Zhang Ping has a great personality, sometimes gentle as water, sometimes willful and lovely, and Agui is very useful. But when two people are together, there will inevitably be some friction. When they quarreled, Pell never took the initiative to coax Zhang Ping, but waited for Zhang Ping to give a hint of reconciliation before taking the initiative to show good, so the two often fell into a cold war. However, after the cold war, Pell never delved into the reasons for their previous quarrel.
Moreover, sometimes after two people quarrel, Agui will unconsciously bring emotions to work, and when guiding Zhang Ping's work, she will not give her face at all, which makes Zhang Ping very angry and wronged. Later, their relationship was discovered and one of them had to leave. Pell wants to have worked in the company for such a long time, and she also has plans to continue to be together with Zhang Ping, who hasn't come to the company for a long time. Zhang Ping had better leave and change her job. Even if she can't find a suitable one, she can always support her. She also joked that Zhang Ping would concentrate on entertaining herself at home and be husband and wife. Who knows that Zhang Ping immediately refused to listen to Pell's idea? She asked Pell why she didn't take the initiative to leave her job. Her job was also obtained after several rounds of interviews. How could she possibly need Pell's hands? So Zhang Ping and Gui broke up directly. Their work dragged on, and finally the company fired Zhang Ping.
When Zhang Ping left Pell, she didn't take their photos with her. Pell sometimes comes home to see an empty home. When she sees their smiles in photos, she always recalls their happy time together. Pell suddenly found that he and Zhang Ping were so congenial, and there were always many happy times together, so Pell decided to save Zhang Ping and start over. He got Zhang Ping's current contact information and called her to ask for forgiveness, but Zhang Ping's tone was cold and harmless, and she directly blacklisted Pell, and Pell's recovery was deadlocked. So he asked us for help.
1. The habitual cold war intensifies emotional contradictions.
In the face of the cold war with Zhang Ping, Agui did nothing, always waiting for Zhang Ping to send a signal to make up, and never communicated and reflected on the reasons for the cold war. After a long time, the problems between the two people accumulated and could not be solved, which gradually deepened their emotional contradictions. Zhang Ping would also be disheartened by their feelings and could not see their future.
In fact, the cold war is a kind of punishment in love, which hurts not only the two sides in love, but also two hearts that used to be closely dependent on each other. The frequency and persistence of the cold war will gradually wear away the patience of both parties in love and cause harm to the body. However, if you always avoid their emotional problems and lack effective communication, the contradiction between you will never be solved, the negative emotions of women in love will increase, the emotional contradiction in your will intensify, and the relationship between two people who have been tortured by the Cold War for a long time will also be in crisis.
2. Self-centeredness, lack of understanding and respect
Pell put himself in a high emotional position in this relationship. After the quarrel, I brought my emotions to work and asked Zhang Ping to make up. After leaving, he asked Zhang Ping to take the initiative to leave, stay at home as a housewife and raise herself. In the long run, Pell's approach only makes Zhang Ping feel Pell's disrespect for himself and Pell's selfishness and immaturity. She felt that the other person was untrustworthy and broke up with him.
But in love, men and women are equal individuals. Nowadays, women have the ability to work and live independently and can support themselves completely. Any idea that you bind her at home and make her your accessory will make women feel that their independent personality has been insulted and trampled on, and they will only feel disgusted with your arbitrariness, and their affection for you will decline, which will lead to breaking up.
1. Look at your own problems and establish an efficient communication model.
First of all, if you want to save your feelings, the first step you have to do is to examine your own problems in your feelings, understand that you must have broken up for a reason, and then find your own shortcomings and patiently correct them thoroughly to avoid repeating the same mistakes in the subsequent recovery.
After facing up to and getting rid of your own shortcomings, you should also learn to communicate with each other in the right way and eliminate the barriers between them step by step. Therefore, in the process of recovery, you should learn to be rational, control your emotions, communicate with women with your heart, gradually deepen your understanding, and gradually eliminate the obstacles to recovery, so as to help you restart a new chapter in your feelings.
2. Change the way of thinking and respect the independent personality of women.
Secondly, in the process of saving love, it is also essential to change your solidified thinking and gradually get rid of your male chauvinism. Therefore, in life, before you make an important decision, you should learn to ask for women's opinions. When the two sides disagree, they should learn to put themselves in their shoes, let women express their ideas and try to understand them. Then persevere and prove with practical actions that women will eventually see your change.
In fact, both men and women are two independent individuals in love and have equal love status. Mutual respect and understanding between the two sides will make your's feelings last longer. Therefore, it is particularly important for men to have a correct attitude and learn to respect women. You should learn to consider women's feelings. Things in life, don't always think you are right, make decisions together, let a woman feel your respect and maturity, and she will slowly be attracted by your charm again, which is conducive to your recovery.
3. Increase emotional input and recover step by step.
Women are emotional animals and pay great attention to their emotional experience and psychological feelings in love. Any negligence on your part may lead to her mood swings. Especially since you have broken up once, let women realize the changes in your emotional investment compared with the past and know your intentions. So you must increase your emotional input, be caring and attentive to the woman in time, and be considerate in your actions, so that she can feel your sincerity and concern.
At the same time, after a successful reunion, you should master the scale of getting along and caring communication, use appropriate time, patience and persistence to gradually upgrade your's emotional relationship, wait for her to give you a hint of getting back together, and then take corresponding actions. In the long run, follow the recovery steps step by step, and you will have a chance to save the person she loves deeply.
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