strive for her own happiness.
But all these plans, because of an accident, she "had to" face the problem left by her family-her 4-year-old brother.
When Enron was crushed by his younger brother and life; When people around her took it for granted that she should shoulder the responsibility of her sister, and she couldn't find a place to vent, she found the driver who caused the accident safely and made a soul torture.
In Enron's cognition, these two problems are not only aimed at drivers; I even want to ask my parents who wants a second child without her consent.
It took her 18 years, and finally she got up the courage and saved enough money. When she wanted to realize her dream, she had to face the "mess" left by her parents' unexpected death alone.
Just because she is a sister, or in the world we live in, is this the law of "big sister like mother"?
Last year, the 69-year-old couple stubbornly insisted on having a second child despite the opposition of their 40-year-old daughter and their mother and daughter.
Although they stubbornly insist that "they have a retirement salary and don't need their daughter's help", who has thought about it, in case, in case?
Parents are old, in order to take care of their young brother, there are not a few examples of mother-daughter lawsuits.
Ethics is on the one hand, and freedom of rights is on the other.
There is no absolute right or wrong in the world.
For the first time, I had a film that dared to question, which has always been taken for granted by all my sisters.
For the first time, a movie dared to focus on the proposition of "brother-sister relationship".
This is one of the reasons why I will highly praise my sister.
"My sister", she is herself first, then others.
Is playing and playing safely, menstruation finally let go. She saw herself struggling desperately in Enron, and finally she didn't want to use the same set of thoughts in the past to bind Enron, which was also in trouble.
Therefore, she said that "dolls don't have to be put in the same condom", and she also agreed that Enron can have its own life choices and don't have to repeat the same mistakes. This is aunt's love and understanding for her sister.
Another possibility for menstruation to reconcile with her former self and accept her sister is another theme that the film wants to express.
Even the younger brother, who was not sensible at first, lived with his sister day and night, from the initial opposition to the establishment of feelings, and then to the final reconciliation;
He went from "I am the boss of this family" to understanding his sister's thoughts, and found himself an adoptive family, ready not to drag down his sister's behavior. It is also because he accepted his sister's idea that "my life is not just you".
Enron's persistence and struggle are useful. She refused to accept the established arrangement of society and the fate of her sister, and she shook everyone.
Aunt is because she used to be an ideal sister, and it is very valuable to understand and support her.
The unfairness of not putting pressure on her fate and passing it on to the next generation through several generations to encourage her to live her own life is the most precious point of the film.
The film is called My Sister. It's not just a single angle.
The only daughter in my uncle's eyes is no longer the precious daughter in my parents' eyes.
In the eyes of my aunt, Enron is not the persistent self.
Isn't the mother in Enron's eyes a poor sister who accepts her fate?
Even uncles and aunts are not necessarily defined by each other's roles.
Enron thinks that her parents don't love her because of old ideas, so she stubbornly and untimely wants a younger brother. She envies her daughter who is regarded as a treasure by her uncle and hopes that she can enjoy the feeling of being held in the palm of her hand.
This is actually a girl who has never really felt the companionship and support of her father's love and was stung by her family.
Just like Sean's uncle said in the movie, "Children are debts".
You can choose your friends and lovers, but you can't decide where I come from. Being born into a family was doomed from the moment he was born.
Enron envied my uncle's care for the only child, insisted on the idea of only child, and even said, "I hope my uncle is my father."
Who would have thought that this seemingly useless, fooling around all day, my sister's brother-in-law died in a car accident, he can still play mahjong leisurely, and even the unreliable uncle who replied to the police that "the couple who died were my sister" would stand up at the first time when "my sister" was beaten safely.
Sometimes it is inevitable that Enron's mother sacrificed herself for such a disappointing uncle?
Menstruation sacrificed himself for such a "son preference" father?
My mother and aunt are sisters at home, representing the women of our mother's generation. What my aunt said to Enron is similar to resigning, but it is actually a kind of self-comfort; Including a little hatred for Enron, are the normal performance of parents when they were young.
Family has a profound influence on a person. It seems to be a multiple-choice question, but the answer is here.
If you choose to raise your younger brother safely and give up your studies, won't it be a replica of menstruation in the future?
She is just a little nurse now. She seems to have no future and is laughed at every day.
If she chooses to be loyal to herself and abandon the established family responsibilities of society, then her future may be like her uncle: no burden, no pressure, no old concept of carrying on the family line, and live freely.
It seems that my sister is safe. In fact, the film discusses the situation and self-growth of women from all aspects through the fate of two generations of sisters and different families.
The reconciliation between Enron and his younger brother is precisely the most important crowning touch of the whole movie.
At the beginning of the movie, Enron watched his parents die in a car accident downstairs.
In the face of police inquiries, Enron did not have the panic and anxiety of ordinary girls. Instead, she answered like a stream, even without any expression, as if talking about other people's business.
What makes her so calm and so abnormal?
In fact, it is not her cold blood, but her disguise.
She longs for the love of her parents, just as she expects her doting uncle to be her father; She also knows that such a wish is unrealistic, because my parents did not hesitate and tried their best to give birth to a younger brother.
Therefore, she was hurt by her family and closed her feelings with superficial numbness;
So, from the beginning, her relationship with her brother was hostile.
Before that, my brother was spoiled. In front of his parents, he is always willful and self-centered.
At first, he would throw away the breakfast cooked by his sister.
When my sister yells at her, he spits at her.
My sister also thinks that such a younger brother is a burden to her and an obstacle to her dream. So, she insisted on her choice.
This relationship is very much like brothers and sisters in real life.
The movie Get My Brother Away is similar, but blood relationship is a wonderful thing. Although sometimes you hate ta and don't want it to compete with you in the world, unconsciously, you gradually get used to and accept each other's existence.
The development of brother and sister's affection is a gradual process.
The first climax was that my sister deliberately hid in the bathroom of the subway station and asked her brother to find her. When my brother cried everywhere looking for his sister. Perhaps, for the first time, they realized the importance of each other.
As my sister said, "My world is not just you." But my brother replied, "You are the only one in my world!
At that moment, a corner of my heart was also touched.
One day, you will also find that many things in this world will be different when you are the only one in the eyes of others.
What they really broke the ice was that after his brother was injured, his sister carried him home.
Compared with the previous distance, this physical contact has made a breakthrough in our feelings.
From the details of life, it reflects their emotional progress every time. From the strangeness and rejection of my sister to my brother at the beginning, to the realization of their blood connection, and then to the mutual affection and warmth, their distance is getting closer and closer.
Who would have thought that such a lovely little brother, in his own unique way, warmed his sister's long-buried heart little by little and cured her broken heart.
The younger brother himself, although so young, is actually very good at it. After his parents died, his umbrella suddenly disappeared, and he had to adapt quickly and establish a relationship with such a strange sister.
All his little moves are actually testing and verifying whether his sister likes him or not.
Observation, trying, probing and feedback are actually the process of establishing intimate relationship between two brothers and sisters. Although it didn't go well at first, even a little nervous and stumbling, but fortunately in the end, they found it.
What is my sister's last choice? The film didn't point it out directly, but gave an open ending, and everything was possible.
The story of Sister is bold, the perspective is gentle, the viewpoint is sharp, the emotion is sincere and strong, and the picture and soundtrack are full of beauty and harmony. In addition, Zifeng Zhang, Sean and Zhu Yuanyuan's complex and accurate interpretation can be summarized as: it's so beautiful that it makes people cry.
It is said that the original intention of director Yin Ruoxin and screenwriter You Xiaoying in creating this script is precisely because of the liberalization of the 20 15 second child policy, and many families choose to have a second child when a child is almost 18 years old, which has become a unique social phenomenon. They want to let everyone see through their sister's safety experience that the tearing and collision of family ties in such a family is left to everyone to think about.
The reason why the ending is open is because the audience will choose and tend according to their own experiences and values, and there is no need to force a happy reunion.
Therefore, in "My Sister", it is the sincere expression, non-utilitarian attitude and tightrope balance of the main creators that make the film durable and moving enough.
Most importantly, movies give people hope, hope for the identity of "sister".
More because, in reality, I also face the same situation and confusion as Enron.
I live in southern Fujian, and I believe many people have heard how obsessed I am with having a son here.
When I was an only child, my living conditions were better than those of my classmates who had brothers and sisters around me. I was extremely proud.
But who would have thought that in the first year after I graduated from work, I went home on holiday and suddenly found a 3-year-old boy at home.
And he is my father's secretly adopted brother for many years. He will go to kindergarten and take it home. Just because he returned to his hometown in the countryside, he was always laughed at by those people for having no roots (he only has one daughter and can't be written into the genealogy).
My first reaction at that time was that my parents were almost 60. 15 years later, when they can't take care of themselves, it's time for their children to go to college. Didn't the burden of taking care of my brother fall on me at that time?
What's more, later, because my brother had to study, my parents had to take care of him in their hometown when they should have retired and enjoyed their old age.
Even during my pregnancy and childbirth, they didn't have a chance to care about me. Even when I entered the delivery room, only my father came. On the second day after giving birth, my father hurried home, because it was not a weekend and my brother had to go to school.
The sense of loneliness and loss I felt at that time is beyond words.
And I, in the process of taking care of my children, have figured out many things. Since she is an independent sister, she has her own life. I should respect their choices and learn to reconcile, not resist and be hostile to my father.
Let nature take its course