In Japan, many people pay attention to the scientific parenting methods of Kyoko Kubota's mother-in-law. Her husband is an authoritative figure in Japanese brain science research. Besides parenting and housework, Kyoko also reads books on brain science, especially children's brain development, and applies what he has learned to parenting.
1932 was born in Osaka. An authority on brain science, honorary professor of Kyoto University, wife of teacher Kubota, and mother of two children. Thirty years ago, I began to correct the traditional parenting methods handed down from generation to generation in Japan. I founded Kubota-style parenting method on the basis of my own production and parenting experience in the United States and Japan and my husband's brain science theory. She enjoys the reputation of "brain science mother-in-law" in TV and other media. At the age of 77, she established the company's brain research workshop and is now the general manager.
▼ Brain mother-in-law Kubota Ryoko was invited to participate in an interview with a health program in Japan.
The first stage is to improve children's brain development in parent-child relationship.
1. Say hello when changing diapers for children.
The same is true when doing other things for children. Don't think that children are too young to do this. For example, when you wipe your child's face in the morning, you should tell him that it is morning and wash your face to welcome the new day. Change your child's pajamas at night, tell him it's already night, sleep comfortably and so on. After a long time, children will remember day and night through perception and remember the content of life. Doing such work persistently will never waste time.
2. Be careful when teaching children.
No matter the imitation of language or behavior, it will be repeated many times, and the baby will remember that this practice can improve the child's memory ability from an early age.
3. Dress the baby in colorful clothes.
Cultivate sensitivity to color. In the process of children's brain development, color is very beneficial to children's brain. Not only that, from the age of zero, giving children a variety of flavors will also affect their brains at the same time, which can stimulate their perception and memory ability. For example, give children some sour, sweet, bitter and spicy tastes and so on.
4. Holding a child can train a sense of balance at an early stage.
Children will have the instinctive ability to adjust their balance at an early age. After 5 months, when the child's neck can support his head, he should try to play with his back, which can force the child to adjust his body balance and train his ability to protect himself through physical exercise at an early stage.
5. Communicate with children in an adult way
Children will eventually become social people, and the transition from children's language and behavior to adults' language and behavior requires a lot of anxiety and a long time for children. It is only because children are educated with special children's language and way of thinking when they are young that there will be a burden in the future.
6. Do everything with the right posture.
Set a good example for children. Don't think that a baby who can't talk or express his thoughts clearly knows nothing. Parents are the most important role models for children, and even the way you walk, he will learn.
7. Throw multiple-choice questions to train children's judgment and decision-making ability.
For example, ask your child which toy do you like? If you can only choose one, which one is it? People always have to face trade-offs and choices. It is very important to exercise children from an early age and choose things that are valuable to them.
8. Be sure to keep the agreement with your child.
Lying to children, or talking empty words to children, will have a very bad influence on children, such as hating parents, unwilling to listen to their parents, and often telling lies. You must honor your promises and agreements to your children, otherwise it is difficult for an adult child to be a person who can fulfill the agreements.
9. Be passionate about your children.
Children who grow up in love will never be the same as children without love, and their self-confidence and mental state will be greatly affected.
Seven secrets to guide and cultivate smart children in the second stage and study
◎ Let children exercise more
Start by teaching children to walk and posture correctly. Don't be afraid of children falling, and don't lend a helping hand too early. Let children play more and encourage them to challenge new things in their field of vision.
◎ Make children's hands flexible.
Through repeated training, such as doodling, finger movement and using tools, children can remember the movements and train the flexibility of their hands, so that they can write correctly and develop their brains in the future.
◎ Cultivate children's goodwill.
Cultivating children's good eyesight, hearing, smell, taste and perception through games and activities, and trying to express them in words, can promote children's oral expression and thinking ability.
◎ Enhance survival competitiveness
Stimulate the child's upward heart, arrange static and dynamic games to adapt him to different environmental conditions, teach him the concept of time, train his expression ability, let the child find answers by himself, improve his concentration and learn to take care of himself.
◎ Improve children's thinking ability.
Improve children's thinking ability through the cultivation of sense of direction, memory enhancement training, and the establishment of concepts of money and numbers.
◎ Cultivate a good life schedule.
Let children develop a good life schedule and have a good quality of sleep in order to adapt to group life. And prepare for school by helping with housework, accepting punishment and taking the initiative to study.
◎ Open the awakening of children's minds.
Under the premise of not limiting the framework and not easily disturbing, through sex education and learning, as well as contact with nature, children's empathy ability can be stimulated and a broader spiritual level can be opened up for children.
Kakubota's mother-in-law reminded mothers who have troubles with parenting: "Don't lose heart in parenting, just learn after failure! 」