The first stage: I admire my grandmother very much.
Grandma didn't live with us then. She lives in the city with her grandfather. Grandma loves cleanliness, and then her skin is white and beautiful. Even when I am old, I can still see the beautiful face when I was young, so I admired it at that time.
The second stage: hate grandma
It was not until my grandmother retired with my grandfather in her sixties that I realized her shortcomings. My favorite thing is to meddle. It was then that I realized how deep the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was. I often hear her criticize her daughter-in-law. Because everyone respects her and tolerates her abuse, but I think she has gone too far. What is even more irritating is that grandma wronged me to steal their snacks, which is a very uncomfortable place for me.
The third stage: begin to sympathize with grandma.
Later, when I grew up and studied, I was rarely at home. When I started studying psychology, I gradually understood my grandmother. Why does she like to interfere and criticize her daughter-in-law? In fact, because her sensitive personality makes her afraid of loneliness, she hopes to make herself valuable by taking care of things. I hope every daughter-in-law can communicate more by criticizing her daughter-in-law, but I didn't expect it to backfire. Many daughters-in-law don't like such a mother-in-law.
Grandma died last June 165438+ 10. At that time, I was very sad, because I had no grandmother, and all the good and bad things of my grandmother were in blowing in the wind.
I am Tang Ruo, a psychological counselor. I am on WeChat official account: Tang Ruo's mind is learning, and I am willing to grow up with you.