Daughter-in-law, why didn't my son's name appear on the property certificate when buying a house? Should I add the name of the other half when buying a house?

My husband was a poor boy before marriage, but he became a rich man after marriage. Having a house separated our hearts. When my husband and I were about to get married, he said that our family was too poor to afford a house, so my parents took out more than 400,000 yuan to pay us a down payment, and said that the remaining loans could help us pay back. He asked me to add his name, saying that the loan can be repaid together after marriage and the down payment can also be returned to the parents, but the parents did not agree, and the matter of buying a house was very unpleasant. Now we have been married for almost two years. He works as an engineer in a famous enterprise, and his salary is seven times that of me. In the past two months, he proposed to take his 59-year-old parents to live in the city and said that he would buy them a small apartment for the elderly. My parents and I disagreed, so we had another quarrel about it. Teacher, please help me analyze whether he is right or I am right.

Teacher Tucki replied: After reading private letters, I can't absolutely say whether you are right or he is right, because in a family, sometimes it's not about who is right or wrong, but about communicating with each other to make our life better together.

First, such as buying a house before marriage.

Your parents bought you a house before marriage, saying that they still had the remaining loan and didn't write the man's name. This is "rational" and there is no problem. Yes, indeed, your parents paid for the house, and he didn't give a dime. It makes sense not to write.

But from his point of view, there is nothing wrong. Everyone wants to live in his own house, and no one wants to live in a house without his own name. Besides, people also said that you should pay the rest of the loan together and give the down payment to your parents. I don't think this is a problem. In the end, it depends entirely on discussion, which means you didn't discuss it at all.

Look at buying a house after marriage

He wants to take his 59-year-old parents to the city for the elderly. Your family doesn't want to do this. I guess it must be the money he used to buy a house, which is the property of your husband and wife. From the point of view of "rationality", the property of * * * is not used jointly by husband and wife. Your reluctance makes sense.

But from his point of view, my parents raised me so much. In the past, my family was poor and didn't even have a down payment. Now that my son is promising and rich, there is nothing wrong with wanting to give his parents a good pension.

So whether to buy a house for his parents after marriage is also a matter for you two to discuss. How to discuss? It's simple. Put yourself in others' shoes. You think about why you want to buy a house in his position, and he thinks about why you don't want to buy a house in your position, and then express your doubts or plans separately. For example, if you say you don't want to buy a house, is there any alternative support scheme, such as renting a house for them and how much living expenses you give each month? For example, if he says he wants to buy a house, whose name should be written in the room book and how to write it to make you accept it.

Finally, quarreling with problems will only aggravate the problems; Discussion is the best way to solve problems without hurting the spirit. In addition, a family, don't say what two families say, and share yours and mine when they get married. Such a selfish marriage can't grow old together.