How to vent negative emotions?

There is a popular song that says "life is like a hemp ball", which makes sense. While people in modern society fully enjoy the benefits brought by the progress of the times, they are also deeply troubled by the troubles inherent in life and the confusion brought about by the changes of the times. Illness, loss of pursuit, emotional injury, pressure of speeding up the pace of work and life, etc. Negative emotions such as depression, anger, sadness and resentment often mercilessly gnaw at people's hearts and hinder people's normal study, life and work. Since the mind can't be a calm lake forever, what is needed is the correct guidance and catharsis when the turbid waves surge. speak In the journey of life, there will always be a few like-minded friends. When unhappy things happen, we will get together, have a cup of tea, coffee and light wine in luxury, talk about the facts, listen to friends' opinions, re-examine the facts with a strict attitude of obeying the law and being lenient with others, distinguish right from wrong, or avoid talking about unpleasant events and chat with each other in the vast sky. An official American research report said, "A person can live for 20 years if he has a circle of friends". Whether it is really so is still inconclusive, but it shows that friends are very important to everyone's life. In modern social life, there are by no means a few similar "small groups". People rely on it to get rid of the heavy pressure of the mind and dispel bad emotions. A dozen factory directors and managers in a city are all "intellectuals" who once jumped the queue and settled in the countryside. Now they are shouldering the burden of enterprises. They are linked by the same life experience and realistic mission. At first, they often get together temporarily to form a spontaneous "salon of old factory director and old manager". Their self-feeling is: "Every time they are together, they will recall the past and cherish the past. Young people have an advantage in this respect. Make an appointment with your sweetheart and whisper to each other in the evening, which not only relieves boredom, but also enhances mutual understanding. Love is probably an unparalleled medicine for young people to overcome bad emotions. Sing and shout to vent your troubles. Singing has always been an effective means to relieve tension and anger. There is a folk saying that "singing in the cemetery at night-give yourself courage" is the best annotation that singing can relieve tension; Faced with the threat of bankruptcy, failure and disappointment, Wang Qiming sang in Peking Man in new york: "The sun is the reddest ..." While driving, he sought temporary relaxation; When in a bad mood in modern life, rude people can shout a few incongruous words "Sister, go forward boldly" in the street, close the door delicately at home, turn on the stereo and hum a few words: "Good people are safe all their lives! "There is a better place to go: Karaoke Hall, where you can sing" What is this pain in the storm? Dry your tears, don't ask, at least we still have a dream. "In public, or singing" Running with Cows "really seems to have infiltrated everything in the future and the past, misinterpreting thousands of worries. Of course, people will choose a more intense way to vent their emotions-shouting. It is better to yell at the opponent who brings you unhappiness and provoke a fierce quarrel; You can make a hullabaloo about to a good friend who can understand and bear his own excessive behavior; You can also yell at your wife and children, but you must explain it carefully afterwards; If all these yelling methods don't work, there is a wonderful and funny way to vent: there is a joke that says, "A company employee stormed into the economic office, slapped the table, accused the manager of unfair handling of affairs and asked for a raise. Someone asked him, "Who are you going to show the manager?" The clerk smiled and said, "I'm studying!" "Anger has subsided. It's not good to get angry, shout or get angry. However, it is better to express the grievances in your chest in a roar way than to be indignant. Silence and silence are also a kind of catharsis. It is often the choice of knowledge-based society members to calm anger and relieve severe depression with a quiet and elegant attitude. When they are in a bad mood, they don't shout, sing or talk to anyone. They just silently plant flowers, mow grass, or manipulate stamps, or write books and draw pictures, or Doby birds and fish ... They take this unique way of venting because they can understand many life truths even when they walk. A quasi-essayist once talked about his life experience and said, "Whenever my mood fluctuates, I go to the balcony to see the stars and the moon. The night sky is particularly deep behind the twinkling stars. At that time, I will feel that my personal success or failure is really not worth worrying about in front of the universe; Meet a meteor; This gave me a surprise and inspiration ... "For ordinary people, the philosophy of life is not so simple to achieve, they are bored and bored. If they don't want to tell anyone, they choose a more unique way to vent, such as the popular "T-shirt culture" in recent years, which is to print striking Chinese characters on their chests or backs, such as: "Leave me alone, bother. "Don't love me, I have no money!" In a word, I don't want to be disturbed by others. My bad feelings are printed on T-shirts, and my anger and resentment are gradually disappearing in people's unusual eyes. However, this is mainly the patent of young people. There are better channels to vent. Effectively eliminating people's bad emotions and making everyone work and live easily have attracted more and more attention from sociologists and psychologists. In order to help people vent their bad feelings smoothly, now, the relevant social departments have tried to provide better choices for people to vent their bad feelings: a large number of radio stations or psychological counseling institutions have opened consultation hotlines, displaying beautiful and intriguing program names or "Midnight Heart Bridge" or "No Prevention Tonight", and so on. People who are in a bad mood can dial a wonderful number in the dead of night and then spit out their own voices. You can tell the truth to your closest friends without any worries, or listen to the pleasant voice of the operator, talk about the philosophy of life and then breathe a sigh of relief. This is undoubtedly an excellent relief. According to the Information Report, "Tianjin has the first emotional catharsis center in China, which wholeheartedly helps every helper to' vent' bad emotions, making people cry when they should cry, laugh when they should, say when they should shout, clear up the accumulated depression in their hearts, make nerves and veins unobstructed, and balance the mentally handicapped. When we watch many people with psychological barriers full of anxiety, confusion, depression and pain walk out of this center with smiles, light steps and confidence, we have no reason not to believe that this is a career full of hope and temptation. Scientifically unblocking and eliminating people's psychological barriers has long been an important topic in the world psychology field, and many effective methods of emotional catharsis have been created. In China, which is adjacent to Japan in the east, many enterprises set up dissuasion places for their employees, and even set up statues of managers and factory directors in them. This may not be desirable, but its concept is worth learning. We have a long tradition of carrying out ideological work. We have a heart-to-heart relationship between cadres and the masses and exchanged feelings directly, which has successfully reconciled the relationship between cadres and the masses and eliminated all kinds of bad emotions in people's hearts. However, with the deepening of reform and the progress of society, traditional values have been severely challenged, many things that people are used to have undergone major changes, the pace of work and life has become faster and faster, and various negative emotions have increased significantly. It is necessary to use newer scientific means to help people get rid of it. But unfortunately, for social science and psychological science, this punishment is still in the exploratory stage. Only by helping people get rid of the dirt and sediment in their hearts effectively can people's work and life in modern society be more relaxed and chic, and they can create more brilliant achievements.