The so-called self-transparency refers to the psychological counselor's in-depth understanding and insight into various personal problems existing in the self-consulting industry.
Professionally, this is manifested in psychological counselors' deep understanding of various unfinished plots and their anti-empathy tendency. If he lacks understanding, it may bring unnecessary misleading and harm to visitors.
Therefore, the purpose of cultivating the self-transparency of consultants is to help others grow and help themselves grow. After all, people who don't fully understand themselves are unworthy and impossible to help others fully understand themselves.
The so-called self-transparency is to polish the consultant into a mirror, in which you can clearly see others and yourself.
Tell me about a recent incident. I met a friend some time ago. Seeing him makes me feel nervous for no reason. I'm reflecting. What is this?
I noticed it carefully. Looking at his face, I think I see a snake. The snake stared at me stiffly and mercilessly, and I felt the atmosphere became tense with his gaze.
I want to know what happened in the process, at the moment we met. This is the first time a man and a woman meet. Why do I feel this way?
After reflection, I found that there are several possibilities: one is that there have been many bad things recently and everything has gone wrong. It makes me feel so upset that I can't see anything pleasing to the eye. A very normal thing was interpreted by me as negative, bad and dangerous.
When I feel that I am in an unfavorable environment, I will be nervous, irritable and unhappy with everyone. Maybe the pressure made me lose my normal thinking.
Another possibility is that I am too nervous. Because I am nervous, I project my imagination on each other. There is a high probability that the other party is an ordinary person and not so dangerous.
Because I am an ordinary person, the probability that I am surrounded by ordinary people is about 80%~90%. According to the statistics of sensory probability, the proportion of ordinary people I meet is far more than that of abnormal people.
My third intuition may be accurate, that is, if I have a deeper relationship with him, I may encounter something bad. Sometimes, the subconscious knows the answer.
Many dangers may not be realized, but the subconscious mind has reminded them. It is telling me that this person is not suitable for me.
Just because I see that he is nervous and can't relax, this is not the potential that a lover needs. After all, two people are together to fight against the uncertain world, not to set traps for each other and drag their feet.
Fourth, this is my anti-empathy. I see people with his face, who often play gangsters on TV. When I saw his face, I subconsciously thought of that kind of bad guy.
In other words, I project my imagination of the bad guy on him like a TV actor, and he may be an ordinary person. I just see the kind of person I don't like in him.
As I said, blind date, as long as it is personal, don't make a choice. But in fact, whether consciously or unconsciously, I am making choices and choosing to be with people who smell the same.
As far as psychoanalysis is concerned, anti-empathy is the psychological reaction tendency of psychological counselors to visitors due to their past life experiences and interpersonal relationships.
It is a mindset to treat a specific person, event, environment, etc. Or a special preference and prejudice caused by emotional projection, which eventually forms some kind of plot performance.
Therefore, anti-empathy is a mirror, which can "reflect" all kinds of conscious and unconscious cognitive and emotional intentions that may appear in the consultation process.
The fourth explanation above is the classic anti-empathy. I think it's amazing. Whenever I learn a new concept, its case will appear in my life.
It seems that there were no cases and stories in my world before I studied. After I learned it, it was summoned from the nameless nothingness and suddenly found that it had appeared in my life. I didn't know this logic before, but now I know it.
I think the world is amazing and spiritual. I feel the world. It was originally rigid and didn't know how to respond to me. But after discovering this, I found it alive and vital.
On many occasions, visitors often tell me that he has no choice but to do so. But when a person describes it like this, he puts himself in the position of the victim, regardless of the environment or the person who hurts him.
This is a kind of abandonment of personal, present and future, and environmental control, which is equivalent to saying to the environment, I lie flat and you are free. Especially at the critical moment, choose to go with the flow and lie flat. It's hard to feel such a person.
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