There is no denying that the chances of a happy marriage that is not based on feelings are too small. Can this combination mode last long? What's it like to face a man you don't love after marriage?
Ms. Liu: I get bored looking at it. Fight a lot. I hate married life. I have regretted my choice more than once, but every time I see a child's immature face, I feel it is worth it. Sometimes I reflect. If older women only pursued love at the beginning, would they not get married in this life?
I feel that I am a contradictory woman, knowing that my husband is very kind to me and that he is a good man, but I just can't fall in love with him and even have a feeling of disgust.
I often quarrel with him because of a little thing, which is easy to say during the day, especially when I sleep at night, I always blow him to another room to sleep.
Because I hate him touching me, I gnash my teeth every time I live as a husband and wife. For a while, I had a bad temper and thought I had some mental illness, so I asked a psychiatrist for advice. When the situation was said, people all laughed.
"You need to know more about each other's strengths, just wait until he slowly walks into your heart." I thought, if you can walk into your heart, it means that you are not in love, which is naturally good, but I can't.
Now, I always comfort myself, so let's just live like this. When I get there, whoever marries a man I don't love deserves to suffer.
Ms. Dong: It is better to marry a man who doesn't love himself than to marry a man who doesn't love himself. Every woman yearns for beautiful love when she is young, and I am no exception. I have been in love three times, moved the truth three times, and finally ended in failure.
I happened to meet my present husband when I was in the pain of lovelorn. He is very nice, but not my type, but he gives me warmth and makes me feel that it is enough to find a man who is good to me, whether I love him or not.
I've been married for almost 10 years, and I haven't quarreled yet. He paid all his salary, which was good for me and the children. Although I don't love him, I'm not the kind of person who is particularly annoying.
On the other hand, my two sisters are married to the people they love. One of them makes a fuss about marriage. They quarrel every day. The other is so in love that she divorced in less than two years after marriage.
At first, I didn't think I would be happy, but now, I'm still very comfortable. I think it is better to marry someone I don't love than to marry someone who doesn't love me.
What do women in marriage want? Don't you want a man to get hurt? As long as you don't hate him very much, marriage will be very comfortable.
Ms Wang: I'll make do with it. Let's live together. I married my current husband because I was drunk and several friends got together to drink. I don't know what happened. I had a relationship with him. I said it was an accident afterwards. Don't mention it again, but two months later, I was pregnant.
At that time, I was in a bad mood and didn't want this child, but I was afraid to do so. What should I do if I can't get pregnant again? So I married a man I didn't love.
Our life is neither good nor bad. Anyway, as long as there is no question of principle, no matter who he is, he is very family-oriented and has never let me worry about money. In short, it is worse than the last one, more than enough.
I have been married for almost four years now, and I have been unable to fall in love, just to make do with having children. Maybe one day, the two of them can establish feelings and live together to become true love.
Conclusion: No one can guarantee that you will be happy when you marry love, but it is difficult to guarantee a long-term marriage without love.
Many people say that marriage is the grave of love. Even if two people love each other, as long as they get married, they will gradually disappear with daily necessities and trivial families.
But most people will turn love into affection, which is different from affection. Affection is between love and affection, and it is impossible to return to the original vigorous love, nor can they all become affection.
The relationship between husband and wife is a combination of love and reality, and it is always clear that the partner is his lover, not a relative. This kind of marriage will be happy and long-lasting.
And those marriages that are not based on feelings, both sides have their own purposes and will never be stable, especially when disasters come, they naturally fly separately.
I'm sister Li. If you have an emotional story, come to me.
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