It seems that more and more women understand this truth. Those unrequited loves will eventually make me miserable. Therefore, before talking about feelings, we must talk about money first.
Jenny, an older woman, went on a blind date again. During the two-hour conversation, Jenny decided to hack the crying poor man. Moreover, she also sent a circle of friends: "It's funny to have no relatives." Jenny knows that if I talk like this, I will be sprayed by everyone, especially men. She hangs things on her lips so brightly that many men despise her. They think this is money worship.
But Jenny doesn't think so. She believes that once a man wants to start a family, he must give a woman a guarantee, both emotionally and materially. This is what she learned on TV and what she experienced personally. My cousin's divorce was a great blow to her.
Jenny's cousin Pearl Krabs is a woman who risks her life for love. At the beginning, in order to marry the brother-in-law of Northwest China, she fell out with her family. She went to the northwest alone, and she loved him, so she tolerated everything about him, his poverty and his lack of progress. On the day Pearl Krabs married him, as long as he had two cars, the man's father turned to his friend for help. Although Pearl Krabs knew that her wedding might be the most shabby one she had ever seen, she believed that the power of love was enormous.
Maybe every woman immersed in love will have this idea. They will choose to hold love to keep warm, but they don't know that love will cool down one day. How can romantic love withstand the corrosion of daily necessities? Pearl Krabs rented a house when they got married, but poverty didn't affect their happiness. Pearl Krabs thought that one day her man would give her a home and an account.
When they have children, the man is still the same man, and the work still doesn't stop. They still lead a hard life, and they still have no plans for life. However, his promises were cut again and again, so that he thought it was natural for Pearl Krabs to live a hard life with him. They also quarreled and quarreled about it.
When others are angry, there is a central place to vent, but Pearl Krabs was once a person who left his hometown and had no friends to talk to. She keeps everything in her heart, but men think that Pearl Krabs is not sensible, so much so that he also says that Pearl Krabs is inferior to other women, which is why their lives are like this.
No one understood Pearl Krabs's injustice, and she was afraid to tell her family. Because she was determined to marry such a person from the beginning, she didn't want to admit that she was blind and couldn't tell her mother-in-law. In the eyes of her mother-in-law, my son is always the best, and that bad guy is her Pearl Krabs.
In all kinds of contradictions, Pearl Krabs has gradually changed. The meekness of the past no longer exists. On the contrary, he is dissatisfied with life and has a bad temper. Because of the change in Pearl Krabs, her husband has more words. He said he doubted his original choice and why he chose such a woman to get married.
Pearl Krabs felt bullied by men, not only did she have no helpers, but also had to digest these negative emotions that gave her a headache. She found that her skin color was not as good as before, and her hair began to fall off a lot. In the face of these, Pearl Krabs increased the pain. She hoped that a man could comfort her or apologize to her, but Pearl Krabs's heart would be broken in the face of a man's cold response.
After numerous ideological struggles, Pearl Krabs decided to start her life again. She wants to say goodbye to the person who doesn't care about herself. She will never give her passion to a cold, ungrateful man again.
Pearl Krabs also knew that she would get nothing after the divorce. When she got married, the man didn't give her anything material. The house they rented, the wedding dress is rented at the bottom. Pearl Krabs bought the wedding ring temporarily in a small shop on the street. Everything in the whole marriage is very simple, and it can't be simpler. Pearl Krabs thinks that this is her dedication to love, and she will be thanked by men, so that men will treat her better. However, the man only thanked her when he got married, and then he never said anything that could warm Pearl Krabs. He took Pearl Krabs's dedication for granted.
Therefore, when Jenny saw the final fate of her cousin Pearl Krabs, she knew that even if a man was poor, he could not mistreat his wife in marriage. This is his duty and responsibility. Any shirking under the pretext of poverty is a man's evasion and inaction.
Tu Lei once said: There are about two kinds of men about material and marriage in life. The first kind of men are particularly disgusted with women talking about money with themselves. All you have to do is mention money, and she will call you material. He will even complain that there are so many money worshippers now that I can't afford to get married. But when a woman actively refuses these things, the man will say, this is necessary. Aren't you someone who loves me? Why don't you marry someone who loves me? Why do you care about my money?
There is also a kind of man who will take the initiative to talk to women about money. He thinks that marrying a daughter into the house, house, car, wedding dress and wedding ring are all things I should prepare for you. Even if a woman takes the initiative, he won't feel too much. He thinks it is a man's duty to give a woman a beautiful day. But when a woman offers "I don't want it", he will be grateful and feel blessed. I married a woman who is willing to share joys and sorrows with me, and I should thank her well.
The difference between these two men is that men who don't like women talking about money with themselves often feel that it is not easy for them to pay, and it is natural for the other party not to. If the other party makes a request, it is difficult to fill it.
The second kind of man is completely different. He thinks it is not easy for the other party to be reasonable. Everything he does is to prepare a happy home, give a woman happiness and give her a beautiful day. This is what he should do. So these two kinds of men can be compared at a glance, who can give you lasting happiness. The fundamental thing to maintain the relationship between two people in marriage is that you should pay attention to each other's efforts, instead of always feeling that I have paid too much. When it comes to marriage, whether it is a house or a bride price, it is a mirror that can directly scare people.