The little vagrant was troubled by depression and social fear.
During the Spring Festival this year, Xiao Zhang, who started studying in Canada at the age of 14, had to go back to China for psychotherapy because he could not stand the increasingly serious psychological obstacles. He has been abroad for two years, and his circle of friends is limited to a few people. He often makes excuses for not going to school and lies in front of the computer all day. At ordinary times, Xiao Zhang is afraid of doing something wrong, saying something wrong, saying something wrong, and his mind is blank, stuttering and very painful. He intends to stay at home for a period of time after treatment and no longer go abroad with a visa.
? A stranger in a foreign land? . In foreign countries, it is difficult for some young international students to cope with the pressure brought by cultural differences, language barriers, academic tension and lack of communication skills, and it is difficult to integrate into the local mainstream culture, which is prone to loneliness and psychological abnormalities. At the same time, some students with excellent academic performance are also frustrated by the different evaluation criteria of foreign exams.
According to an online survey of China students studying in Australia, 26% of them often use the Internet and DVD to kill time because they have nowhere to go in their spare time. 17% can't find the object and way to talk; 16% suffered from insomnia due to stress of study, work or economy; Think? Eat well, sleep well and be in a good mood? , accounting for only 7% of the respondents.
Psychologists say that the number of children who study abroad at a young age has caused psychological problems has increased a lot compared with previous years. Many young international students have been spoiled since childhood, unprepared for the difficulties of studying abroad, and disappointed in finding a job; When encountering problems, lack of comfort from relatives and friends may lead to depression and anxiety, as well as schizophrenia, personality disorder and sexual psychological problems.
Studying abroad at a young age, the goal is difficult to be clear.
Yang Wei, a child of 1 1, has been looking forward to studying abroad as soon as possible. What makes people laugh and cry is, what is the biggest reason why Yang Wei chose to study abroad? Get out of your parents' control and do whatever you want! ?
? Actually, I don't want to go abroad Studying abroad is my parents' wish, and their hope has come true. ? Xiao Wang, who just graduated from junior high school, finally chose to realize his parents' wishes and study in Britain. ? If I don't study abroad, my parents will be sad. ? In the eyes of Xiao Wang's parents, the most important thing is that he can get a foreign degree in the future?
The child doesn't know why he left his parents and went to other places. Studying abroad? This phenomenon is quite common in cities, especially among young international students. At exhibitions held by some international educational institutions, there are not a few parents who are willing to study abroad before their children.
Statistics show that from 1978 to the end of 20 10, the total number of Chinese students studying abroad reached 1905400. According to the data analysis, it is speculated that the number of students studying in China will continue to increase in the next few years.
Experts believe that in the case of studying abroad at a young age, parents must respect the opinions of the students themselves. If I don't want to go out, my parents insist that it is difficult and unwilling for my children to adapt to the foreign environment after going abroad. Many people can only stop studying abroad and return to China. This not only lost money, but also lost valuable learning opportunities and golden time for learning.
The purpose of studying abroad must be clear. Some children are still relatively young, and some parents blindly think that it is good to go abroad, and force their children to go abroad without considering their ideas. Other children, like Yang Wei, went abroad on impulse. Because these children don't have a clear goal, if their self-control ability is worse, they often can't achieve the ideal effect.
As the fever of studying abroad continues to heat up, relevant experts say that to avoid sub-health, we should start psychological construction before going abroad and face it objectively.
Take precautions, and be prepared to suffer losses first.
Regarding the group of young international students, experts from abroad believe that, first of all, parents should have an accurate judgment on their children to see if they are suitable for going abroad. Secondly, if you decide to go abroad, you need to prepare your children for failure in advance and cultivate their communication skills and self-care ability. Parents and children should have long-term plans when planning their overseas study goals, and at the same time leave enough space for themselves.
Experts suggest that it is best for children to go to a professional psychological counseling room for evaluation before studying abroad to further understand their personality and emotional state. Teenagers with too closed and introverted personality, poor adaptability and psychological adjustment ability, poor self-care ability and serious inferiority complex should not go abroad alone.
For those who study abroad for the first time, they usually go through three stages: excitement, cultural collision and habit. Before going abroad, learn more about the countries you study in, and receive some training in cross-cultural communication, especially in language and culture.
After going abroad, you should get to know the local environment as soon as possible, integrate into the local culture, boldly make local friends, and establish your own psychological support system as soon as possible, such as family members, classmates, China homecoming, churches, psychological counseling services, landlords, etc. , and strive to achieve learning, lifestyle, behavior norms? Do as the Romans do? . Go out more and enjoy the beauty of a new foreign country. Try to earn some extra money if you have the chance. Besides subsidizing the expenses, you can also increase your adaptation to foreign languages and cultures.
Learn the method of self-motivation. When a person is abroad, he should help himself, learn to live independently and study actively. Learn a way of self-encouragement, for example, constantly set yourself goals that are moderately difficult and require some efforts, and give yourself some rewards after reaching the goals.
Beware of two extreme psychology of studying abroad.
1. Wonderful imagination: People with strong self-confidence and conceit often imagine studying abroad as a wonderful experience, but they don't understand or pay attention to the difficulties.
? The most likely stage for foreign students to have psychological problems is when they just go abroad. Suddenly entering a new environment, facing new learning methods and new learning competitors, students' reactions are different. ? Experts studying abroad say that students and parents should have a deeper understanding of the deep culture of the place of study, especially the school system. Many rumors say that there is no pressure to study abroad, so some students don't concentrate on their studies and travel everywhere after going abroad. Some people didn't even get a degree in the end, but returned to China with a certificate of completion.
The above misleading is quite common in China. In fact, any study requires hard work, but the educational methods at home and abroad are different. Foreign teachers don't practice man-to-man strategy, but international students, especially good students in good schools, are under internal pressure. They know that their future is in their own hands, so they will exercise their independence and know that they are responsible for their actions from an early age. Whether you can get into a good school or get a scholarship must be planned. Moreover, foreign universities are lenient and strict, and there is a certain elimination rate.
2. Overcome extreme inferiority and study? Ask for help? . People with poor self-confidence often have fear, or lack confidence in their language ability, or don't believe in their ability to live independently. A foreign student who is a stranger in a foreign country can easily shut himself in a small world, unable to integrate into the local life and solve everything by himself, which is also a common problem for international students. ? We should be good at accumulating contacts around us and let them help us. It's not like getting a good grade in the domestic exam. ? Mike, who has been studying for a master's degree abroad, said, for example, if you want to apply for a scholarship or get an opportunity to be a teaching assistant, students must first get on well with the professor and let others know about you before they can give you this opportunity, and sometimes you even need to go? Beg? This opportunity. This is normal for international students, but domestic students are used to being passive or embarrassed to express what they want with others, which is a shortcoming.
In the face of what you want, you should express it resolutely. Of course, you should also express it resolutely when you encounter what you don't want? No? . In order to overcome the inferiority complex that dare not express their wishes, children can often compare their expected goals with their current level and find that they are not so bad. After the comparison, the gap will be clearer, so it is easy to make up for the shortcomings and enhance self-confidence.