On the day of Xiao Xia's blind date with him, he went with the mentality of "being brave".
During that time, chatting with friends every day was a blind date topic. After graduating from college, many friends joined the blind date army. Strangely, there are many friends on blind date, but few succeed.
Asked about the reason, the friend said: In the past, the introducer knew how to match food with rice, but now it is purely out of place.
If you don't believe Xiao Xia, my friend gave an example. The first blind date was introduced by the card friend of the neighbor next door. Because it is not easy to refuse to call the neighbor aunt, I went without asking.
Who knows this trip is really an eye-opener. She said that the whole process, the boy was talking, and she didn't say a word.
Someone replied, "That's not good. You have a glib tongue. "
Her friend said helplessly, "well, he went out before he graduated from primary school." He has been in the society for several years and has been telling me how they fought in those years, whether I am interested or not. "
This is a typical three-view difference, and then it naturally disappeared. Who knows this example? Many friends spit out those unreliable matchmakers and introduced themselves to many unreliable people.
Xiao Xia had not been kissed at that time, but after listening to his friends, he felt a little funny and wanted to meet them.
At this time, the community really had an aunt to introduce her. The introducer's evaluation is: "that young man is real!" " "
No more words. Such a simple introduction doesn't conform to the iron law of the blind date world: shouldn't it be praised that there is something in the sky and nothing on the ground?
So, Xiao Xia went to see it.
02
He is 25 years old and graduated from college for one year. This is his first blind date.
He doesn't want to go. He knows the conditions at home: his father left early and his mother brought him up alone. In order to let him finish his studies smoothly, his mother has been working as a nanny, almost sixty years old, and is still taking care of other elderly people.
He went on a blind date because an aunt insisted on an introduction, and his mother kept urging him to see it. In the eyes of parents, nothing seems more important than marriage.
He went to comfort his mother.
But before going, he had no hope. A poor boy like him shouldn't have a visible girl, should he? It's not that he belittles himself, but now everyone says that he can't marry a daughter-in-law without a house.
He is convinced of this because his childhood has proved the correctness of this view with practical actions.
In addition, to say the least, where do you live without buying a house after marriage? He can't say that it is irresponsible to let girls rent a house after marrying him.
Reasoning, the best way is not to find a girlfriend, which is why he has been afraid to fall in love.
After he promised, the introducer quickly contacted everything, and the time for the two to meet was about a week later. It was an afternoon, but I didn't expect them to chat happily.
He also thinks that girl is nice, but he is not going to chase her. Just seeing her once is not enough to break the love barrier he has built over the years.
Strangely, girls started chatting with him frequently and invited him to dinner and movies.
03
Xiao Xia often said: Passivity is not my character. However, she only said this sentence before, and most people don't believe it, because she has never seen anyone actively chasing her.
But then everyone believed it, because after that blind date, she took the initiative to chase the boy.
Although this boy really has no advantages in the eyes of his friends, he has many shortcomings. A friend said, "Xiao Xia, what do you think? No car, no room, no deposit, it's killing me. "
Xiao Xia said, "He said so himself, but I refuted him."
"How do you refute it?"
"I said that he only graduated for one year, and he saved 50,000 yuan himself. How can you say there is no deposit? Much more than I can save. "
"But the money is far from enough to buy a house, and his family can't help." A friend said.
"Because of this, I decided that he was." Xiao Xia said.
"ah? What logic is this? "
"His mother worked as a nanny for so many years, and even if she provided for him to go to school, she still saved some money. Moreover, he did well in school and received various subsidies, which didn't cost much. "
Xiao Xia said, "But he doesn't want his mother's money. He said he wanted what he wanted, and he wanted to fight for it himself. "
"Because of this sentence, you identified him?" Everyone is puzzled and thinks that Xiao Xia's brain circuit is really strange.
"Yes, I like such a boy who has independent ideas and responsibilities." Xiao Xia is quite proud: "None of the boys around me bought their own houses, but they all depended on their parents."
Everyone has thought about it, but they don't think there is anything wrong with relying on their parents. In the final analysis, I think differently.
It happened that Xiao Xia liked such people. It happened that she met such a person on a blind date. It happened that Xiao Xia bravely pursued it, but he didn't let Xiao Xia down.
I met Xiao Xia last year. She has been married for many years. At first, I mistakenly thought that she was a newly graduated college student, but she said that she was born after 80.
I don't believe it. She showed me her ID card. Until now, I think she is the youngest person I have ever met, that kind of young from the inside out, and her mentality is really good.
I think such a person must have a very happy family.
When she finished, she proudly told me, "When I met my husband, he had nothing. People say that I will definitely suffer in the future, and now I am my best friend. "
During these seven years, Xiao Xia said nothing.