Therefore, many people use this as a standard to test their other half. As long as the other party fails to meet this requirement, they will think that they are not loved.
But after calm thinking, you will understand that this road is extremely narrow, because true love is not only reflected in these small things, but in all aspects.
What's more, it's easy to change the avatar, and it's too difficult to ask the other person to return in seconds. After all, not everyone can stay in front of the mobile phone all the time.
If you care too much about the other person's second reaction, you are likely to miss the person who really loves you, and it is easy to be used by you.
Psychologists have done a study and found that seconds can't represent a person's mind. On the contrary, it reflects the problems of some people and deserves vigilance.
Generally speaking, there are only two kinds of people who can call you back at any time, but none of them deserves your deep love.
0 1: Only those who have nothing to do all day have time to return.
If you want a second, you must first meet one condition, that is, you are watching your mobile phone every second. However, modern people are generally busy at work and have time to browse WeChat in their leisure time, which is simply impossible. The only people who can satisfy this are those who have nothing to do.
A person can answer you in seconds, not necessarily because he cares about you, but also because he is too idle. He plays with his mobile phone all the time, so he can always reply to your message as soon as possible and even talk to you all night.
Perhaps, you are just one of his chat objects. When you are busy with your work, he may have become someone else's soul mate, but you just didn't find it.
Therefore, we must be careful of those who respond every second, avoid meeting men who are not doing their jobs, and be more careful of those who respond to everyone every second, so as to avoid meeting people who are not single-minded and let themselves suffer.
02: Come on, personality, it will force you to retreat for a second.
Many people will feel bombarded by all kinds of news and want to turn off all the chat tools at once, but as soon as WeChat rings, you will reply as soon as possible, because you don't want to offend anyone.
Psychologically speaking, this belongs to a pleasant personality category. They don't want to affect other people's impressions, and they are afraid of affecting their relationship, so they would rather force themselves to go back for a second.
But such people often do not treat others sincerely, but have to reply out of courtesy. In other words, in the other person's mind, you are not necessarily the most important person, but the object he wants to please.
A really good relationship should be relaxed, not flattering each other like wearing a mask. This kind of relationship lacks realism, and the feelings of each other will always stay on the surface, which is difficult to last for a long time and will not make you really warm.
Therefore, there is no need to be complacent when being answered by others, but also learn to judge each other's motives.
A pleasant person will please you in everything, repay you at all times, and take the initiative to obey you whenever possible. You are satisfied in this relationship, but you also lose the bridge to communicate with others. This relationship is extremely fragile.
Not the love we want.
Seconds back is a wonderful feeling, which makes people feel respected and cared for. We are eager for someone to return to ourselves for a second, because we want to get this unique experience.
But we have to understand that the second echo is just a simple action, which can't carry so much meaning.
Some people call you back every second because they really love you. They are always free for you, and don't want you to wait one more minute, but it is natural to call you back in seconds.
But some people call you back, maybe just because they are too bored or have nothing to do, and they pass the time by chatting with you. Some people call you back because they want to please you and dare not neglect you at all.
But for whatever reason, I don't really love you. If you regard their seconds as love, you may increase countless misunderstandings and fall into the trap of others. Be sure to keep your eyes open to avoid paying by mistake.
So how do you tell the meaning of the other second?
The answer is simple. If a person only replies to you for a second, but doesn't know how to care about you in other ways, then his reply may just have ulterior motives. If the other person replies to you for more than one second and will always care, accompany and understand you, then his second reply is the way to express love.
After all, the second reply is just an ideal state. In reality, many people will be eager to reply to you in seconds, but for various reasons, they can't reply immediately, but find you after they are busy finishing their work. Such people don't necessarily love you, but they love you in different ways.
We don't need people who can respond every second, we need people who can take care of themselves. In this case, there is no need to specify a specific way, but to calm down and feel each other's love.
Love does not stick to form, but only pays attention to one heart. Everyone will have a unique way to express love, and they will also long for their own love.
When you ask the other person for a second, think about it, is it because you want to fall in love for the second time, or just because you have been brainwashed by the Internet. Do you really need each other to always answer every second?
I think most people will shake their heads, because we all know that no one can reply all the time, and it is normal for everyone not to reply for a while when they are free. There's no need to dig deeper.
With this in mind, maybe you can understand how headstrong you used to be and how harsh you were on each other, and learn to fall in love in your own way.
In the complex network environment, we are often influenced by the comments on the network and forget our original ideas. The best way is to reject the irrelevant remarks from the outside world and ask your heart.
I believe it will tell you what kind of love you really need and what kind of care you want, so you will not be bound by anyone.
Of course, really good love is a two-way street, and you need the same care and love to exchange. Don't just ask each other and ignore your own efforts.
Seconds back is not the fundamental love and care of love.
I hope everyone can have a partner who is willing to return to himself, and I hope that the other person really loves you and is willing to accompany you through this displaced world and watch every moment of the rest of your life together.
Seconds is not the goal, happiness is.