Legally, whether the husband and wife meet the conditions for divorce is based on the premise of emotional breakdown.
In the worst case, that is, the woman has no favorable evidence to prove that the relationship really broke down. If you don't appear in court, it doesn't mean that the woman is completely helpless.
As long as the woman sues for divorce three times, the court will generally decide the third divorce. Failure to appear in court means giving up the right to defense and has no influence on the court's trial. The verdict takes effect and your marriage is dissolved.
So I suggest you discuss with the woman more, and it is best to continue. Peaceful breakup is also advocated by society.