Xiaoying used to be a girl of medium beauty, but because she lost her parents prematurely and grew up with her brother, she inevitably brought some boys' personalities. The advantage is that she is generous and generous, but the disadvantage is that sometimes she doesn't pay attention to appearance and lacks the gentleness and freshness of girls. Xiaoying has many friends of the opposite sex, but they all regard her as a "buddy" and say, "At first glance, she is a wild child, so close, but without the charm of a girl!"
In a blink of an eye, Xiaoying will become an old maid. One day, my cousin bought a special lady's dress, which was a little big and gave it to Xiaoying. Xiaoying has just washed her hair, and her black hair hangs over her shoulders at will, instead of being tied into a ball as usual. She tried on this beautiful women's dress and felt it didn't fit her. She looked at herself in front of the mirror and tried to look like a lady in the movie. At the right moment, a stranger came to see Xiaoying's brother and saw such a beautiful scene: a beautiful girl stood in front of the mirror like water, combing her long hair, and suddenly found herself and blushed-this is the 100% girl in his dream, gentle and shy. He fell in love with Xiaoying at first sight and couldn't help it.
Therefore, through the opportunity of communication with Xiaoying's brother, she launched a fierce love offensive against Xiaoying. He always tells Xiaoying, "You are the gentlest and cutest girl I have ever seen!" " Xiaoying is really surprised. She has grown so big that no one has ever said that she is gentle. Xiaoying told him that she was a wild child since she was a child, and she was by no means gentle and lovely. But he stuck to his guns and told Xiaoying what he saw for the first time, insisting that it was Xiaoying's nature. Xiaoying's usual eclecticism and rudeness were all illusions.
Under his stubbornness, Xiaoying slowly became really gentle and fell in love with him. Decades have passed and their children are married. He still loves Xiaoying deeply, and always remembers the scene that decided their happiness in life: "I fell in love with your tenderness and beauty at first sight!" " Xiaoying was also deeply grateful for that afternoon, which made her inadvertently leave him a gentle and beautiful first impression.
A good first impression changed a girl with no feminine charm and made a couple for a hundred years. Its strength can be seen.
Not only is it love at first sight, but the first impression is extremely important in any social situation. This kind of psychological identification will form a stubborn stereotype and play a decisive role in later information.
According to psychology, people often judge others' knowledge, cultivation and personality according to their first impressions. Therefore, the success or failure of social interaction lies in the first contact between people.
In social communication, people always attach importance to leaving a good first impression on each other. Practice has proved that the first impression plays a decisive role in the formation of a person's image to some extent. A good first impression is the best social pass and the most authoritative letter of introduction.
In dealing with people, if you are unkempt and versatile, you may be rejected at the first contact. When shopping for goods, two identical goods, one with a dirty and damaged outer package and the other with a clean outer package, are easy to guess which one to buy. Commodities are like this, and people are even more so. If we can understand this truth when shopping, but don't know that we are like this, it will be a very sad thing!
A young man went to apply for a job in a big company. It was raining heavily that day. When the secretary led the young man to the door of the office, the young man noticed that the environment inside and outside the office was luxurious and tidy, and his shoes were covered with mud and filthy. He immediately wiped his shoes with a handkerchief and put them away. All this was seen by the passing personnel manager, and this first impression made the young man get a job in this company. The personnel manager believes that people who know how to care for the environment, cherish their own image and make their image conform to the environment are educated and polite.
A good first impression depends on our conscious shaping. Proper clothes, steady manners and modest and polite conversation can give people a good first impression.
The key is to seize the first four minutes of performance. The practice of behavioral psychology has proved that the first four minutes of interpersonal communication are extremely important. Including walking towards each other for one minute; One-minute courtesy of shaking hands with each other; The greeting lasts about 30 seconds, and the content of the greeting is in place and vivid; Physical characteristics of sitting in a seat for one minute and thirty seconds, etc. During these four minutes, both sides concentrated on collecting and observing each other's behavior, temperament and language style. Every subtle performance will leave a deep impression on each other's minds. This impression is directly related to the future communication and the recognition and acceptance of the other party.
Therefore, designing a "four-minute" performance for yourself and successfully displaying your comprehensive charm in four minutes is equivalent to achieving your goal.
Psychologists' experiments show that for people who are in contact for the first time, the formation of the first impression mainly comes from vision, that is, people's appearance. People pay great attention to using their beauty of appearance, language and behavior to convey respect for others and society, thus showing a unique first impression effect. In other words, a person's temperament and charm can enhance his "first impression".
Then, in the adaptation period of the new job, we should also pay attention to leaving a good first impression. In addition to dressing appropriately and behaving appropriately, on the one hand, we should avoid being "arrogant", self-righteous, arrogant and boastful when dealing with people; On the other hand, we should avoid "modesty", lack of self-confidence, shyness, submission to Nuo Nuo and being at a loss. You should also be careful not to be too casual, sitting at your desk to receive visitors and talking on the phone. These behaviors are detrimental to your image.
In addition, you should be punctual when going to and from work, and your work should be tense and orderly. At the beginning of work, it is often difficult to get started because of the small amount, and there will be embarrassment of not knowing how to pass the time. At this time, you can't sit there in a daze, but try to keep yourself busy. For example, look through some documents and files related to employees, collect and sort out some relevant information and so on. Naturally, we should try our best to finish the work assigned by the leaders with high efficiency and high quality. This is very important for you to make a good first impression. In addition, the desk should be kept bright and tidy, and the documents should be placed neatly. If you mess up your desk, you will obviously leave a bad impression.