The Crimean war involving many countries was also triggered by a small incident. There is a shrine in the holy tomb in Jerusalem. At that time, Turkey claimed to belong to its own Christian church and locked it in a box without authorization. Unexpectedly, this behavior of Turkey angered the Greek people. The Greek people asked Turkey to hand over the key to the box, but Turkey refused to hand it over. So, the two sides launched a battle. Later, France, the representative of the Latin church, and Russia, the protectorate of Greece, joined in, and the problem became more and more complicated. Russia ordered Turkey to compensate the Greek Church, but Turkey refused to implement it. Since Britain has always been a defender of Turkey, there is no reason not to join the Turkish side and fight back against France and Russia together. In this way, the dispute caused by a key has intensified, and finally, it has caused huge casualties and property losses.
A few glasses of wine overthrew a powerful dynasty and rewritten the history of France. At that time, the Duke of Orleans, heir to the French throne, had a high prestige. One day, he went to a party with his friends. On the wine table, the Duke of Orleans was in high spirits, and his friends advised him to drink more. After the banquet, he called a carriage to leave. However, just as he stepped on the carriage, the horse suddenly got a little frightened, suddenly raised its front hoof and buckled him upside down on the sidewalk, unconscious. If it weren't for those drinks, he might have grabbed the railing of the carriage in a hurry and not been thrown out, or even if he was thrown out, he wouldn't faint and might wake up. However, he never woke up. It was these wines that made him lose the title of heir to the throne, exiled his family to a foreign land and confiscated all the huge property of the family.
About half a century ago, a messenger sent a letter to the proprietress of a country inn. The proprietress took the letter, read it carefully and returned it to the courier intact, saying that she could not afford the expensive postage of two shillings. At this moment, a guest happened to come by the inn, heard the boss's words and insisted on paying the postage for her, but the boss refused. After the messenger left, the proprietress told the guests the truth. It turned out that there was nothing in that letter at all. It was agreed by the proprietress and her brother long ago. As long as they make some special marks on the envelope when writing letters, they will understand that the other party is doing well, which not only saves expensive postage, but also makes them worry. After listening to the whole story, the guest immediately made an important decision-reforming the postal system and reducing postage. In fact, this guest is rowland hill, a famous congressman at that time. A little thing can save thousands of poor people in Britain from lovesickness, and its power cannot be ignored!
Speaking of joining the army, General Grant always said meaningfully that he would like to thank his mother for letting him borrow butter. He said that if his mother hadn't asked him to borrow butter from his neighbor's house that day, he wouldn't have learned halfway that the West Point Military Academy was enrolling students, he wouldn't have applied for a place in the West Point Military Academy halfway, he wouldn't have the opportunity to receive formal military education, and he wouldn't have the opportunity to show his talents in the national crisis. Of course, he has more presidential posts today.
Many important discoveries in the world come from a small matter. For example, the ruins of the ancient city of Herculaneum were discovered by accident by a miner while digging a well. Madeira is now in a wrong sailing adventure.
Many unexpected little things will happen to human beings. A 10-year-old boy in Chicago accidentally cut his finger while peeling an apple, and he died of tetanus a few days later. In Los Angeles, a man jumped out of bed and just stepped on a nail, which penetrated his foot. 10 days later, the man died prematurely because of ineffective treatment.
One of the diseases that human beings can't overcome so far is blood poisoning, but the ways of infection with the virus seem to be very different. When a person is scratched by the sharp edge of the paper when folding, the toxin takes advantage of this small wound and makes people stop breathing quickly; A totally clean man once accidentally cut off the tender meat inside his nails while cutting them, and he died in anger a week later.
A gentleman hurried to work against the wind. Because time was tight, he didn't care about a small dust that fell in his eyes. A few days later, when he felt sick and went to see the doctor, he realized that it was late. His whole face is swollen, and the toxin has broken out. Three days later, he died. There is a Frenchman who will be 50 years old in a few days. A wisp of white hair on his forehead is particularly conspicuous, which makes his fiancee, who is not yet 30 years old, feel ugly. So, in order to please his fiancee, the French man pulled out this strand of white hair. However, he noticed that his scalp was a little red and swollen, which seemed to show signs of spreading. So, he went to the hospital and asked a dermatologist, and the answer made him very scared. He was told that his life was dying. Later, although many methods were tried, they failed to save their lives. In order to satisfy her son's last wish, the British princess Alice kissed him with diphtheria. I don't want to, but it was this last kiss that cost her life.
Forgetting to add a horizontal line to the letter "T" or not adding a dot to the letter "I" because of carelessness may cost you a lot of money or miss the opportunity to make a fortune.
130 houses in Namis village, Hungary were destroyed by a little boy playing with matches, and all the men, women and children in the village had to beg in the street to survive the immediate crisis.
"The terrible thing about small mistakes is that they will not stay at the original level all the time, and small mistakes often bring great disasters."
If the watch of the conductor or engineer is two minutes slow for some reason, then two express trains full of passengers may collide violently. Such a small negligence may create terrible news that shocked the whole world. How many happy families will suffer from the loss of their loved ones, how many children will lose their parents, and how many happy people will live in depression and loneliness. Either don't do it or do the best.
A person should have such an attitude when doing what he wants: either don't do it or do it best.
The expectation of success comes from four words-"try your best", which is the root of the desire for success. You may have heard these four words or used them countless times. What's wrong with cycling for an outing or taking a leisurely walk in the park? Why can't you do something in life and you don't have to "try your best"? The wrong idea of "doing your best" will prevent you from trying new activities and appreciating the activities you are currently engaged in.
There is a high school student named Luan, 18 years old. Her mind is full of ideas about wanting to succeed. She is a standard top student, as she has been since she entered school. She spends a lot of time studying hard and doing homework every day, and has no time to live the life she wants. She is simply a computer that stores books and knowledge. Luan is ashamed to contact with boys. He has never held hands with a boy, let alone dated him. She has developed the habit of neurotic convulsions. Whenever she talks about her personality, her face twitches. Luan was bent on being a successful student, so he neglected the all-round development of life.
Later, she found a consultant and asked her what is more important in life, "Is it your knowledge or your feelings?" -she doesn't know. Although she is an excellent top student, she is not calm and unhappy. After asking the counselor for help several times, she began to pay attention to her feelings. She learns new ways of thinking with the tenacious spirit of studying courses. A year later, Luan finally had a gratifying big change: she got a 3 in the English exam for the first year of college, and her mother was very worried. So I found a consultant, and the expert told her mother happily that this was a good thing, which just showed that her daughter began to take care of her in other aspects, indicating that she began to develop in an all-round way; Mothers should celebrate for her.
Not pursuing perfection, Winston Churchill once said a famous saying:
"Only perfection is the best."
This sentence shows that the mentality of always wanting to succeed will make you fall into an inertia.
Yes, the pursuit of perfection means doing everything well. On the surface, this is indeed a good thing, but it will paralyze your life. In daily life, you can really find what you really want to do and want to do it desperately. But in most cases, trying to do well, or just doing well, is an obstacle to your work. Don't let perfectionism stop you from taking part in pleasant activities, but just become a bystander. You can try to change "try your best" to "work hard".
To some extent, perfectionism means inertia. We often hear people say that I will either not do it or do the best. But imagine, if you do nothing, how can you do it best? If you always set some perfect standards for yourself, then you will not try anything, and you will not achieve much, because the concept of perfection does not apply to every ordinary person, and it is impossible for each of us to make everything perfect. Therefore, if you are already a parent, don't ask your child to do his best in any way, because such a request will make your child mentally paralyzed and resentful. Instead, you can talk to your children about what they seem to like best and encourage them to do these efforts (instead of "doing their best"). As for other activities, "doing" is more important than "doing the best"
You can teach children to try many things, but you don't necessarily ask them to do their best. For example, you can teach children to play volleyball instead of letting them dance and stand by and say "I can't". Of course, you don't necessarily want your children to win the volleyball championship. As long as children like it, they should be encouraged to ski, sing and draw. Dance, etc. Instead of not letting them do something because they may not do it well. It is necessary to cultivate children's sense of competition, but don't let them compete endlessly and try to do everything best. On the contrary, you should cultivate children's self-esteem, pride and interest in those aspects that children like and value.
Compared with adults, children are more susceptible to external influences, and they often equate their self-worth with their own success or failure. So they will avoid activities that they can't or can't do well. More dangerously, they may have a sense of inferiority, seek approval and feel guilty, all of which are personality misunderstandings caused by self-abandonment.
Many people always equate their own value with the success or failure of their careers, but few people feel that they are really valuable. Take Thomas Edison, the greatest inventor, for example. If he measures his self-worth by the success or failure of a job, he will give up after the first experiment fails, declare himself a failed inventor and stop his invention plan that others regard as crazy. However, he did not give up. As the saying goes, failure is the mother of success, and failure can inspire people to work hard and explore. If we find a way to succeed from failure, or learn some lessons from the experience of failure, it is also a success.
Countless facts show that we can learn nothing without failure; However, in real life, people often only appreciate success and criticize failure. We have learned to take success as the only acceptable measure, and we often avoid activities that may fail. Therefore, one of the main reasons for fear of the unknown is fear of failure. People usually don't do anything they are not sure of success. In this way, fear of failure means both fear of the unknown and fear of others' unfavorable views on themselves because they have not tried their best.
If you have the idea of failure in your mind, I give you this advice, and expel it quickly, because the idea of failure will inevitably lead to failure!
Now let me tell some people's success stories to prove this philosophy, and let us refer to the techniques and methods they have used. If you can think and study these cases carefully and make your thoughts as positive as these people, then you can overcome the difficulties that seem destined to lead to failure.
First of all, I hope you don't become a "layman" in the next example.
In a company, there is a man nicknamed "a word layman". Whenever the company makes a decision, this one-word layman is bound to speak loudly and oppose those specious arguments. This is his bad habit, and it is also the reason why he got the nickname "one-word layman". But once, in an accidental experience, he received a deep education, which changed his previous mentality and style. Here's the thing:
Once, the company faced an important business decision-making problem. This problem is related to an extremely successful hope, but it requires considerable funds and the risk is close to despair. The operators of the company are confused and hesitant about this. When discussing this resolution, a layman still started with his usual style, posing as a scholar, and said, "Let's calm down for a while and consider the possible difficulties first!"
At this time, a man who has always been taciturn, but is deeply welcomed and respected by his colleagues because of his outstanding talents, achievements and indomitable personality, spoke in a firm tone.
"Why do you always emphasize obstacles? Difficult? And use it instead of the possibility of success? " He asked.
"Because ..." A layman replied, "We should prepare for the worst and consider practical problems. Admittedly, there are some obstacles in this plan; What attitude do you have to face these obstacles? "
The man replied without hesitation, "What do you mean, what attitude should we take to deal with these problems?" Needless to say, of course, we should completely eliminate them and let them disappear from reality. "
In a word, he retorted, "I'm afraid it's easier said than done!" " It's not as simple as you say! You just said you wanted to get rid of them and forget them. Is there any special method? I don't think we have this ability except you. "The man calmly continued to answer questions, smiling from time to time.
"I can tell you this-I have never seen efforts to overcome obstacles with full faith and courage, and there are insurmountable obstacles. If you really want to know how to do it, I can show it to you now ... "He said.
Then he took out his wallet from his pocket. In the transparent interlayer, there is a card with words written on it. He pushed his wallet to the edge of the table at the other end of the table and said to a layman, "Please read it! That's my method, which I got from my personal experience in life. "
A layman took out his wallet and read it silently with a puzzled and curious expression.
"Please read it out loud and speak widely.
A layman slowly read the following words in a dubious voice:
"Devout faith has given me incomparable strength, and I can do anything."
The man took back his wallet and put it in his pocket. At the same time, he said, "I have experienced a long time and encountered quite a few difficulties. That sentence is really powerful. " With it, any obstacle can be eliminated. "He said in a positive tone.
Everyone present understood what he meant, his positive attitude, and the fact that he dared to overcome difficulties and attracted much attention made everyone believe what he said.
So no one says anything negative anymore. Later, this sentence also played a role in them. They accepted this sentence and put it into practice. Although there are many difficulties and dangers in reality, they have succeeded in achieving their expected goals.
Generally speaking, the method used by this person is based on the truth of "Don't be afraid of obstacles". Therefore, when facing an obstacle, the first thing to do is to stand up and resist it! Don't complain about it, let alone be suppressed by it. Once you face the difficulties and overcome the obstacles, you will find that it is only half your strength!