1. What is knowledge, emotion, will and action?
Knowledge, emotion, will and action are the basic common sense of psychology and the basic elements of mental maturity.
1. Knowledge: The so-called "knowledge" refers to cognition and concept. Cognition includes perception, consciousness, attention and memory. Take the most basic "feeling" as an example. We use sight, hearing, smell, taste and touch every day. Knowledge is the collection of information that forms self-cognition. There are questions about how much information to choose, whether to collect it or not, right questions, wrong questions and reasonable and unreasonable questions. Then form cognition through thinking processing. We often hear about children's "sensory integration disorder" and adults' "cognitive impairment". These are the behavioral results caused by some small problems in the process of cognitive processing integration.
We all know that knowing is easier than doing, and we have heard that knowing is harder than doing. Therefore, it is difficult to unify goals and actions, because the growth experience and educational accumulation are different. At this time, it is necessary to unify cognitive thinking through training in order to better keep up with the pace. Many people have heard the saying that you can go as far as your thoughts go. What doesn't appear in your mind will never appear in your life. Then the logic is clear. To change people's behavior, the first step is to strengthen cognition and ideas, broaden horizons and increase knowledge, and finally achieve the consistency of "three views".
2. Emotion: "Emotion" refers to emotions and emotions, which are composed of unique subjective experience, external performance and physiological activation; Psychological emotions can be understood as positive emotions and negative emotions. Emotions are not good or bad, only those that can be respected and accepted. People have all kinds of emotions all the time, because the world (people and things from outside stimulate us) has positive feedback and negative feedback, and positive feedback, positive, happy and positive emotions are more helpful for us to do things well, so there is a saying that "success is the mother of success". Many people can't choose "better" because they have never had that kind of "better" emotional experience. Therefore, if you want to change a person's behavior and make it persist, you must let him have the corresponding emotional experience. As for whether he can harvest positive emotions or negative emotions, it depends on what kind of behavior you want (everyone tends to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, the advantage is that things will stick to their own work, and if they are not good, they will delay or not do it). In management, we often use the method of "radish+stick" to manage and standardize behavior, which is also useful for teachers.
3. Meaning: "Meaning" refers to the way of thinking, forming a fixed concept and will;
People's will quality is also different. The essence of will is people's subjective reflection on their own behavior, and how to form a specific plan in their minds.
? Consciousness is constantly changing, sometimes willpower is stronger, sometimes willpower is weaker, willpower will be reduced and lost, but willpower can also be increased and restored. More importantly, willpower can be exercised. Just as exercise can exercise the body, willpower can also be exercised through some activities. Moreover, people's willpower is often beyond our imagination. For example, when many people are too tired to take physical exercise, we can actually persist for a long time. It distinguishes between habits and habits. Habits belong to the category of automation, and no effort is needed. Willpower has both automatic habit part and conscious part.
4. Line: "Line" refers to behavior and performance. Every behavior of people is supported by "knowledge, emotion and will", and the three legs at the same table support the desktop. The occurrence and change of behavior comes from people's "knowledge, emotion and will". Many behaviors have not happened, and many people have been unable to take the first step. The reasons behind it are probably: either there is a problem with cognition, or there is no positive emotional experience (sticking point), or there is not enough willpower, or there are problems with all three.
As shown above: If you want to change, upgrade or weaken; The tip of the iceberg exposed-behavior, story content (life script, the following should not be changed, life script will continue to cycle). You need to know the following self-knowledge, willpower, motivation, opinions, needs, expectations, emotional feelings, habits and so on. Only after a thorough understanding and the following efforts can the behavior be inferred naturally.
What is the relationship between the two?
The relationship between knowledge, emotion and behavior is a process of gradual rise and integration, from understanding (cognition) to touch (feeling) to thinking (meaning) and action; "Knowing, feeling and meaning" are the three steps of people's psychological activities, and behavior is the implementation process of the first three. Cognition is the foundation; Emotion is produced on the basis of cognition, and it will also react on cognition; Will is a continuous process with emotions, which affects cognition and behavior.
Cognitive process, emotional process and will process are not isolated and unconnected with each other, but the unity of one hundred whole bodies (eyes, ears, nose, tongue and body) to form feelings. They are interrelated, restricted and infiltrated with each other.
(1) The relationship between cognitive process and emotional process: ① Cognitive process is the basis of emotion. ② Emotional process also reacts to cognitive process. (2) The relationship between will process and emotional process: ① People's emotions have certain influence on will action. ② Will can regulate people's mood. (3) The relationship between cognitive process and will process: ① Cognitive process is the premise of will activity. ② Will will also affect people's cognitive process.
Emotion and emotion can be both the driving force and the resistance of will action. Will can control emotions and make them obey people's reason. There is a close relationship and dialectical relationship among cognition, emotion and will.
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Third, enlightenment in education.
Informed education is complete and unified. The education of knowledge is not to instill knowledge by rote (it is best to remember it on the basis of understanding, knowing not only scientific knowledge, but also to get through the cognition of why to learn), but to stimulate learners' interest and willingness to act at the same time. Emotional intelligence education is not to cultivate students' fragile feelings, but to adjust and stimulate students' feelings, mainly the feelings of pursuing truth; It is also a kind of knowledge education to make students understand its significance and methods in the adjustment and stimulation of feelings; It is also a will education to cultivate the feelings of pursuing the truth, and to work hard and pursue it. Will education is not to carry forward the blind will of individuals, but to cultivate the will that conforms to the social and historical development. The cultivation of reasonable will is inseparable from correct knowledge education, and the acquisition of strong will is related to emotional stimulation and indifference under certain circumstances. Therefore, in family education, parents should do a good job of "knowing, feeling, meaning and doing". Specifically, parents should have knowledge and insight, not improve their children's knowledge and insight. Parents should let their children have positive emotional experiences and encourage praise. Parents also need to consciously exercise their willpower and that of their children. Through physical exercise, horseback riding, mountain climbing, exercise children's willpower, so that children's willpower will continue to improve. Behavior stories are natural things.
Fourth, the enlightenment in psychological counseling.
Through knowledge, feeling and behavior, we can clarify the psychological laws of visitors behind the consultation and promote change or growth. Consultation process:
1. Listen to the visitor's story: ask what happened to make you feel contradictory or uncomfortable, and understand his negative automatic thinking, feelings and physiological reactions. Understand his self-protection behavior under these negative thinking feelings, summarize and give feedback to visitors.
2. By feeling the reaction point in the body, we can quickly trace back to the strengthening event or the source trauma point (emotional card point) to find clues; Soothes, heals and soothes the self in an emotional state, so that it will no longer stay in the sadness of the past and come out from the heart to look at the present objectively.
3. Summarize the laws of life scripts and present positive and negative results. Strengthen the willpower of self-change.
4. According to the new knowledge and beliefs, make new goals and list new action plans, and parents or consultants and coaches will give support, encouragement and companionship. Help stabilize until a new habit is formed.
Verb (abbreviation of verb) abstract
Mental health, sufficient motivation for work and study, requires the unity of knowing and doing, that is, the unity of knowing and doing and the unity of body and mind, so as not to consume self-energy, sleep soundly, have a smooth flow of blood and be healthy.