1, fantasy-the giant of thought, the dwarf of action.
When people encounter setbacks or difficult problems, they break away from reality and fantasy and put themselves in an imaginary world in an attempt to deal with setbacks in a fictional way and get satisfaction. Daydreaming is an illusion. If daydreaming replaces meaningful actions, it will become a means of escaping from reality, or it may become a sign of mental abnormality and develop into paranoia. Fantasy is beautiful, but reality is cruel. Fantasy is just a feeling. If you want to succeed in life, you must base yourself on reality, especially when you are in contact with people. Otherwise, you will not be able to solve the problem and seek change and development.
2, negative-retreat from reality.
Negative people often give people the illusion that they don't seek fame and fortune. In fact, they are extremely empty inside and treat things negatively. This kind of person wants nothing, does nothing, and even if his ability is strong, he will accomplish nothing in this life. Negative and positive lies in the difference of views and understanding. Walking on a life path with too much information, too much desire and too much competition, we are always somewhat worried, hesitant and often helpless. But for the success of our career and happiness of life, we must establish a positive attitude. Give yourself a hope every day, and you will have a good mood. Mentality is often your real master.
3, conceit-the self-expansion of the ignorant.
There is no doubt that self-confidence is very important, but if it is "excessive", it will become "conceited". There is a degree between "self-confidence" and "conceit", but many people are so inflated by success that they fall into the trap of conceit. Conceit is sometimes manifested as arrogance, thinking that you can do anything, overestimating yourself and looking down on people around you. So conceited people often fall into mania and eventually fail.
4, sloppy-the root of losers.
This often happens in life. Some people don't think about things, make hasty decisions and then regret it, sometimes even causing irreparable situations. But there is no regret medicine in this world, and we cannot predict tomorrow, so the success or failure of many things often depends on whether we are cautious or reckless. Some people fail, perhaps because they lack thinking and preparation, and those with rational minds always take action after careful consideration, so such people are the easiest to succeed.
5. Arrogance-unsupported dignity.
As the saying goes, "the sky does not boast, and the earth does not boast." Generally speaking, the more people know, the more modest they will be, and the less people know, the less open they are, the more arrogant they will be. So we can say that arrogance is a combination of vanity and a little knowledge. Overarrogant people put on a "cocky, arrogant" posture, which makes them often resented by others and makes them run into a wall everywhere.
6. Doubt-a mental shackle made out of nothing.
There is an old saying: "I can see it, but I don't doubt each other." In fact, this sentence can also be said in reverse. Only if you don't doubt each other can you know by looks. But suspicion is one of the weaknesses of human nature and has always been the bane of harming others and themselves. Suspicion will make people habitually think about everything around them in a bad and negative way. Once a person falls into the trap of doubt, it will be easy to be neurotic about everything, which will make others doubt themselves, which is not good for normal interpersonal relationships, and doubt will eventually make them nervous and anxious.
7, luxury-if you have money, you will show off, and if you have no money, you will starve.
Luxury is a kind of poison, once it is polluted, it will spread continuously, and the spread speed is very fast and the scope is very wide. If a person starts to pursue a luxurious life, then the people around him will soon be extravagant. Waste is the greatest crime. If you waste time, you are wasting your life. If you waste money, then you are on the road to extinction.
8. Autism-paint the ground as a prison and shut the world out.
Locked up, you can avoid the wind and rain, but the sun can't get in. A person who can open his heart and welcome the sunshine will never be autistic. With a sunny heart, you won't lose yourself in depression, and you won't lose your way. Correctly evaluate your own value and let yourself "add value" constantly, so that life will not be wasted and you will feel that every day is meaningful. This is a positive attitude towards life.
9. Paranoia-focusing on self-persistence.
Being opinionated, intelligent, not echoing the voice, not ups and downs with the world are undoubtedly commendable good qualities, but they should be based on not sticking to their own opinions and sticking to their own opinions. No matter whether you are a man or do things, your mind should have a dialectical point of view, stick to a corner, sit in the well and watch the sky, take your prejudice as the truth, and never realize it until you die. This is a big taboo in dealing with people. If we can't correct this attitude in time, we are likely to fall into a dead corner of life and can't get out.
10, quick success and instant benefit-short-sighted.
People who are eager for quick success and instant benefit are short-sighted and can't see Mount Tai. As long as they smell sesame, they will forget the sweetness of watermelon. One's vision can only be seen in front of one's eyes. The so-called "treating the headache and treating the foot pain" is the consistent behavior of people who are eager for quick success and instant benefit. In order to get rid of the status quo, these people can ignore the future interests, just for temporary pleasure, without long-term consideration. The result is often not worth the candle.
1 1, greed-the poverty of the soul, the root of disaster.
People can't live in reality without desire. The desire for money makes many people greedy. It is true that money is the basic guarantee of people's life, but after solving the needs of life, we can't blindly be greedy. There is an old saying: "It is better to use less than to be greedy." People's desire for money should be limited. If it exceeds the level, they should try to stop themselves, and don't get the result they regret because of excessive greed.
12, unprincipled-abandon morality.
Interest is often pursued in life, and some people even like to equate all their principles with interests. When you get along with your relatives, friends and others, you always put your own interests first. It is true that for many people, interests are very important, but if interests are taken as the criterion of doing things for themselves, then in the end, those who do so can only shoot themselves in the foot. Interest sometimes becomes a trap for others to seduce themselves. People who take interest as the criterion are much more likely to fall into the trap than to jump over it.
13, jealousy-denigrate the achievements of others and expose your incompetence.
Jealousy is a cancer in people's hearts. Jealousy will make beautiful people ugly and enthusiastic people cold. Envy is a hateful feeling. People who are jealous gnash their teeth when they see that others are better off and luckier than themselves. And when you see that others are not as lucky as yourself, you will be complacent. Such feelings will have an extremely adverse impact on interpersonal relationships. People should look at the world with an open mind, because jealousy can only send people to the brink of madness and collapse, but it will not make people happy and happy.
14, stubbornness-the root of stupidity entrenched in the mind.
Stubbornness is a psychological phenomenon that persists in prejudice and does not know how to be flexible. People's cognition of things, as well as their judgment of the value of things, must be completed through their own values, which is extremely subjective in itself. If you have a wrong understanding of a thing, but you are unwilling to accept other people's opinions and make effective corrections, then you are adding insult to injury. Stubbornness is not synonymous with persistence. In fact, it is not a difficult thing to open the shackles of stubbornness. As long as you can correct your wrong views in time and accept new things effectively, you will easily break the shackles of stubbornness.
15, ignorance without faith-ignorance without faith, how easy it is, how difficult it is.
Honesty is the foundation of our life. To tell the truth, it is important not to make promises easily, so as not to be treacherous. If you agree to other people's demands without careful consideration, but you can't do it afterwards, such a person will not gain the trust of others. You have to keep your promise to others, and you have to keep your promise. Confucius said, "People can't stand without faith." People's words and deeds should be based on honesty.
16, Zhang Yang-a shallow friend.
A person with a flamboyant personality is arrogant, overbearing and too sharp-edged, and it is easy to attract criticism between words and deeds, hurting people and hurting themselves. Therefore, people should be careful what they say and do. "Humble interests, full of losses." No matter when you are brilliant and ambitious, you should not be cocky and arrogant. But to give full play to their talents and keep a low profile. Laozi said: "I don't see myself, so I know;" Self-evident, so obvious; Do not cut yourself, have merit; Not self-sufficient, so long. " Even when you are brilliant and frustrated, you don't need to be pessimistic and complain about the injustice of life. You should take it lightly and keep a low profile.
17, vanity-all evil deeds are born around vanity.
Vanity is the pursuit of personal glory and superficial aura, in order to win the appreciation and respect of others. People who love vanity have a strong sense of inferiority. They don't know that people who are empty and ignorant at heart and bright in appearance are boring. To tell the truth, everyone will have some vanity more or less. We should not expand and upgrade it. Instead, we should see our shortcomings and deficiencies through vanity, strengthen study and improvement, constantly improve and motivate ourselves, and forge ahead.
18, worship gold-put the shackles of gold on yourself.
Undoubtedly, money plays an important role in people's lives, but money is not the whole of life. Money is a foreign thing. Don't be blinded by money and your own greed. Enough is enough. Only by getting rid of greed can we be satisfied and untie the shackles that bind people. Besides, don't be stingy. Being able to help others is also a kind of happiness. Don't take money too seriously, learn to be willing, and you can grasp the opportunity and destiny of life.
19, impulsive-trapped in the whirlpool of self-blame and self-blame.
In daily life, there are indeed many things that make us feel angry and helpless, but no matter how impulsive our emotions are, we can't lose our minds or take drastic actions regardless. "If things are slow, things will be round." The solution of everything is the result of rationality and fairness. Blind impulse not only doesn't help, but often leads to unbearable consequences. Therefore, it is wise to control your behavior with reason when you are in a dilemma.
20, blind obedience-poor people who lost themselves.
Many people will blindly pursue the trend of the masses, which is a psychological feature of many people and a very dangerous psychological trap. Because everyone's outlook on life, values and morality are different, everyone's choice direction should also be different. Because of blind obedience, we often lose ourselves, personality, self-judgment and self-confidence.
2 1, self-limiting-killing your latent ability.
God only saves those who can save themselves. Success belongs to those who are willing to succeed. Narrow psychology is an obstacle to human progress. Many times, a person's failure is not influenced by the objective environment, but is doomed by his self-limiting psychology. The narrow psychology of self-restriction makes a person's mind not broad, makes a person's vision not broad, makes a person short-sighted, and even makes people have a serious narcissistic complex. People with this kind of psychology are hard to get along with and easy to hurt others. Such people are born losers. Because of self-isolation and self-restriction, they fell into spiritual poverty and panic.
22, revenge-chicken belly intestines, will be reported.
Revenge is a bottomless black hole, which comes from hatred and anger. If you can't control your revenge in time and let it devour you, you will lose your mind, do rash things and even regret it. People who are vengeful are impulsive. Once they are in a hurry, they often just vent their emotions and don't listen to other people's advice. They can't face setbacks calmly, don't forgive others, and often hurt others for greed. As a result, they lost their popularity and pushed themselves into the trouble trap.
23. Luck-self-deceiving indulgence.
Luck psychology is a very unhealthy psychology, which blinds people's minds, makes them unable to make correct judgments and even loses their direction. Over time, people's thoughts will change unconsciously. In fact, serious consequences are formed by the accumulation of small things, so we should start from small things to prevent them. An occasional fluke may make people achieve something or get some benefits, but one day they will fall down. At any time, we should abandon the fluky psychology, improve our moral cultivation and realize our ideals step by step. It should be noted that "the blade comes from sharpening, and the plum blossom fragrance comes from bitter cold." Only by being practical and diligent can we embark on the road to success.
24, adhere to perfection-inferiority and self-confidence freak.
There is an old saying in China: No one is perfect without gold. The famous Russian philosopher Chernyshevski said: "Since there are black spots on the sun, it is even more impossible for things in the world to be without defects." There are no perfect leaves in the world, but in real life, there are always people who pursue perfection. They not only have perfect and demanding requirements for themselves, but also hold the same attitude towards people and things around them. Because of the excessive pursuit of perfection, they lost a lot of happy lives, even their own lives.
25. Loss of goal-loss of morale.
Failure does not require planning, but success requires careful planning and step-by-step practice. People who have made achievements in their careers at all times and in all countries have two points: first, they have clear career goals; The second is to constantly strive towards the goal. A man without a goal is like a ship sailing blindly, because the wind in any direction is against the wind; And if a person has a goal and is determined to move towards it, then the whole world will make way for it. Therefore, if you want to succeed, you have to start from bit by bit, set yourself a clear, long-term and specific goal, make full use of time, take the goal with you on the road, and you will definitely reach your destination.
26, middle-aged crisis-emotional storm under heavy pressure.
People's life curve drops from the peak, and the burden curve of work and family rises. The intersection of these two parabolas is middle age. When people reach middle age, they will be dissatisfied with their jobs and careers. They think that they will become lifeless, moody and pessimistic if there is no challenge worthy of all their efforts. When people reach middle age, they will encounter the dual pressures of career and family, and there will be signs of physical and mental decline, which will aggravate the crisis and confusion in middle age. People who fall into the psychological trap of middle-aged crisis will produce a series of negative emotions, cause psychological problems and be accompanied by physical reactions. Only by establishing a positive attitude and coping with it with a confident attitude can middle-aged people get through this period smoothly.
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