"Lived most of my life, or doing nothing, doing nothing. Is this life without progress what you want? "
We often hear such words. People who don't make progress in this life will be laughed at and accused. But what is progress?
There was once an article that said: children have improved = parents 100% will become empty nesters; Whether the children grow up or not = doing small business at home+or doing part-time work+or taking care of the elderly. Children's progress must be the blessing of parents. Children's failure to make progress must be a disaster for their parents.
Liu Dahai is the most "no progress" person in everyone's mouth. When people reach middle age, it seems to outsiders that they have accomplished nothing, and they have long been labeled as "greasy".
/kloc-drop out of school at the age of 0/8. Because of the contradiction and conflict with his parents, he left home one night. Only after he squandered all the money he took from home did he realize that he wanted to find a job to support himself.
He has done all kinds of dirty work, carrying sacks, setting up stalls and doing odd jobs on the construction site. However, with limited education and contacts, the circle is there, and he is constantly depressed.
At the age of 30, he returned home with Xiaoli, a worker he knew from working. In a big city, it is difficult for a man like him to stand on his feet. After Xiaoli became pregnant, the pressure suddenly increased. So he had to go back to his hometown.
The time when I went back was the darkest time in other people's lives. The neighbors followed his example and said never to be like him. You must study hard and grow to make progress. Children are naive and always ask, "Has Haisir made no progress? What doesn't grow? " Adults will reply: "What's the matter, you come back to gnaw at your parents when you are old, but you haven't improved?" You must study hard ... "
Hearing such words often makes the sea feel uncomfortable. Even his wife has no face to continue living at home. When they are cruel, they leave their children at home with their parents, pack their bags and come in to work.
These twenty years, the two of them have suffered all their lives. The sea began to deliver takeout during the day, and kept running on the road from 7: 00 a.m. to 7: 00 p.m. 12 p.m. In addition to delivering takeout food in summer, he also took a job and slept for three hours every day. His wife, Xiaoli, not only works as a nanny in a large family, but also takes care of the paralyzed elderly part-time, turning them over, feeding them and even cleaning up their feces every day.
The pressure of life, some people's contempt and contempt make them very sad, but there is nothing they can do. Even if you are wronged and have a dirty look, you still have to work hard for your life, just to struggle, buy a house of your own in the city and become the kind of "progressive" person in the neighbor's mouth.
After 20 years of hardships, couples in their early fifties look like 60 years old. The sea suffers from severe stomach trouble, which always hurts old bones badly, especially his wife Xiaoli. Long-term physical labor has seriously overdrawn her body, and both of them take medicine more frequently than eating.
At the age of 50, the sea has not saved enough money to buy a house. He can never make money faster than the house price. As usual, he gave up, rented a storefront and opened a steamed stuffed bun shop with the money he had saved to buy a house over the years, so that he and Xiaoli would not have to meet every day, let alone run around in the wind and rain.
In the eyes of most people, it is still an ocean of "no progress". Thinking deeply about the first half of my life, he felt that he had not escaped from that strange circle for so many years and was still worried about his life. The only thing that has changed is my body, which is really not as good as before. "Before the age of 50, I traded my life for money, and after the age of 50, I bought my life with money" became the status quo of him and his wife.
He began to think, what is a "progressive" life like? Why has he been busy for so many years? What he regrets is not that he has paid so little in return for so many years, but that he has not been filial to his parents. His wife Xiaoli has been running with me, failed to give her a happy and stable life, and failed to participate in the child's childhood life.
Children who usually go to college seldom call them, and they don't want to use their money. For 20 years, the children who have been "left behind" in their hometown have been indifferent to them, refused to communicate with them, and even disdained to use the money they earned.
He doesn't know what his daughter likes to eat, what color she likes, and how she has been studying these years. I don't know if my son has a girlfriend or not, and how to earn the living expenses in college.
Only now did he realize his persistence in "making progress". Little did he know that in this stubbornness, he missed many more important things in life: such as family ties, such as love and marriage.
What is the real "lack of progress" of men? It should be that there is no plan for life and no execution for the future, so they are ambitious and narrow-minded, and they will escape their ideals and face everything in life negatively, or they will not know how to persist and work hard, will not suffer hardships, covet leisure, muddle along and have no fighting spirit.
Being poor does not mean that you have not made progress. What a person fears most is not poverty, but unreality and lack of fighting spirit.
People who own luxury houses and drive luxury cars must be "progressive" and their lives will be called "victory".
Most people in this world are ordinary, but even ordinary, we are working hard for our own lives and actively facing any difficulties and hardships ahead. With our own efforts, we are hungry and cold, and it is a victory to be able to do this. It can be said that we have made progress!
Some people say, what are the rules for winning or "making progress"? Honey of A is arsenic of B, but it can't be perfect anyway. It's better to follow your heart and be free.
On the contrary, "Those Things in the Ming Dynasty" mentioned: "There is only one sign of victory-living according to your own ideas."
The cruelty of the current epidemic has made us feel that life is not easy. Everyone who lives desperately in this world deserves respect and is a "brave man" in life!