It is normal and understandable that parents are nervous and anxious when their children get depressed and expect their children to get better soon.
But parents need to understand that anxiety is contagious. If parents can't control their emotions, do they deliberately encourage "Come on!" Still expressing concern, "When will you get better?" Or put forward some unprofessional suggestions and ask, "What time do you get up every day, do physical exercise, and keep studying for a few hours ..." The feelings brought to children are denial, rejection, incomprehension and disapproval. He even felt rejected and attacked, which aroused his stronger guilt and anger.
Therefore, parents should first learn to adjust their emotions, "haste makes waste", and understand that rehabilitation needs a complicated process. The best way now is to accept the child's illness, calm down, restrain your excessive worry, cooperate with the doctor and take good care of the child's diet and daily life. This is the strongest support.
Accept children and accept yourself.
Many parents of depressed patients will have "Why is my child sick?" This kind of trouble, there is a kind of "shame" in my heart, I feel that I am unlucky and humiliated, and I have no face when I say it, or I always feel that I have problems with my education and feel guilty. These are all manifestations of inner disapproval.
Depression is a common disease with a considerable number of patients in the world. No one is confident that no one will get any disease in this life. The causes of depression are complex, and it is far more meaningful to know what to do now than to investigate "why children get sick". Of course, it is essential to actively listen to the advice of psychological counselors and reflect on the improper things done before.
03 Accompanying and guarding
The road to rehabilitation of depression is a tortuous or long process. Patients, family members, doctors and psychological counselors need to form an alliance. Parents of children suffering from depression are not only guardians, but also good observers. Parents, as the closest people to their children, are the family members who get along with each other day and night, and they are the people who report the illness first-hand to doctors and consultants. When patients have problems, they should be encouraged to seek medical treatment and seek help and communication in time.
If the child has strong emotional fluctuations, such as self-blame, guilt, irritability, crying and aggravated somatization symptoms, or starts to arrange funerals and self-mutilation behaviors. Parents should pay attention to whether the patient is in danger of suicide. If you don't know how to deal with it at this time, you must seek the help of professionals in time.
04 Love * * *
Many parents of depressed patients will feel great pain when they see their children suffering from the disease, but they must believe that there is hope for the cure of depression, and love is a dawn in the darkest moment of life.
"Unconditional love" is the highest state of love. No matter whether the child is sick or not, he will always feel the selfless love of his parents, which will inject important life energy into him.
No judgment, no pressure, just tell him "You are extremely important to us", "We will love you forever" and "We love you not because you are healthy and excellent, but because you are you, and that's why we love you".
When the child is in pain, you can say to him, "I can see that you are in pain." Although I have not experienced this pain personally, I understand your pain. " "I am here with you." "If you need me to do anything, just let me know."
This kind of love and affection can speed up the healing process of patients with depression. Love can send a message to patients: I am not lonely, I am loved, I am better, and my life can be expected.
Good mood APP psychological counseling platform wishes all patients with depression an early out of the dark, and there will be more colorful scenery waiting for you to experience and experience in the unknown life journey. Live, there is hope.