& ltbr & gt I don't understand why you dare not say that she is so bad now. Even if she is a mainlander, she should try harder to win her position. And if married, as a wife, she should also bear some family responsibilities. Being with you is her own choice, so she must have thought about accepting some difficulties.
& ltbr & gt I feel like you have some inferiority to her. In this state of mind, your communication is always shrouded in a certain color. You may want to get her into trouble, such as becoming decadent, and then you can help her and strike a balance in your heart.
& ltbr & gt I think you should relax first. Being together is the free choice of both parties, and no one will owe anyone. Secondly, I think she wants to find a job, because she has never stopped looking for a job. Now the employment pressure is really great, and it is normal to find a job. Her life is irregular, but it shows her anxiety. If you go to work during the day, she may fall into a lonely mood. The best way is to sleep, and when she falls asleep, she will forget everything. And at night, it must be very energetic. Going to play also means that she wants to communicate with the outside world. Third, you should know more about her practical difficulties and give her some help. Communicate on the basis of affirming her, understand the actual situation and the difficulties raised by herself, and give her the help she needs.
Besides, I want to say that work is not everything. It is important for people to do something to realize their own value, and work is just one of them. I think you also want your future to be beautiful and colorful. From this essential purpose, reorganize your life, and I think you will get your happiness.