The author emphasizes that everyone is always looking for a sense of importance. My understanding is to find the value of my existence.
Whether at home or in society, all one's cognitive, behavioral and emotional needs are to reflect one's own value. After putting on warm clothes to fill the stomach, the pursuit of self-worth transcends everything and becomes the source of almost all pain.
This reflects the importance of values.
Value comes from the comparison of binary choice. What makes a person want to be a consultant, not others, is one of the most important values of a consultant.
According to popular standards, occupation can make a person earn a lot of money and gain a high social status. Obviously, this made him feel his own value, gain self-esteem and satisfy his narcissism.
In addition to the consultants who have never met on the Internet and earn 9,000 yuan a day, friends around them are constantly looking for them, and various training courses emerge one after another, which not only become "learning personality disorder", but also gradually shrink their wallets, often falling into anxiety and not knowing when they can make ends meet.
People who pursue popular standards want to exist, or popular standards are just a by-product of the final result. The initial pursuit is to support oneself and make ends meet, but this most basic yearning needs years of persistence and accumulation for most people who are trained.
But people are still fighting for it. People quit from time to time, and people join at any time.
After all the hardships, the dark clouds finally dispersed. As a consultant, what experiences make you feel valuable?
Aside from "this is a dream since childhood", we should also abandon our families and hold the banner of "rejuvenation" to thank them for their fantasies. People who have become and are eager to become consultants may subconsciously or consciously have the following needs:
1. Cure your desires through learning.
Change other people's fantasies
3. Get the tools to control or conquer.
Being needed by others is also a sense of value.
There are many ... everyone is different. You make up for it.
Of course, all the above points have my projection, and the embodiment of the sense of value itself is a process of projection and recognition, but this recognition may not come entirely from the outside world or others, but from the consultant himself.
The road to becoming a consultant is bumpy, and the sense of anxiety and worthlessness usually comes from the subconscious projection and cannot be recognized.
Stripping away the unrecognized projections in the subconscious mind, in the consciousness, it seems that only the visiting changes are the embodiment of value.
In the consulting room, there are often various twists and turns. Even if the visit changes, it is often not expressed in the negotiation. Can you really express change? Is the change in consultation due to the consultant?
That's his own growth. You just provided a healthy environment for growing up.
I am afraid that the things presented in the consultation will remain until the moment of seeing a doctor, and it will be painful. Those changes that have become a part of yourself can only be seen after a long time.
So, what is the value of a consultant?
I think it's "you and me" meeting. Curiously pay attention to every "you" except "me", and like to listen to stories that take place in the vast space and time and are entangled in different emotions.
Always showing sympathy for others is just a question for reference.