In China's education, the most successful shaping of human nature is modesty and duty. With these two basic qualities, a child is basically a useful person to society. These two qualities are basically manifested as "three-color education", which requires children to learn to "look at faces, know goods and play a good role."
Look at the face first. Children should learn to see other people's faces. Children who used to eat hundreds of meals are the most promising. Nowadays, most children grow up in disguised social relations, instead of looking at adults' faces, adults look at children's faces.
A child without observation can't be a mature person.
It is necessary to train children to learn how to look at their faces, put them in a strange environment to exercise, and let them see clearly how society treats them, so that once something happens outside, children will know how to deal with it.
Second, know the goods. Children should know where they are, how capable they are and how much they weigh.
You should know exactly how heavy the child is. Don't be half a catty. You should think of yourself as thousands of gold. You used to pay attention to knowing yourself and yourself, and you won every battle. We should let children know their own advantages and disadvantages.
Parents should learn to praise with training and accomplishment, and say more neutral words, such as "You worked hard, you did it …".
Second, play a role, children should play their own roles. Is it feasible for a fifth-grade child to be a boss? Obviously, it is unrealistic, so students should first do a good job in learning, and learning is the main line.
You may be a leader at work or a teacher at school. But in the family, we will play five roles in our life: how to be a boy and a girl, a man and a woman, a couple, a father and a mother, and grandparents. These five roles involve five growth stages of life.
Life has its own role-playing. You must have a good environment simulation from an early age to play a good role.
Our current education either praises children to the sky or criticizes and tortures them in the field every day. Our parents should let their children stand on this earth with their feet on the ground.