When we are in love, we always expect to form a family with our lover and have our own life, but there is always some discrepancy between ideal and reality.
We should find a way to get along with each other in constant running-in, be kind and protect ourselves from harm at the same time.
It is natural to give blindly, so your giving is meaningless.
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When Xiao Fang and Xiao Yang got married, they agreed that Xiao Yang would buy a house with a dowry of 66,000 yuan. Not long after they got married, her mother-in-law said that she was ill and needed money, and asked Xiaofang for her previous dowry.
Xiaofang is unwilling. Xiao Yang advised Xiao Fang to lend it to his mother and return it to her later. Persuaded by her husband, Xiao Fang agreed to lend her mother-in-law 30,000 yuan.
Xiao Yang's father died early and only his mother brought him up. His mother's words mean a lot to him.
Xiao Yang went back to his hometown to take care of his mother after learning that she was ill. A month later, Xiao Yang came back with her mother-in-law. Xiao Yang told Xiao Fang, "Mom is here to help us look after the house. She is too lonely in her hometown alone. "
Xiao Fang was speechless. Looking at their kindly appearance, he could only forget about it for the time being, thinking that it was not sick and so energetic.
My mother-in-law goes out to dance square dance every night. Mother-in-law's health is also a good thing, but Xiao Fang and Xiao Yang are so energetic that they have to interfere in their daily life, which is a bit unreasonable.
Xiao Fang also mentioned to her husband many times that she wanted him to talk to her mother-in-law, and told her not to put things at home or open the doors of their rooms and study, which would greatly affect the couple's rest and work, especially at night.
Xiao Yang always says yes, and then he doesn't know what to do.
Xiao Yang, whom Xiao Fang mentioned many times, is still impatient. She always felt that Xiao Fang was slandering her mother, and her mother-in-law always took Xiao Yang to ask about their husband and wife's life and all kinds of details, and she had to persuade her son.
Xiao Fang looks at her mother-in-law's physical condition and doesn't seem to need the hospitalization fee of 30,000 yuan, so she wants to get the money back from her mother-in-law. Unexpectedly, as soon as she opened her mouth, Xiao Yang said, "I gave it to my mother. Why are you so embarrassed to come back?" It's only 30 thousand, which is not a big sum. Is it easy for my mother to raise me? This house was bought by my family! "
Hearing this, Xiao Fang was suddenly unhappy. It was agreed before, and now their family began to play the role of a follower, so she replied not to be outdone: "I didn't add a name to this house, and I'm still helping you pay your mortgage." What else do you want? ! "
Xiao Yang said directly: "Unreasonable!" She took her mother-in-law back to her room.
Xiao Fang packed her things and went back to her family that day.
Two days later, Xiao Yang came to take Xiao Fang home and said, "My mother knows it's not easy for you. Isn't she broke? Let's go back together and discuss everything. "
Xiao Fang's parents also advised her not to be willful and go back first. Young couples don't quarrel.
If Xiao Yang and his mother really want to solve the problem, it is good for everyone to live in peace, but Xiao Fang is the only one who thinks so.
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After returning home, her mother-in-law's attitude did change, and she prepared a sumptuous dinner for Xiao Fang. Xiao Fang thought that life was finally beginning to return to normal.
Two weeks later, Xiao Fang found herself pregnant for two months, and her mother-in-law was very happy. She shows off everywhere that she will have grandchildren soon. During her pregnancy, many relatives came to visit and brought many health products, some of which were for Xiao Fang's health.
When the child was eight months old, Xiao Fang found that the bird's nest and some supplements she was going to eat next month were missing. He asked her husband that he didn't know. She asked her mother-in-law, who said, "You don't need it now anyway. You won't be born for two months. This thing has been here for months. I am afraid that I will give it away if it is broken. "
Hearing this, Xiao Fang almost fainted and cried for her mother-in-law to come back. Her mother-in-law refused to do it and said gloomily, "How can I get it back? You let my old face go there. You're driving me to death. This mother-in-law! "
Xiao Fang could hardly stand up and looked at Xiao Yang feebly. Her mother-in-law said, "It's no use looking at him. He is my son. You said he was useless. He dare not care about me, then forget it. "
As a result, Xiao Yang really didn't even fart.
The next day, my mother-in-law appeared in front of Xiao Fang as a winner and said, "I tell you, all our generation who have not eaten any bird's nest are healthy." All your things are wasted. I have returned everything I can, and I have carried everything I can't. This is much better than what you have eaten. "
Xiao Fang was really shocked to hear what her mother-in-law said. What kind of idea is this? She really can't stand it. Now she decided to go back to her parents' home, and she was kept at home when the baby was born. She didn't come here to suffer!
After returning to my parents' home, my husband didn't rush to pick her up this time, and he would come to accompany her during the birth check-up. When the due date arrived, she went to the hospital to give birth, and her mother-in-law came.
That night, there were signs of beginning. Xiao Fang and the doctor had previously negotiated that if she could not have a baby, she would have a caesarean section. Her mother-in-law said beside her, "You'll be fine if you go in and have a baby. Xiao Yang and I will wait for you to come out. "
Xiao Fang's parents were on their way, and they were bleeding a little while peeling the placenta. Xiao Fang vaguely heard her mother-in-law shouting outside: "What's going on in the doctor?" ! Is the baby okay? I really can't, I have to keep my children! "
After Xiao Fang left the delivery room, her mother fell asleep in her bed, and the child was still in the nursery, when she heard her mother-in-law say to her son outside, "I tell you, it's a girl this time, but this can't be done. If you want to have another child, you must have a son. It's no use raising this girl. After finishing junior high school, you can go out to work directly and relax a little. I saved 30 thousand I said I was cheated because I was sick, and I'll pretend to be sick later. She still has some money, and I'll let her take it out later. "
Xiao Yang here also responded: "Well, my daughter is fine. She has been working very hard recently. Forget the money. Let me go in and see her. "
Xiao Yang entered the ward and said, "Wife, our little princess is as beautiful as you. When she is older, we will have another one as her partner. "
Xiao Fang suddenly felt a little sick when he heard this sentence. I didn't expect her husband to keep a secret to his face. She kept silent and ignored Xiao Yang. On the day of discharge, Xiao Fang and her mother said that they would take the things home directly instead of going to their place, and they wanted a divorce.
Out of the month, Xiao Fang contacted Xiao Yang and went to the Civil Affairs Bureau. When her mother-in-law learned that she was getting a divorce, she called her and said, "It's very tiring for a woman to take care of her children alone. Don't be willful. You can't marry a good family like us after divorce. If you want to come back, I'll let Xiao Yang pick you up. "
Xiao Fang already knew her demands. When she was completely ignored and misinterpreted by her husband, she knew that there was no place for her in this family. She is the fertility machine and wallet of this family, not an equal family member.
At this point, Xiao Fang's mother-in-law didn't realize the seriousness of the matter, and Xiao Yang didn't think she had done anything wrong. She has always felt that everything her mother said is right, and the concept of son preference has been internalized in their living habits.
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After the divorce, Xiao Fang took care of the children and bought a small house with two rooms and two halls. Fortunately, she didn't listen to Xiao Yang and quit her job to take care of the children at home full-time. Her boss liked Xiao Fang's independence very much, and arranged a study for her a year later, and the children also lived with her.
Soon, the baby has reached the age of kindergarten, and Xiao Fang has now been promoted. She pays her salary every month and pays off the mortgage, which can save thousands of dollars, which is very good.
When I took my baby home, I saw my mother-in-law at the gate of the kindergarten. Xiao Fang didn't want to talk to her, holding the baby to get on the bus. But I didn't expect her mother-in-law to come straight over and take the baby away. Xiao Fang was nervous and ran away with the crying baby in her arms.
I saw my mother-in-law again after school the next day. This time, she was not in a hurry to rob the child. She walked slowly up to Xiao Fang and said, "Daughter-in-law, I will never interfere in your life again. Just got back from your mother's house. Xiao Yang talks about you every day at home. Mom knows it's wrong, so you should be an old fool, shouldn't you? "
At this time, Xiao Fang looked at her mother-in-law sarcastically and said, "If I had known this, why should I have?" Sorry, I'm not your wife now. We got divorced. Please don't call me that, okay? "
In fact, after the divorce, Xiao Yang often called her to remarry, saying that her mother-in-law knew that she was wrong and hoped that she would come back, and also reviewed her own shortcomings.
However, Xiao Fang has been heartbroken. Her self-esteem will not allow her to return to that environment, let alone let her daughter really lose her life. As a mother, she cares more about her children than herself.
Recently, Xiaofang has a good development goal, but both sides have not yet figured it out. This man is very kind, and he is very kind to Xiao Fang's parents and children. She will never be wronged to become a "tool" without sound.
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Married, no one can imagine the day of divorce. It is very important for people to understand and tolerate each other. Don't take anything for granted.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an eternal problem. Two women love a man at the same time, not just a love triangle, but every family has it.
It is far better to let children have their own lives than to control everything.
Love will eventually become kinship. The longer the time, the thicker the blood is than the water. However, this relationship can only be stable if the parties learn to grow up.