The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the biggest stumbling block to marriage. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been one of the most important factors affecting the relationship between husband and wife. If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is harmonious, it is naturally affection and beauty. If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradict each other, it will be difficult for this marriage to come to the end.
When Qian Qian was 28, she chose to end her marriage. She chose to divorce at that time, not because husband and wife had different ideas and could not live together, but because there was no way to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so she chose to end the marriage. But she doesn't regret it now. After the divorce, she even felt lucky and made the right decision when she still had a choice.
Qian Qian's family is not very good. When she was a child, her parents lost money in business and owed a lot of loans. Although she is an only child, her parents have few assets left to her. Two years after graduating from college, Chichiwa's boyfriend Xiaodong entered the marriage hall. In fact, Xiaodong's family is also average. His father died when he was very young, and her mother raised her for so many years. So his family's financial situation is not so bad.
When they got married, there was no bride price and no wedding room. After marriage, they still live with Xiaodong's mother. Considering her own financial situation, she knew that marriage could not be harsh on each other, and at that time, they were very in love, so this marriage was shabby compared with others, but she married Xiaodong without complaint.
However, after marriage, Qian Qian was severely slapped. At that time, she realized that marriage was never just love, and her mother-in-law was also the fuse of her divorce.
When Qian Qian first got married, her mother-in-law was mean to her. She often comments on Qian Qian and always belittles Chichiwa and her family. When Qian Qian is at home, her mother-in-law will order her to do all kinds of housework and treat her like a nanny. There is always a sense of superiority in her words.
But Xiaodong turned a blind eye to all this, and he remained silent most of the time. Even though his mother sometimes went too far, he didn't stand up and say a word for Qian Qian. Sometimes Qian Qian would question him, but he still felt that it was none of his business. On the contrary, he stood on the moral high ground and accused Qian Qian, saying, "My mother is old, even if she is wrong, let her go. She has never been easy in her life. Please be reasonable. "
So Qian Qian finally became the most ignorant person. At this time, Qian Qian also realized that she had married a "mother-in-law". In fact, the mother-in-law's excessive desire for control is the most unacceptable thing for Qian Qian, not only for her son, but also for her.
Qian Qian is an independent woman. When she fell in love with Xiaodong, both of them spent half their money. It was not until they got married that Qian Qian discovered that Xiaodong always gave his mother more than half of his salary, leaving only a little pocket money for himself. What's more, her mother-in-law not only controls Xiaodong economically, but also wants Qian Qian to give all her salary to her mother-in-law like Xiaodong. In her mother-in-law's heart, she still thinks this is a matter of course. Most importantly, Xiaodong also acquiesced in her mother-in-law's behavior.
In fact, Qian Qian was very reluctant, but when her mother-in-law repeatedly asked Qian Qian to hand over her salary card, Qian Qian couldn't stand it. She doesn't know the meaning of this unhappy marriage, so she might as well be happy and set herself free. Just when Qian Qian filed for divorce, her mother-in-law disdainfully said to Qian Qian, "Ha ha, you will regret it. Divorced women have a hard time. "
In fact, Qian Qian did not regret it, but the former mother-in-law did.
After the divorce, Qian Qian was puzzled for a while, but soon she found her way. When she got married, she not only thought she was married for love, but also thought they could grow old together. It's a pity that the reality is so cruel that the fantasy has become a bubble.
Qian Qian thought, since no one can rely on, then do your own backing.
In fact, Qian Qian's working ability is OK. She is enterprising and self-motivated, so after the divorce, she devoted herself to her work, and the speed of promotion and salary increase far exceeded that of her peers. In this process, Qian Qian met a young president, who appreciated her ability, favored her and launched a fierce pursuit. Just two people appreciate each other, congenial, two people naturally together, the other side also don't care about Qian Qian's past, he is not as complicated as Xiaodong's family relationship, two people together less than a year, Qian Qian agreed to his proposal.
However, after the divorce, Xiaodong was not so smooth. He was laid off by the company. He was laid off. Moreover, he went on blind dates several times without telling him. Plus, it's his second marriage, so it's not so easy to find a good partner. Xiaodong's mother was worried when she saw it. After all, she wants to have grandchildren.
I wonder where Xiaodong's mother got it. Qian Qian is living a good life now, with an annual salary of several hundred thousand. She is going to buy a house and a car. Xiaodong's mother became more and more upset when she learned about it. She thought her son was still single and unemployed, so she made a plan and appealed to Qian Qian.
After the divorce, Qian Qian still used her previous number. After Xiaodong's mother called, it didn't take long for Qian Qian to answer. She said tentatively, "Hello!" After a sentence, I heard a familiar voice on the other end of the phone: "Daughter-in-law, how have you been recently?"
Hearing this voice, Qian Qian felt that the purpose of this call was not simple, so she calmly replied, "Aunt, I'm fine, so don't bother. Besides, I'm not your daughter-in-law anymore. Please stop calling me that. I can't stand it. "
Xiaodong's mother was embarrassed and said, "Daughter-in-law, it was my fault in the past. I was too strong to take care of your feelings. Please forgive me. I know you are a good girl. Forgive me this time? "
"Aunt, it's over. I don't care anymore." When Xiaodong's mother heard Qian Qian say this, she immediately replied, "Since you don't care anymore, come back and be my daughter-in-law. I think you and Xiaodong are the best match. Let's remarry. Let's forget the past, shall we? "
Qian Qian was puzzled and said, "Aunt, this is impossible."
"Hey, how could you? I already apologized. You must realize the reality that it is difficult for divorced women to remarry. I have given in. "
Qian Qian smiled and said slowly, "Aunt, you may not know that I am married. Even if I'm not married, I don't like your family. "
Hearing this, Xiaodong's mother immediately hung up the phone. Qian Qian knows this, which is a fatal blow to her former mother-in-law, because she has always been lofty and proud, but now she has completely lost it.
In fact, we all know that marriage is difficult, because it is difficult to meet the right person. But it is more difficult to maintain marriage, because if you have a good husband's family, marriage will go well. Without empathy between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the relationship will not be maintained well.
As a mother-in-law, you should know that the most important thing for a son to be happy is to respect his daughter-in-law, because marriage can only be happy if the family is harmonious. As a daughter-in-law, in the face of her mother-in-law's dilemma and her husband's failure to maintain, you should stop loss in time, which may be a better choice than compromise.