Even so, the principles to be discussed in marriage still need to be discussed. If you lower the bottom line blindly, you will be ridden by others, and only you will suffer in the end. It is better to define your bottom line from the beginning and not let others trample on it. This is your own interest, so you must bravely fight for it. If you endure again, you will only make others think that you are a soft-footed shrimp, and finally you will lose more benefits.
In fact, getting along with two people is also a process of testing each other's bottom line. Two people test each other's bottom line in daily life and live above it. If they touch something below the bottom line, they will have conflicts and define their bottom line, which is also responsible for family relations.
3.？ Chung Ling and her husband Chen Kun are colleagues in the same company. They are about the same age, they are employed at the same time, they are good partners and often work together. After getting along for a long time, the affection between the two gradually deepened. Zhong Ling was attracted by Chen Kun's gentleness and thoughtfulness, and they came together.
After dating for more than a year, Zhong Ling and Chen Kun got married. Before marriage, they used their savings to buy a second-hand house and decorate it. Zhong Ling is a romantic. She has always dreamed of traveling and getting married. However, because Chen Kun's family is still a traditional family, she can't accept marriage without a wedding reception. So, Zhong Ling and Chen Kun discussed holding a wedding reception in their hometown before traveling to get married.
The wedding day was very lively. Chen Kun's relatives, big and small, came to join us. Zhong Ling was so tired after a busy day that he sent his relatives away. Zhong Ling rested at home for a whole day, booked a plane ticket and spent a long honeymoon with her husband.
Zhong Ling and her husband had a happy honeymoon outside. When they came home with big bags and small bags, they found that there were already people living at home. The new house is full of traces of life, the ground is full of melon and fruit scraps, and the room is crowded with several large snakeskin bags, which are in a mess and have a strong smell.
Seeing her well-dressed wedding room become like this, Zhong Lingqi almost fainted, and there was no one at home. At first, Zhong Ling thought that the intermediary had sold the house to others without telling them, so he went to the intermediary to ask for an explanation. He didn't know until he went to the agency. They didn't know anything about it. Zhong Ling inquired in many ways to know that the intruder who broke into his house turned out to be a rural relative of his mother-in-law.
That's right. Except for two keys at home, only my mother-in-law has them. I gave them to her mother-in-law just to give her a place to rest. I didn't expect my mother-in-law to take her relatives directly from the countryside.
5. Zhong Lingyu talked to her mother-in-law, but her mother-in-law didn't take it seriously and said to her, "What's the matter? It's all our own. The house is empty. What's wrong with being with relatives? " I won't lose a piece of meat. I just watched them come to see me, and I had no place to live, so I gave them the key. They won't live long, they will leave in a few days. ""relatives have come and let them stay in a hotel. That's a new house! Not a hotel! There are many personal things of mine in it! How can you live with others? Without my consent or discussion. " "You didn't live, what's personal. What's wrong with staying? Is it worth getting so angry? "
Zhong Lingqi was speechless. She went home to pack her things, turned to contact the intermediary and sold the house to someone else. She decided to move to another city, away from her mother-in-law, and never associate with anyone in her family again.
There's something at the end:
Some people are very gentle, even if they are wronged, they don't say a word, always thinking that the other party can know their grievances and start over. In fact, this kind of thing will never happen in real life. You are wronged and don't pursue your own interests. When you are touched by the bottom line for the first time, you don't stick to your principles. In the end, not only will the other party not turn over a new leaf, but you will also be more wronged.
There are many such people in life. Their patience and concessions again and again, instead of understanding each other, get more bullying. Therefore, when the car is hard, it is hard, and when it is the Lord, it is the Lord.
The same is true of married life. Marriage is not only about two people, but also about two families. Under this complicated relationship, there will always be some irreconcilable contradictions. At this time, how to deal with it can make them stop, not upgrade, which reflects the cleverness of a person's emotional intelligence. Only by adhering to principles on major issues, learning to be considerate on minor issues and combining hard and soft can we manage our life better.
Just like Zhong Ling in the article, some daughters-in-law may choose forbearance just because of their mother-in-law's face. Not only do I feel uncomfortable, but I also don't let my mother-in-law know that her behavior is wrong. Contradiction is like a seed planted in the heart, which will bear bad consequences one day. It's better to be like Zhong Ling, never let go when she sticks to her principles, so that her mother-in-law can realize her mistakes and get the punishment she deserves, and she won't be bothered by her troubles.