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It is said that the second marriage is difficult to be happy, mainly because people who remarry are more cautious about marriage, and because of the lessons of the last marriage, they will be more cautious in the face of the next marriage.
In fact, people who have had unhappy marriages know how to cherish them more than those who have no marriage experience.
In addition, in my opinion, whether a person is happy or not is not only measured by marriage, but also should not be regarded as a stain of the failure of the other party's marriage.
Because after the failed marriage, many people got married again and lived happily.
To put it bluntly, you still have to meet the right person when you get married, which is not directly related to the number of marriages.
Chen Xiaoxiao is my former colleague. She is 38 years old, divorced for three years and has an 8-year-old son.
The reason for the divorce with a smile is that her ex-husband always beats her. At first, she laughed because the child was still young. Later, she found that even if she was patient again and again, her husband would not show mercy to herself. Finally, with the support of her son, she smiled and filed for divorce.
According to the lawyer's search and asking smiling neighbors, it was determined that her ex-husband did have problems, so the court quickly approved her divorce appeal and awarded her custody of her son.
A divorced woman with a son has a hard time, and so does a smile. When she just divorced, she had no place to live, because the house was bought by her ex-husband before marriage, which had nothing to do with her, and the couple didn't save any money after marriage.
At first, Smile and her children lived in her parents' house for a while. Later, because the smiling sister-in-law was cynical, Smiling and her son went out to rent a house and found a supermarket near where they lived as a cashier. Life is getting better.
There is a mirth colleague, surnamed Liu. Smile is usually called her sister Liu. Sister Liu learned that Xiaoxiao was divorced with a child, so she enthusiastically introduced her to someone, only to meet several people one after another. When the other party heard that she was with a boy, they all turned her down.
Finally, Sister Liu comforted her. It's okay. This kind of thing is not urgent. I'll introduce you to something good.
Two years have passed, and smiling son is 10 years old, almost as tall as her. On this day, Sister Liu mysteriously found Xiaoxiao and said that a man had divorced and brought a daughter. After listening to her situation, she wanted to meet her.
Meeting is smoother than smiling. It seems that men don't mind bringing a smiling son at all, and really regard the smiling son as their own child.
After spending half a year together, the man asked him to marry him with a smile.
With the consent of his son, Xiaoxiao and the other party got a marriage certificate and moved to his home.
This man's name is Zhou Guoliang. He is 40 years old. His ex-wife thinks he is boring. After two years of marriage, he ran away with someone else. After his ex-wife left, Zhou Guoliang found several women, but eventually broke up for personality reasons.
Just now, Zhou Guoliang was moved by Liu Jie's smile, because Liu Jie said that this smiling person is good everywhere, especially his temper, which is very gentle. Zhou Guoliang wants to find a gentle woman.
After marriage, Zhou Guoliang smiled even better. She not only turned in her salary card, but also set up an education fund for her son. The couple will fix a sum of money into the education fund account of Xiaoxiao's son every year.
It may be because the previous marriage suffered too much, and I laughed for a while and didn't believe that happiness came so fast. But it was also because Zhou Guoliang was very kind to himself and his son that he smiled very diligently at their father and daughter.
A surprise will be prepared for the birthday party. Usually, it is extremely gentle. After the reorganization, the family of four is particularly harmonious because they have paid sincere attention to each other.
Today's smiling face looks much better than before. The whole person loves to laugh because of the power of love.
Women, meeting the right person will really make you shine, so if you meet the wrong person unfortunately, you must know how to let yourself come out, because only by coming out will you have a chance to meet the next right person.
Friends around me often tell me that marriage is not very happy, but it is a pity to leave and stay unhappy.
Of course, I know they are more concerned about what to do after divorce.
If you meet someone as good or worse as your current husband, you might as well not get divorced.
Women have this kind of thinking and are afraid of meeting worse people.
The reason why older women are picky and uncompromising is also because the people they meet later are not as good as one, and so are divorced women. People who have been married are more realistic and self-centered. Most people will not blindly choose to remarry when they are not sure that the other person can bring them happiness.
In fact, in marriage, it is very important for us to learn to be brave and know how to give.
Take Xiaoxiao as an example, the reason why her second husband gave her enough love and trust is inseparable from what she usually does. It is said that it is difficult for lovers to be half-hearted, but once you open your heart, you may find that everything is not so terrible.
Many times, we just scare ourselves, but reality often comforts us in a gentler way.
Remind women who are still married but don't feel happy that they should either learn to improve their relationship or divorce decisively. Don't be afraid of the so-called face and encounter troubles in life, because it is very likely that your decision will lead you to meet more suitable people.
Happiness will be doubled when people are with the right people.
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