At present, domestic psychological counseling lacks effective industry norms, and the industry is mixed and smoky. Relevant psychological counselors need to be wary of encountering bad teachers!
With the development of economy and society, the pace of life is accelerated, and the society is undergoing rapid transformation. People's work and life pressures are increasing, and various psychological problems appear. Psychology was introduced into China from abroad, and psychological counseling gradually gained a market.
Where there are interests, there are rivers and lakes.
There are descriptions in Buddhist classics. In the last days of Buddhism, evil teachers said things like Ganges sand. The psychological counseling market is also mixed. There are many evil teachers mixed in it, which does a lot of harm.
There is a kind of evil teacher that is typical? Jianghu psychology? .
This evil teacher has some obvious characteristics: First, he likes to clap his chest, brag and do everything, as if there is nothing in the world that he can't solve. The second is to exaggerate the problems of help seekers and create panic, so as to make profits. The third is to be good at packaging yourself. Like talking all the time Public welfare? In fact, it is to defraud social capital and the trust of others in the name of public welfare, thus making profits. You like to brag about what you won, don't you? Ten * * division? The best teacher? In fact, most of the headlines are self-styled, and official and social recognition has not been verified. The fourth is arrogance. Often boasting about how important and great their achievements are, in fact, they are just behind closed doors, patchwork and shoddy things, which can't stand scrutiny, are arrogant and pretend to be masters, not to mention sages throughout the ages. The fifth is to be good at using others. Often under the banner of public welfare, attract others to serve their own activities and use other people's labor for free. Sixth, I like to make some big scenes, create an atmosphere and establish my own image. Some are similar to pyramid schemes.
Like a Taoist, he likes to pretend to be forced and mysterious. Pay special attention to your own affairs, often don't know what to say, and have an appetite. But in the eyes of professionals, just? Six pairs, six pairs, 36 pairs, 18 pairs? , over and over, just a few words. After squeezing the water dry, there is only a little left. I like to compare myself with others. , but also romantic, saying that my consultation is worth hundreds of thousands or millions. How much do I only charge this time for your face or for the face of any leader or friend? Let you send him money, thank Dade.
Such people attach great importance to propaganda and are good at propaganda. Occasionally, when an unsuspecting person receives a consultation, he takes a video camera and a camera and keeps shooting at the person receiving the consultation. He only considers collecting information for publicity in the future, and never considers the feelings and privacy protection of the other party.
They are very good at taking advantage of the situation. All the experts who are deceived by their appearance speak highly of them (sometimes just a few polite words on the spot), or leaders who are invited to participate in the activities organized by him without knowing it, will be carefully photographed, made into promotional feature films, or put into their promotional materials and raise the banner of tiger skin. When other units engage in a related activity, they will definitely bring people with cameras to participate, and then pull up a banner. Therefore, this activity has become their achievement.
With these materials and elaborate feature films, a great, selfless and omnipotent psychologist will solemnly shine on the stage. Just watching the video is really serious and glamorous, and it can fool some unsuspecting people. With these materials and feature films, if you can't cheat in one place, you can cheat in another. Anyway, China has a large population and a lot of money.
This kind of Jianghu psychology is not so much psychological consultation as pretending to be a ghost and making up stories. It is not so much good as evil. This kind of psychology? Evil teacher? Or know some psychological knowledge and have a psychological counselor's certificate, but because of impure intentions, it will not only save people, but will harm them.
There is a citizen with deep psychology? Evil teacher? Hurt. It is normal for this citizen's children to rebel and play games when they enter adolescence. Parents should have strengthened their study, showed more patience and methods, guided by the situation and helped their children to pass adolescence smoothly. But the parents were so anxious that they turned to a boastful psychological counselor for help. The consultant exaggerated the harm and induced citizens to pay a lot of money.
So, how does the counselor help this citizen?
If you don't make a scientific and systematic work plan in advance, you will have an idea if you say it. In fact, if something goes wrong, you will pat your head and make suggestions. With a group of apprentices, I chatted with my family for a long time, and took pictures of them with a camera on my shoulder, which caused great psychological pressure on my family.
He told the children that it was useless to go to school and they would be smart in the future. Do not study. He doesn't cater to those children who are not sensible, and talks nonsense about the problems in family education, which are all parents' problems, not children's problems, and he doesn't objectively and rationally guide children to establish correct three views. Later, because the child made no progress, he was beaten by his parents and didn't go home in a rage. Evil teacher? Parents are also required to spend tens of dollars a day to raise their children, which encourages their children's bad personality. The child is afraid of being sent to a special education school. He made his parents take advantage of their children's weaknesses and threatened to send them to special education schools, thus adding fuel to the fire. Here? Evil teacher? A burst of disorderly help, not only far from achieving the agreed effect, but also the parent-child relationship between citizens and children is getting worse and worse, and children are becoming more and more rebellious. Later, with the efforts of parents and relatives, the children reflected on themselves and gradually got better.
Later, the citizen took part in the study of psychology and got a certificate, only to know that what the original psychological counselor did violated the basic principles of psychological counseling.
For example, continuous camera shooting and multi-person onlookers not only violate the principle of confidentiality, but also cause great psychological pressure to visitors. They are not solving problems, but creating new ones. For example, Haikou boasts too much. For example, exaggerating and using customers' ignorance, trust and fear to make profits. For example, he himself has many problems, such as greed, ignorance and suspicion. If he solves the problem with a problem, he will definitely come to a dead end. For example, giving bad ideas violates the principle of helping others and helping themselves.
The citizen said: it is a trivial matter for psychological counselors to cheat money, mainly because they want to brag about their incompetence, which delays the education of their children and increases the pain of their families. If no external force acts on an object, it will naturally maintain a uniform linear motion or a static state. When an external force is applied, its trajectory is changed. People's growth has its own growth law, so we should wait patiently, haste makes waste, and we can neither encourage others nor overdo it. We must conform to the law, find the root cause, and then suit the remedy to the case and do it wisely. The best doctor is himself. Others are just external causes. No one can help you if you don't learn, understand and grow!
Search online, there are indeed some irregular behaviors in the field of psychological counseling, and many unqualified personnel also enter this field for the benefit. It is not a case for a citizen like the above to go to psychological counseling when encountering problems. Instead of getting help, he was more miserable and confused.
Psychology is a very professional field. A practitioner should not only have profound theoretical knowledge, but also have rich practice in order to really help others. More importantly, we should have a selfless love. While helping customers, realize self-improvement and growth.
It is only natural that psychological counselors should be paid for their labor and wisdom. However, if you take advantage of customers' ignorance and fear of trust to make profits, it is a taboo for psychological counseling. Lin Zexu said,? It's no use studying because of bad conduct? 、? It's no use being too smart to be too smart? , enough to quit.
I have met some really responsible and high-level psychological counselors who are very cautious. It's usually not easy to give an example. After receiving it, it is also the starting point of all interests, strictly abide by the basic principles of psychological counseling and strictly grasp the scale of behavior. The more capable people are, the more modest they are. Confucius, for example, only dares to call himself? Words are not deeds, but letters are ancient? ! Some great scientists only dare to say? I just stand on the shoulders of giants? I'm just a child standing by the sea of science and occasionally picking up a shell? .
In my opinion, psychological counselors must learn traditional culture, deeply understand the cause and effect, and be firm in awe in order to have the right direction. Otherwise, it is inevitable to go astray for the benefit, use psychological knowledge to harm others, and ultimately harm yourself.
For citizens, if they have problems, they should turn to psychological counseling. But we must keep our eyes open and ask for help from formal institutions and qualified and caring people. Don't trust people in society easily? Jianghu psychologist? Titles, advertisements, boasting.
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