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This book makes an in-depth analysis of psychological capital from four dimensions: self-confidence, optimism, hope and resilience. Through a series of psychological tools, help readers find the most suitable psychological state adjustment method, regain their life beliefs, and then enhance their happiness. In the book, the author shares a large number of typical and representative consulting cases, and explains them in simple terms with psychological principles to help readers find the key to a happy life.
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Slightly extravagant sugar
Master of applied psychology, national second-class psychological counselor, child emotional intelligence trainer, sand table guide, EAP (Employee Assistance Program) helper, member of the expert group specially invited by Qingdao Federation of Trade Unions, and has set up a training institution for children's emotional intelligence, and is good at psychological consultation from the emotional point of view. A signing author on the platforms of Psychology, Zhang Defen Space, Happily, Kindly Reading Club and Ten o'clock Reading, a special contributor to Marriage and Family magazine affiliated to the Central Women's Federation, and a manager of Sugar Psychology Club from the media, he is good at interpreting psychological principles in combination with current hot topics.
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This book is both universal and targeted. Hhhh feels that everyone will have psychological problems mentioned in it more or less, and the solutions provided are quite practical. May everyone get rid of modern life and become colorful adults in the garden of the soul ~
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This book is about the progress and happiness of life. I hope it can become your pillow book, accompany you through all the darkness and reach the other side of happiness.
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This is not chicken soup for the soul, but the professional knowledge of psychology makes us face life happily, accept reality and move forward all the way. There is a passage in the book: There are too many problems in life, but the truth of life is often not what people think. To know how to pull away, to know how to accept, to know how to change, to have a belief, to accept the reality and yearn for a better state! This is what life is like. You can turn around once in a while, but you can't turn around and leave. But from every moment, keep going up, keep moving forward, and start from happiness!
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I seldom read books. My friend recommended me to buy them. After buying it for a few days, my friend asked me why I didn't read it, so I had to start, but I gained a lot. Frankly speaking, this should be the first time I have read them carefully since graduation. One of them said, don't let 10% affect us. I was particularly impressed. I remember a long time ago, a friend of mine, driving out to play, met someone who cut in line on the way. They quarreled a few words. When he went home to send his children to school, he gave them a lecture, criticizing them for being too slow, and instead said that his daughter-in-law was too fond of them. In short, a lot of unhappy things happened next, and then he said that such a life every day is really annoying. In fact, if you think about it carefully, it was because of a little unhappiness on the road that affected his mood, so that a series of things happened later. These have inspired me a lot. The content about happiness and anxiety and whether the constellation is credible are all new to me, so I will watch it again. Douban was written by a friend, and I just wrote it. I can't express it, but this book is good.
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Read "You Have to Believe" and share it with all parents! The wise parents in teacher Tang Tang's book should be children's umbrellas or parachutes, and give them back their independence! I am deeply touched by this. I will always remember the excitement and responsibility of being a mother. How wonderful it is to have a baby. Everyone wants to give him the best in the world, but we forget that although he is young, he is also an independent individual. He has his own ideas and thinking ability, and we can't do all of them. I agree with Mr. Sugar. "Trust makes children grow up; Do not evade, let the children feel at ease; Take advantage of the trend and make children stronger. Highly recommended to everyone! ! !
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Tang Tang's new book "You Have to Believe" covers a wide range. Share it with happy people who are in love. 【 Yi tooth 】 Intimacy is above all relationships, including parent-child relationship. A high-quality love will make us know each other better and love each other more. As Teacher Tang Tang said, there are three magic weapons to keep close relationship: happiness, independence and sense of belonging. Learn to increase happiness, a tight hug, a confession of appropriate interests, wow. Why do you feel your heart beating faster? The feeling of being in love is great!
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Is life imperfect without marriage and children? Is it worthless if you don't get into a key high school or university?
Many times we habitually use violence in the name of love. It's unfilial of you not to get married and have children!
Not being admitted to a key university is a waste of money and time, and you can't find a good job in the future!
So, if you get married and then divorce, is it unfilial? Married, abused and afraid to divorce. Is it filial piety?
Can you find a good job after you graduate from a key university? Now a large number of postdoctoral students have to continue their studies according to this idea. After studying in China, you have to go abroad to study and continue your studies, otherwise you won't find a good job, right?
In the book "You Have to Believe", it is mentioned that violent communication is more of a self-centered expression, regardless of whether it is reasonable or not, and regardless of the other party's thoughts, in the name of love, to bind each other.
In the face of this cross-border affection, we can try this way:
1. Pay attention to your feelings, express your thoughts and positions clearly and gently, so as to establish a sense of border;
2. Conditional acceptance. We can refuse each other's expression of love, but we can't ignore each other's love for us. While expressing our feelings, we can tell the people who love us what we are going to do.
Many times, they are really worried. Like, not getting married? After I left, there was no one to accompany you and nothing to take care of. What should I do?
Understand their worries, tell them what you really think and ease their anxiety.
3. Learn to be self-affirming. Whether you are married or not, whether you can be admitted to a key university or not, you must first learn to love yourself and accept that you are just a person. There must be good places and imperfect places.
Please don't let others violence you in the name of love, even if that person is your parents, please speak your mind firmly and gently.
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Self-discipline is just an act and a tool to realize inner desires. Its value lies in the sense of control, security and happiness behind it.
Quote a self-disciplined life and get what you want.
I prefer another name for self-discipline, one after another. Consciously speaking, people regret their mistakes, but subconsciously speaking, people will make mistakes because of regret. Therefore, smart self-discipline is to plant a beautiful seed for yourself, so that the subconscious can get a beautiful experience from it and finally get what it wants. Regarding intelligence and self-discipline, we can refer to these two suggestions: First, change cognition. The focus of self-discipline is to solve specific things, not to force yourself to be goal-oriented, but to know what you want and then do it, enjoy it and indulge it. Like Xiao Liu, she is guided by managing herself and forcing herself to be self-disciplined, so it is repeated and uncomfortable. When we don't achieve our goals, we need to check what we want to do and our own methods, instead of being busy defining whether we are self-disciplined or lazy. Learn to let go of yourself and regard self-discipline as a coping strategy, not a trait. Second, rational planning. It is better to start with small things and include things you like and are interested in in in your own plan than to make a perfect and strict plan from the beginning. It is better to start with small things that are easy to complete and not difficult, and cultivate the habit of self-discipline step by step. The subconscious mind is very direct, it likes beauty, otherwise it will come out and destroy it, so don't be too rigid in planning.
Quote a self-disciplined life and get what you want.
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