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Xiao Min is even sadder, because she feels that she has a really bad memory and everything goes wrong, especially that she has no suitable marriage partner.
Xiao Min, 25 years old, graduated from technical secondary school and entered the society very early.
Although Xiao Min's grades in school are not good, Xiao Min also has advantages, that is, her figure is not bad, and she is not old, so she still has expectations for the future.
Of course, the biggest expectation is to marry a rich and attractive husband, at least to ensure a better married life.
How do you know rich people? Of course, you still have to go through proper channels.
Xiao Min has a flexible mind, so he went to a local real estate company to entertain him.
Whenever a real estate company wants to open, there will always be many customers to see the house. Those who can afford a house these days can at least afford a large down payment. So Xiao Min constantly observed in the process of work, which men meet her requirements.
But contrary to expectations, almost all men in their thirties come with their wives or girlfriends, and some men come with their parents.
Has a man come to see the house alone? Yes, an old man in his fifties likes to look after the house alone.
Mandy is always anxious when she looks at these customers, and secretly compares herself with these celebrities. Mandy doesn't understand one thing, that is, how can she be younger and more beautiful than those women who are far less beautiful than her?
Why can they all find a man who has the ability to buy a house, and why can't they find it themselves?
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This matter involves the comprehensive quality in the marriage market, that is, the comprehensive conditions of marriage.
Generally speaking, men's advantages in the marriage market are material. For example, having a car and a house is more successful than having nothing.
However, some people say that you can't bully young people or be poor. Some people are poor when they are young, but that doesn't mean they will be poor all their lives. Yes, there are still some men with very strong personal ability and high comprehensive ability to deal with people, which is also commonly known as potential stocks.
Generally speaking, for men, material conditions and personal ability are more important, and height is more important than height.
But for women, age, face value, family conditions, work and so on are a whole.
Nowadays, many boys are afraid to find rural girls when looking for wives, especially rural girls with brothers and sisters. There is no discrimination here, but there are too many cases around them.
I remember that before a friend got married, the old father-in-law told his friend that the bride price would be 300 thousand, but on the wedding day, it would be returned to his daughter, who would take it back to his son-in-law, mainly to save face.
The friend agreed, and as a result, on the night of the wedding, the woman brought a card with only one yuan in it. Later, she learned that all 300,000 yuan had been bought for her younger brother.
My friend's father and cousin couldn't stand it, so they went to talk to their in-laws and were beaten by her father and brother.
The friend became angry from embarrassment and immediately divorced and sued the woman's family.
Therefore, women's face value and age are advantages in the marriage and love market, but they are definitely not the only advantages.
Many men still choose their age and face value within the optional range, but they pay more attention to the woman's work and family, because the woman's family represents whether it will drag down the life of the young couple in the future, and the woman's work also represents whether it will share the man's economic pressure in the future.
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Xiao Min always feels young, good-looking and in good shape. Why can't she meet a man who is slightly rich and cares about her?
Xiao Min sometimes compares his clients' wives with his own and finds that many clients' wives look unattractive and have no figure. Xiao Min thinks that these people are really blind.
After a long time, Xiao Min's mood became more and more depressed, and he became more and more impatient. He is a woman, too. Why can't he meet the right person?
In fact, Xiao Min is not without pursuit, but she is not satisfied. If it is not the same as her, she is also a colleague with a salary of several thousand yuan a month, or an elderly male customer who deliberately takes advantage of her.
The former must struggle together, but also endure a relatively tight life, and even buying a house is far away; Although the latter will have short-term material returns, Xiao Min still has a trace of reason, fearing that he will fall into the abyss.
Having said that, it mainly boils down to one point. Xiao Min exaggerates the advantages of age and face value, but ignores the disadvantages that age and face value are not enough to supplement family and work.
If men are realistic, they must be more realistic than women. They don't always talk like women. They don't say anything, but they will take practical action.
Don't underestimate the realistic attitude of men. They like beautiful young women, but that doesn't mean they will marry a young woman who is only beautiful. Beauty will grow old, but youth will not last forever.
Xiao Min always thinks that the wife of a male client is not as good-looking as her, and that the male client is blind, but are so many men blind?
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Finally, I want to remind girls like Xiao Min to improve themselves when they are young, such as work ability, such as comprehensive ability.
Many girls are always attracted by the flowers and plants of the world when they are the youngest, and neglect to cultivate their own personal abilities. When people reach middle age, they find that the youth and face value that they were most proud of no longer exist, but their personal ability has not improved. In the end, they can only bear an ordinary life that they never wanted to live.
However, some girls are born with a bad hand, but they are self-reliant, determined, and do not take evil paths. They earn a life for themselves with their own hands and feet, earn various skills, and finally get a better life.
In the final analysis, a woman's age and face value will eventually get older, which is no longer an advantage, while a woman's comprehensive abilities such as experience, work, way of doing things, and self-confidence are stronger with age.
Some people judge that 80% of men and women will not marry the person they like, but there are no single men and women in the world.
The reason is that everyone you like is better than yourself, but everyone finally accepts the more ordinary other half. The remaining 20% is the best. They have good conditions, and eventually they will meet and marry people with the same good conditions.
Therefore, girls who are similar to Xiao Min in thinking and behavior, instead of focusing on lamenting that men are blind and have a hard time, it is better to think about their future development route, and maybe they can meet the excellent other half as soon as possible.