Fan Xiao has a brother who is six or seven years old. Fan Xiao started boarding at school early, so she and her brother basically didn't grow up together. Of course, their feelings are not that close. However, since she is her brother, she has tried to help him whenever he needs help since she made money through work.
Their family is an ordinary working class, so my brother's college tuition is paid by Fan Xiao to his parents, who help him. Fan Xiao never mentioned this to his brother, because she felt that they were all family, and it was her responsibility.
After my brother has worked for several years, the family hopes that my brother can buy an apartment, which will give him an advantage in finding a partner. Fan Xiao has remitted money to his parents every year since he worked, but basically all the money that parents don't want to use has been saved. No, all the preparations are used to make a down payment for my brother's house. Of course, parents naturally want Fan Xiao to give more, and Fan Xiao has no problem with it.
Since childhood, parents have conveyed to Fan Xiao that it is Fan Xiao's unshirkable responsibility as a sister to help her younger brother.
But to tell the truth, although he is a younger brother, many times Fan Xiao doesn't seem to feel his brother's affection for him. She often takes the initiative to call her brother on WeChat, but his attitude is so indifferent. For WeChat, which often returns to Fan Xiao every few days, my brother's explanation is that I haven't seen it. However, when Fan Xiao came home for the New Year, he saw his brother's mobile phone never leaving his hand, and it was also a second return to his friend's WeChat.
Fan Xiao thought, come on, brother, don't care about these.
But the feeling of hot face sticking to cold ass has always been strong, and Fan Xiao sometimes even feels cut off. Fan Xiao thinks that if ordinary friends have this attitude, they will ignore him. But when it comes to kinship and blood relationship, it seems too stingy to care.
Some time ago, my brother suddenly said that he took a fancy to an apartment and paid a deposit. Fan Xiao said, why not discuss such a big thing with your family in advance? Fan Xiao knows that although his younger brother has been working all these years, he hasn't accumulated any money, so the down payment depends on his family and Fan Xiao.
My brother sent me a photo of the house, which is a pure blank house with no floor, no walls and no wires, which is different from what we discussed before.
The previous discussion was to buy a new second-hand house with decoration, because my brother was too busy to decorate. Moreover, the decoration market is chaotic, and it is difficult for my brother's introverted and honest personality to deal with those things.
Fan Xiao and his brother discuss: Do you want to compare other room types? At this stage, the most ideal thing is to buy a house with decoration in the budget, and you can live in it soon. When the conditions are better, let's change to a bigger and better one. These houses are constantly upgrading.
Although he is a family member and younger brother, Fan Xiao expressed the above meaning as gently as possible. I sent dozens of wechat messages, hoping to explain my brother clearly without hurting his self-esteem.
Then, then, the painting style of the whole thing changed. My brother went directly to refund the deposit, saying that he would not buy it or look at the house. Then I stopped answering Fan Xiao's phone. No matter how many wechat messages Fan Xiao sends, I won't reply. Even if Fan Xiao used pleading tone, my brother ignored her.
Two months ago, the house price in my brother's city went up, so my parents blamed Fan Xiao. At first, they wouldn't let my brother buy a house, but now the house price has gone up again. Fan Xiao feel wronged ten thousand. I just asked him to compare other decorated houses in the same community and make a decision as soon as possible. Is this wrong? As a sister, can't you give some advice to your brother?
Fan Xiao felt that his heart was blocked. As a best friend, she will tell me all the big and small things in her life, some are willing to share, and some are spitting. She described the whole thing to me, and I wronged her. I always feel that it is your responsibility to support your parents, not your brother. Besides, he is an adult now and should know how to be grateful.
My parents and sister helped to pay the down payment of the house, because it is not natural to love him. His sister's euphemistic words hurt his sensitive self-esteem, and he decided not to buy it in a rage. That's his choice. If the house price really rises to be unaffordable in the future, it is also the consequence of his choice.
Moreover, I saw that in the WeChat sent by Fan Xiao to his brother, some tone even begged. I know that such a proud and self-respecting Fan Xiao can only be so wronged and perfect in the family.
What I want to say is that everyone usually knows how to maintain and manage the feelings of friends, but in fact, family ties are the same. Family ties are not used for profligacy, but also for business.
The profligate affection will only make everyone's feelings lighter and colder. If you don't feel a little warmth from the relationship, all that remains is a sense of morality and responsibility. But without the morality and responsibility of temperature, there is no way to nourish a relationship, even family ties.