Gong Beibei and Liu bought the T-room recommended by Fang. At that time, all the needs were met.
Dabao has to go to school, and the house happens to be the school district. It is close to the school and has convenient transportation. There is also a hospital nearby, where the elderly provide for the elderly and the children go to school. Meet the needs of the couple to go to work.
However, many problems were buried at that time.
When five people live in a bedroom, the old man has been living in the living room. Gong Beibei has to work overtime and can only sit on the toilet and type, with underwear hanging on his head.
It's really bleak.
Looking at the house has been dissatisfied, the couple want to say a few words of confidence, that is, let the old man take Dabao upstairs and the two sit in the car.
At that time, I thought that as long as they bought a two-bedroom apartment, they could still have a space to work overtime independently, and the problem would be solved.
Tianqiao room has only two bedrooms. Grandpa and Dabao share a room, while Grandma shares a room with Gong Beibei and Bauer, which is convenient for taking care of Gong Beibei in the next month. Liu lives in the attic. Although there are no windows downstairs, the one in the attic can breathe and see the starry sky.
However, you will find that Gong Beibei actually lives with her parents-in-law and children, and Liu can completely stay out of this family.
It's hard to go to work. After work, you can sleep in an independent space and wake up in the attic to look at the stars.
Can two children, parents-in-law and daughter-in-law, really be happy?
02
If there were no children, there might not be so much concern between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
However, Dabao is going to school and Bauer has just been born. How can grandparents' parenting methods be integrated with Gong Beibei? In a few words, the sadness of the old man and the helplessness of the daughter-in-law will become a barrier between each other.
After Bauer was born, the economic pressure became more and more serious. In order to earn more money, Gong Beibei had no choice but to resign from public hospitals and move to private hospitals.
But my in-laws can't understand, and they always feel that private hospitals are not guaranteed. Moreover, Gong Beibei is busier, and the task of bringing children to the two old people is heavier.
Complaining, complaining, finally becoming out of place.
I graduated with a doctor's degree, and I worked so hard just to make my life more comfortable. Why should I stay poor? Why is there always a group of people at home? Why can't I live according to my own ideas?
Gong Beibei was exhausted and said that she didn't want to live with her in-laws. She wants to sell the house on the runway and buy a house to live separately.
Looking at the house again, after reading it, Liu discovered that there were no parents in the planning of the new house.
Liu was on fire at that time. The old man worked hard all his life. We live well together, don't we? Why do you want to drive the old man away? That's a real pity.
Liu refused to change Gong Beibei's explanation.
Liu said to him, isn't that how everyone lives? Why not? Gong Beibei said that even if all women live like this, I don't want to. If you refuse to live separately, then we will divorce.
Gong Beibei is not a bad person, she just wants her own independent living space. Liu was kidnapped and lost face. He always felt that filial piety was obedience. She is alive and well, separated from her parents halfway and unable to talk to them.
However, in the end, Liu agreed to the request.
Gong Beibei is a professional woman. She can afford a house and a child. The money she earns is her confidence.
03
Marriage is the common life of husband and wife. However, too many families eventually became daughters-in-law and in-laws, but their husbands disappeared.
Let the daughter-in-law take care of her in-laws, and her husband can naturally enjoy life with peace of mind. It is not easy for them to be filial to their parents all their lives.
In-laws help with children, which seems to be a welfare for husbands to give to their daughters-in-law. Look, you have someone to take care of your children.
If both parties are partners, this person will have nothing.
However, if you fall in love with someone, can you fall in love with his parents directly and their lifestyle by the way? On the contrary, can parents love their sons and accept their daughter-in-law's three views with open arms?
It is actually a very dangerous thing for men to leave it alone.
In Double-sided Tape, Li Yaping is busy with work and often can't come home on time, but he insists that his wife Hu Lijuan live with her in-laws.
My mother-in-law thinks you don't like stewed sauerkraut with potatoes, so I changed stewed cabbage with potatoes and put vermicelli. Why are you not satisfied? I don't care that you can't work, but you must study. We are in the kitchen together, and I can teach you to work together and talk together. Isn't that great?
Hu Lijuan saw his sofa covered with rags by his in-laws, and the whole room almost became a slum. I can't change it, so I will hide.
Hu Lijuan got a fitness card for three months, expecting her in-laws to go home in three months.
However, her mother-in-law thinks she spends money indiscriminately. If you go home and do some work, you won't exercise, and you still need to spend that money.
Later, when she had a child, her mother-in-law complained to Hu Lijuan that her mother was "not good" when she was tutoring her children all day. Hu Lijuan thinks this is the final blow. What will the child think of this mother when he grows up? How to bridge the gap between mother and son?
However, Li Yaping thinks that he is still a child, and he will forget what he knows in a few days. Besides, you are very bad.
There are me, my mother and my son in this family. It doesn't matter whether you are there or not.
Finally, two people got into a fight, and Li Yaping's prototype even strangled his daughter-in-law.
04
Or, there is another situation where the daughter-in-law is filial and gets along with her in-laws.
Daughter-in-law takes good care of the elderly and children, but what can she do?
Isn't that what Mrs. Naoto Kan is like? She lives with her in-laws and takes care of four children by herself. My mother-in-law just finished surgery three months ago, and my daughter-in-law is the filial one before bed.
But this family doesn't need men to worry about anything, and the rear is stable. When he makes money, he is very powerful.
Wen Tao, Naoto Kan, spent the rest of his energy on the waves outside. Have sex, and then pay by credit card.
Why? Mrs. Kan is like a free nanny, taking care of the old and the young. Finally, she had to look up to the disguise of Kan Wen Tao's successful man and live as an invisible man and the background board of Kan Wen Tao.
Therefore, when we treat our parents-in-law or parents-in-law, it is because of our other half, because we are in love with ta, so we are willing to be filial to ta's parents.
However, we are not here to replace the biological child. Ta is the bridge and link between us and that strange family. Ta should not be absent, let alone put the blame on his partner.
Whether two generations can live together really depends on each other's wishes. If everyone feels comfortable and happy, that is of course the best.
If not, it is the best choice to separate, live your own life and be yourself.
Respect, filial piety, marriage and love should not be kidnapped.