Lower expectations and learn to manage love.
Ordinary love, there are not so many romantic stories, but more companionship day after day. Even trivial care of daily necessities. Many people love watching TV, and many TV plays and novels give many women romantic fantasies. Men in TV plays seem considerate, humorous and successful, but the higher the expectation, the greater the distance between reality and expectation, and the stronger the sense of contrast in their hearts. If you hold unrealistic fantasies from the beginning and even look at love according to the norms of TV dramas and novels, then you can only gain disappointment and harm. Therefore, if you want a happy love, you must lower your psychological expectations and operate love according to the methods in real life in order to make your marriage happier.
Don't stop growing
In the early days of intimate relationship, two people will exchange resources, opinions and characteristics quickly and frequently, and unconsciously put each other into the concept of "I". Every communication is actually a kind of growth. The other person's new experiences and new ideas will also satisfy our curiosity. When the intimate relationship is getting deeper and deeper, the days of two people are more and more stacked. At this point, the initial freshness gradually lost, and gradually produced a sense of burnout. Maybe someone will say, isn't everyone like this? It is not a problem for the old couple to always seek novelty. In fact, there is nothing wrong with maintaining a stable marriage, but maintaining a low-quality marriage is undoubtedly an escape from yourself. In the Japanese drama "Perfect Divorce", there is such a line:
The worst outcome is not divorce, but a pair of masked couples, who live together without love or excitement. This is the greatest misfortune.
There is no bad feeling. Only those who can't manage their feelings well can learn more and better ways to manage their marriage.