Has the change of love started to be measured in minutes?
There are more and more such questions, which sometimes give me a lot of confusion.
I have experienced similar troubles. Once there was a girl with a common bosom friend who appeared in my life. We talked about mutual encouragement, and I sincerely regard her as the most trustworthy and entrusted person in the world. However, when I began to discuss my marriage with her on my own initiative one day, talking about my expectations for future life and planning to include her in my future life plan, her attitude began to become ambiguous, hot and cold.
When I am happy, sometimes she will call me husband and take the initiative to talk about the future life scenes, which makes me very happy and excited; Sometimes, she will casually tell me that marriage is the most important thing in life. She hopes to get married at the age of 30 and I hope I can support her. This ambiguous attitude has split me from now on.
Then, suddenly one day, when I was unprepared, the message sent to her was like a love letter that never answered.
At first, I thought she was busy and didn't pay much attention, but as time went on, the message sent to her never got a reply. No matter whether I call, send text messages or send WeChat, she is like an eternal static existence, with no response, no temperature and no emotion.
If you don't love, why can't you tell me clearly and choose such an endless way to torture people? I sent her such a message in pain, and she replied, but there was no reply.
Finally, one day, I learned from a friend of mine that she was lucky enough to be admitted to the civil service, and then got engaged to an old man in the system and got married!
At that moment, I understood that nothing in this world is eternal, and there are so many eternal ancient legends. All enthusiasm is due to the value of being used, and all indifference is because you are dispensable or even useless.
If one day, when a person stops responding to your concern, you have to make a decision: when he dies.
Two people who love each other can't wait to be bored with each other every day, and they can't wait to be accompanied by each other's tenderness every moment. Not tired of listening to love stories, not tired of listening to lovesickness, it seems that I can only accommodate myself wholeheartedly. He is the sky, the earth, and the sustenance of his hard work and boring life. You only have eyes for him, and all your joys and sorrows are for him.
When I was in college, I knew several Chinese majors. The boy is from Hainan and the girl is from Hubei. Girls love boys so much that they can turn against their families. The year he graduated from college, the boy went back to his hometown in Hainan to look for a job. Then he lost contact with the girl, and the girl became very anxious. She was clever and began to lose her mind. She suspected that the boy had found another woman at home. She couldn't help telling us that if she knew that the boy had found another woman, she would never marry again in her life. Only such a man is in her eyes. He is the only man for her beloved.
Many years after graduation, I had an accidental exchange with this boy in the cadre group of the University Student Union, because that boy posted an H5 advertisement for a wedding banquet in the group. I found that the bride holding hands with him was a girl we didn't know.
I asked him with some malicious intent, isn't the bride her? You have lived together in college for so long.
He said disapprovingly, don't mention it again, and broke up with her after graduation.
I naturally won't attend this boy's wedding, not only because of his ruthlessness, but also because I can't accept the fact that the bride is not her.
But on the other hand, a person who has changed his mind, no matter how good he used to be, has become a cold-blooded person since he changed his mind. Because you are not in his heart, you become a stranger.
For a stranger, will you respond to the other person's needs wholeheartedly? I'm afraid it's inevitable!
Important people, you don't want to ignore them. No matter how busy you are, you will take some time to respond to his call, for fear that it will make the person you love feel cold. Even, I will feel deeply guilty for my late reply.
My subordinate, Xiao Yang, is a Guan Peisheng who I personally recruited from Chongqing University. At that time, he was accompanied by his college girlfriend Xiao Qing. After entering the company, I was quickly divided into departments. Xiao Yang was left by me in the human resources department to be my assistant. Xiaoqing was left behind by the director of the big customer department because of her good temperament and high face value.
The days gradually passed in trivial work, and Xiao Yang and Xiao Qing also grew up in their own work experiences. Accompanied by this, the love between the two young people has also undergone subtle and substantial changes.
At first, Xiaoqing always came to the human resources department to wait for Xiao Yang after work. She is tall and beautiful, full of vitality and youth, which is very eye-catching. To tell the truth, even I, as Xiao Yang's superior, will be "envied and hated" by their love that continued from college. We always tease them: When will you two get married?
Xiaoqing always said thoughtfully and tactfully, we talked about fighting for our career in the past two years and then buying a suite to get married.
But later, Xiaoqing came to Xiao Yang less and less, and Xiao Yang's face began to look lonely. Even his works seem to lack the passion when he first arrived.
I asked Xiao Yang, why doesn't Xiaoqing come now?
Xiao Yang said gloomily that she said she was very busy, and the big customer department was always busy. I can't find her by sending messages now.
I was going to say, Xiao Yang, be careful. The company has few beautiful women resources. A good girl like Xiaoqing is easily moved. I've seen too many such examples. When a girl is busy and excuses to meet and chat, it is often because she has more important things to do, and most importantly, there are more important people to accompany. And the more important person, maybe you at first, is gradually replaced by others.
But seeing Xiao Yang in a bad mood, it is not good to provoke him again.
I left a mind's eye and secretly asked the marketing manager of the big customer department. He and I are fellow villagers and have a good relationship. Sure enough, a shocking "intelligence" told me that Xiaoqing had been breached by the director of the big customer department. They had lived together semi-openly, and suggested that I should not spread it out for the time being, but everyone in their department knew about it.
Oh, my god, this is really a "bolt from the blue". Such a beautiful girl should ... You know, the director of the big client department is 40 years old, an old man who is divorced and has a daughter! This guy has been in the prodigy world for many years, and he is very shrewd. At the beginning, he wanted to find Xiaoqing, but it was out of personal selfishness. I feel sorry for Xiaoqing and Xiao Yang. Sadly, this simple boy is still dreaming that Xiaoqing is struggling to buy a house and get married.
I kindly reminded Xiao Yang to forget Xiaoqing. As long as a man has a career, why worry about not finding a better girl than Xiaoqing?
Xiao Yang shook his head: I only think about Xiaoqing in my life. We have an appointment to buy a house and get married together.
The paper can't wrap the fire, and the news that Xiao Qing and the director of the big customer department are living together is finally made public. Xiao Yang is very excited. He said that Xiao Qing cheated his feelings and failed to live up to each other's vows. He even gnashed his teeth and said that he would make them look good.
But Xiaoqing's reply to him is that since she hasn't looked for him again, she has actually told him the fact of breaking up. Who can blame for his inner drama?
As expected, Xiao Yang resigned after half a year's employment, and Xiaoqing became an open "lover" of the director of the major customer department.
A relationship always starts with knowledge and is destroyed by reality.
I once wrote such a poem:
You are not important gradually, because daily necessities and vinegar;
You are not the only one, and the city lights are still bright tonight;
You have gradually gone away, just like a gust of wind blowing through the world;
Love is gone, love has flown, and the past is wasted and unbearable;
You go, he dies, and the feud is over.
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When love is a thing of the past, don't complain, why be sad; No need to regret, no need to regret. When he has been here and gone far, when he is a passer-by, you don't have to ask, don't have to follow, go your own way.
Don't say goodbye, because goodbye is unnecessary; Don't say goodbye, ever.
When he died.