I am an experienced person. Let me talk about our gift from 4008 to 10008. The gift of "ten tens" is to let the woman get some money back. 1000 to 4,000 yuan is for clothes, and 20,000 to 60,000 yuan is for furniture, appliances, cars and so on. Then there are "Li Niang clothes" (the money to buy clothes for her mother-in-law) and "red money" around 1000.
Never compare with your neighbors. Depends on the man's family conditions. If it goes too far, it will seriously affect the feelings of both sides.
A few days ago, a friend of mine asked for a 90 thousand wedding gift! ! I can't believe it. Luckily, I got married four years ago.