Patients themselves may be accustomed to this state, because in this environment, they can feel a sense of security and self-space. At least in the eyes of patients, this state can make them feel a little peaceful, although this mentality seems a bit wrong.
You said that your patients play games and mobile phones at home every day and have something they are willing to do. Let them say that it is a good thing to enjoy it. In the world of computers and mobile phones, patients will not always indulge in depression. Anyway, compared with that kind of severe depression, it is more reassuring.
Of course, patients can't always indulge in playing mobile phones and computers. Family members should try their best to enlighten patients, chat with patients more often at ordinary times and solve the crux of patients. Nothing can't be solved by communication. Depression is often suppressed.
Maybe patients feel embarrassed to communicate with their families. After all, many small secrets of patients are unwilling to let their families know. At this time, family members can take patients to participate in some group activities and family gatherings, give full play to the strength of relatives and friends, and let patients play and chat with others, which can also play a role in alleviating.
At present, patients always have things they love to do, so let them play first. Just control their time a little, and then gradually reduce the time of playing mobile phones and computers. Don't worry too much about patients having other problems because they are addicted to mobile phones and computers.
If family members' efforts to help patients eliminate depression are ineffective, they can also choose to consult local psychologists on the spot and let doctors enlighten patients with professional psychological knowledge.
I hope I can help you.
People with depression stay at home and play with computers and mobile phones every day. What should the family do?
Usually, the main manifestations of depression we know are: depression, pessimism, inferiority, lack of contact with the outside world, loss of confidence in life, slow response, blocked thinking, feeling that the brain seems to be rusty, and in severe cases, it is impossible to communicate normally.
During depression, patients often pin their spirits on electronic products such as mobile phones and computers. Most of the time, except sleeping, they just daydream and can't control their emotions.
In fact, if people with depression are still willing to touch electronic devices during depression, it means that they are not completely divorced from society and completely closed themselves. At this time, many family members are worried that patients are too addicted to sealing themselves off.
In fact, patients can only feel safe if they are locked in a closed space, which is also a way of self-redemption.
Usually, we should chat with the patient more, have a heart-to-heart talk, give him more care and warmth, establish communication channels, know what he really thinks and is interested in, slowly open his heart and learn to contact the outside world.
Many people think that depression is caused by sitcoms. In fact, it is a kind of emotional disorder, which needs the auxiliary treatment of professional psychologists. People around him should have a deep understanding of his heart, accompany him patiently and prescribe the right medicine.
First of all, I understand the anxiety of my family. In addition to anxiety, I am also worried about the patient's future, feeling embarrassed and even blaming myself.
Therefore, for family members, the first step is to pay more attention to their emotions and feelings. People around you are in a bad state, which will definitely affect people around you. The more this time, the more it is necessary to maintain emotional stability. A friend locked his son's room with an axe because he didn't go to school and communicate with his parents. This is also a way to relieve parents' emotions, and of course it may not achieve the expected effect of parents. Playing computer and mobile phone at home is obviously a loss of confidence in the communication in the real world, so it may be useless to say whether it is good or not. Only by relaxing your emotions and accepting the status quo can you get better gradually. If you are really in a bad mood, go out for a walk more. Don't take this as a failure in life. This may be a turning point in establishing a real relationship.
What family members want to give to patients with depression is acceptance first. Just like a small animal in a deep hole, if you keep calling it at the mouth of the cave, it won't come out. Eager expectations will frighten small animals into deeper holes. Don't even let small animals think you are waiting. On the surface, you can live as usual. Then occasionally say firmly, I'm here, and you can tell me if you want.
Playing mobile phones and computers is actually virtual. If you are eager to be recognized, accepted and understood in the virtual world, the situation is not too bad. Helping the patient to establish in the real world can also gain these confidence, and he can slowly return to the real world. But this kind of trust is a slow process, and you must adjust your emotions in this process. Otherwise, the child has just established a little trust, and this situation may be returned.
To sum up, first of all, relieve your anxiety and irritability and take good care of yourself. Don't focus on helping the patient get better, and don't feel that the patient's situation makes you embarrassed. Don't judge patients. First of all, don't judge yourself. Don't think that education failure cares too much and too little. After all, this is the patient's life, no matter how much you care, you can't live for him.
Then try to create a relaxed environment at home. You don't have to be careful.
Finally, help the patient to build confidence in the real-world relationship, understand the patient's state, be willing to accompany him, and not regard him as a shame.
May everyone be treated gently by the world.
I'm Xu Li, a family psychologist. What's the matter with you? Can you tell me something?
Everyone has psychological self-help instinct, including people with depression. Cell phone addiction means temporary failure of self-help, which is due to poor self-discipline.
People with poor self-discipline are because their self-esteem has not been well cultivated during their growth.
People with depression are carriers of mental illness. Because of their unsatisfactory situation and self-denial, they deeply condemn the outside world, others and society.
People with depression are inactive and lazy, which is also unconscious revenge on others and society.
Being depressed is a good excuse to play mobile phone. Depressed patients who are addicted to mobile phones all day long usually have a hard barrier that outsiders can't break into. If his parents confront him, things will only get worse. Therefore, parents can have the following countermeasures:
This needs to be accompanied by enough patience and love to treat depressed patients with cell phone addiction. But it also needs some wisdom to deal with this situation, and this wisdom is silence.
When waiting for a connecting flight, your companions must not nag, reason or comfort. Don't encourage it, either. It seems fake. However, you can have a normal conversation and ask questions. When the other person relaxes and his heart begins to soften, you can try to communicate with your heart.
Make better friends with him and chat with him later. You can slowly guide him to do some other activities, such as reading, going out for outdoor activities, such as going to the movies and taking a walk.
If things can develop to this point, depression is likely to get better slowly. Quitting cell phone addiction is no longer a problem.
In short, in the face of children addicted to the internet, parents can only offer patience and love. In addition, what is needed is great wisdom.
It is not a day or two for children to enter this embarrassing situation, so it is not a day or two to deal with this situation and solve the problem.
But as long as parents have confidence and action, I believe that children will come out one day and everyone will be happy.
Depressed patients play computer and mobile phone at home every day, but they can't complete their normal life and lose their social function, which is precisely the confusion caused by depression. Depressed patients tend to form morbid dependence on alcohol, internet, drugs or other bad hobbies to alleviate or alleviate the pain caused by symptoms. In addition, he tasted the sweetness in these dependence processes and gained successful experience. Therefore, it is difficult to get rid of dependence.
People with depression are particularly sensitive and fragile, their brains are very excited and their thinking is out of control. Moreover, these thoughts are all past injuries and self-denial, and they are also an evaluation of future despair. Negative thoughts are intertwined, and even I feel that living is meaningless and very lost. Individuals are very painful, but they can't control these thoughts artificially. If a person's brain is not rested, he will be very tired, physically and mentally exhausted and exhausted. When he is playing the Internet, his attention is shifted to the contents of the computer and mobile phone, but his brain can calm down and get a rest, and he feels much more relaxed. Without getting rid of depression, it seems that these dependent patients can only drag out an ignoble existence like this. In fact, he is extremely reluctant psychologically and can't accept himself!
Family members should first understand the pathology of depression and the harm it brings to patients. Give understanding and don't criticize and accuse too much. Depression is a disease. In fact, he has many beautiful ideas and wishes in his heart, but he just can't put them into action. Psychologically, I don't want to be abandoned like this, and I don't recognize my current situation. But under the torture of disease, this is a helpless choice. Like a man with a broken leg. He wants to walk on crutches, but you want him to run up the hill. Can he do it? It's just that depression is a psychological problem On the surface, he seems to be a normal person, which will make people around him mistakenly think that he is melodramatic and decadent. So the patient's strange behavior is unacceptable to his family, and sometimes his expression is normal. Yes, he is also desperately supporting himself to perform better.
It's simple to say, but it's quite difficult to implement, and the symptoms will make patients behave repeatedly. Patients' families should be extremely patient and don't be anxious because patients rely on the internet. They are always arguing and blaming patients. Bad mood is contagious. If you are in an unstable environment, it will only aggravate the symptoms of patients.
According to your description, it can be inferred that this is a moderate depression, which should last for more than two months, and there have been obvious insomnia symptoms, accompanied by loss of appetite, emotional deterioration and other manifestations. At the same time, I can feel that family members don't pay enough attention to it, or they have the illusion of waiting for it to heal itself, or they are helpless, helpless and have no solution. But in any case, solving problems is the only correct way of thinking, and no reason, including self-consolation, is irresponsible to family and yourself.
As we all know, depression has become the second biggest killer after malignant tumor, and people don't know enough about it because: malignant tumor can lead to death quickly and the cure rate is very low; In addition to people's shallow understanding of depression, this mental illness can not directly deprive people of their lives, even if someone commits suicide because of depression, it is indirect. However, depression deprives people of their spiritual life, which may lead to their mental death. In fact, the "living dead" is even more terrible, because people who suffer from depression, in addition to tragic mental death, will endanger everyone around them in various forms.
What happened to you is definitely not a case. Although the manifestations of depression patients are different, their essential attributes are the same, that is, they become more and more rigid in physical and mental health, which damages the nervous system and eventually leads to schizophrenia and extreme behavior. As far as you are concerned, the patient has entered a stable addiction state, that is, the way of thinking and methods have entered a simple and narrow channel, cognitive ability has begun to decline sharply, and the outside world has gradually disappeared in his consciousness. Based on this situation analysis, my solution is:
1, first go to a regular hospital for physical examination, check whether there is any disease in your body, and then listen to the treatment advice given by the hospital.
2, give him a comprehensive psychological investigation, find out the root cause of depression, and then make targeted solutions and give him systematic psychotherapy.
3. The difficulty prediction is that at this level, it is far more difficult for patients to cooperate with the examination and receive treatment than to cure themselves. The solution is: according to the content form they are afraid of, family members can combine soft and hard according to their own specific conditions, as long as they accept it first and then cooperate with psychological intervention, the situation will soon improve.
It's not terrible to have problems. The terrible thing is that there is no solution and ability, or you have not faced the solution. Although mental illness is very serious, as long as the corresponding solution is found, the cure is not a problem.
1, drug problem
If the patient stops taking the medicine and is autistic, it will be easy. Family members must remember to let patients take medicine on time to correct autism. If the family members can't manage during the medication, it is recommended to go to a psychological hospital for further rehabilitation, so that patients can control their behavior independently.
2. Communication problems
Don't family members communicate with patients much? This is a deviation in communication between patients and their families. More behaviors, including negative emotions, self-esteem problems, physical laziness, growing troubles, etc. Being ignored by the guardian leads to the patient's psychological needs being ignored, and the patient goes his own way and becomes morbid.
3. Lack of self
Sometimes patients don't know what kind of person they are, so they can't find themselves. For self-reconstruction, it is a long road. Family members can remind patients from time to time, but not too much. The purpose of doing this is to let the patient's subconscious know more about themselves, find themselves, know themselves, be true to themselves, and finally embark on a healthy road.
4. Empathy
What is the patient thinking? Does he know his misconduct? What we need to do now is to analyze the reasons clearly. It is most important to understand the reason. For family members, it is to think about this question from another angle, standing in the other party's position: why is the patient like this? If family members also blindly watch mobile phones, you must have infected each other. After finding the reason, the family members should be themselves first, and then manage the patients.
5. Personality disorder
Selfishness and self-centeredness are personality problems. It is a good choice to encourage patients to go out more, exercise more, make more friends and participate in social activities. Don't just look at the patient's consent, look at his action in practice. What patients need to do is to find their own value and determine what kind of person they are. You can know yourself correctly, get out of the misunderstanding, put aside the original shackles and bad habits, live a normal life and realize your own meaning in life. This is the ultimate goal.
In fact, if people with depression are willing to watch mobile phones and play computer games. It shows that he has not completely divorced from society, and he is still on the edge of society.
If the family members are worried that he is too addicted at this time and shield himself, you can try.
1. Play some soft background music. Take music as the medium, slowly change the music and mobilize his vitality. For example, you can occasionally give some African music or some harmony.
2. Give him some small tasks. Depressed patients can be given some small tasks that he must complete, guided by his family members, and maintain his basic communication with others.
Try to arrange an outdoor activity. For example, walking in the sun every day 10 minutes. As long as it is within his physical strength, of course, the longer the better. This keeps him in touch with society.
The companionship of family members is the gentlest medicine, but in the company, family members should also maintain their own stable emotions, try their best to influence patients with depression with their positive emotions, and be patient.
Patients with depression can also seek psychological counseling while taking medicine. It is also possible to achieve good results.
I hope that all patients with depression will get out of depression as soon as possible!
-With you, always with you.
Being interested in computers and mobile phones shows that his depression is not particularly serious. He stays at home all day playing with mobile phones and computers, which is not only a problem of depression, but also a symptom of addiction to mobile phones and computers. His staying at home shows that he has developed social phobia.
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I just saw a message on the Internet. There is a 33-year-old man who didn't find a job after graduating from college. 10 He played games at home all day. He didn't leave the front door without leaving the second door. When he goes to the toilet, he will sneak away and come back like a thief. His parents are in their early sixties, and there is nothing he can do to watch him be a neet at home.
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This case is strikingly similar to the subject's question. The subject is stronger than the parents in the case, at least aware that his relatives have depression and actively seek solutions. In the case, parents let their children go, not realizing that their children are already morbid, and let them miss a good time of ten years!
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For this situation of playing computer at home, the biggest problem is that communication between children and parents cannot be established. As long as communication is established, it is possible to change.
There is only one best way, patience+love. First of all, we should face up to the status quo, don't have a resentful eye on the child's current "decadence", and don't take a rude way of beating and cursing. First of all, we should respect the child, take a sympathetic and loving attitude towards him and care about him. For example, if you tell him that you understand his current situation, you know that he is also very uncomfortable and painful. As a relative, you are willing to tide over the difficulties with him. You tell him that moderate use of mobile phones and computers can really alleviate your inner anxiety, but excessive use can only be counterproductive and is a kind of destruction to his body and mind!
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After establishing communication through patience and love, you take him to run, travel, go out to watch movies, eat, get out of his closed world, and help him to open his heart and untie it. When his anxiety is relaxed, he is solving his inner problems.
What is the root of anxiety? Is it academic performance, or lovers breaking up, or employment pressure, etc. Understand what is his inner trauma? Then give targeted relief.
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The way to get rid of it can be desensitization therapy. If you are afraid of heights, take him to a tall building. Tell him that if his academic performance is poor, others who are much lower than him will be happy! Lower your expectations. The lover broke up and told him not to give up the whole forest for a leaf. There is pressure on employment. Tell him that the society is full of unemployment or unemployment. Give yourself time and space, and there is always a chance to find a more suitable job. Desensitization therapy is not to avoid difficulties, let him adapt gradually because of difficulties and fears, and then stop worrying, then the melancholy mood will be alleviated and the symptoms of depression will be alleviated. Of course, if the symptoms are serious, you have to take medicine with it, and the effect is better!
I don't think people who play computer and mobile phone at home every day are depressed. I definitely say that this is a typical "plaything"!
Depression, through what pressure, blow or knot, makes him feel that the world is cold, he is unable to treat everything around him, he has no enthusiasm for anything, everything he sees is negative, negative, he tries his best to give himself a blow, closes himself up, doesn't like to contact other people, and seriously feels that he can't be enthusiastic at all, has no hope for life, or chooses to commit suicide. This process is also contradictory, and everyone should save themselves. There will also be some people who rely on self-discipline to find their own problems, force themselves out, and slowly change their mentality, thus returning to normal.
People who are interested in playing mobile phones and computers have no self-discipline, no self-control ability, are addicted to playing and are unwilling to do other things. This kind of willfulness is used by family members, who are not enterprising, have no goal in life, or don't have to consider other things except playing. The orientation of human nature is easy and greedy, which drives the family into the rhythm of depression.
There is such a person at home. I suggest that if his family thinks he has psychological problems, he should take him to see a doctor as soon as possible, or talk to his recognized friends, telling him that there are many important things to do in life besides playing, and making him realize that this will definitely not work.
Then his family took him out of his present environment, helped him make plans, spent a lot of time doing things, and gradually changed this situation that he had no other tasks except playing computer and telephone. In order to encourage him to change, he must help him carry out the plan. Generally, such people love to go to extremes, don't listen to other people's opinions or suggestions, and need patient guidance and comfort (I don't know what age group the subject is talking about here).
What family members need to do is to lead him out of the mystery. They can consult an experienced person, such as a psychologist, to master his thoughts. A person who is tired of playing with things, paranoid and abnormal. They act according to their own preferences and are selfish. The family should find the right way to help him. They must not let themselves drift and be helpless. Then they have to watch him go further and further.