There are also some unscrupulous institutions that blindly follow the "marking process" without understanding the root causes of consultants. You know, the result must be ruined the counselor's love.
I have received many consultants and paid for them in some institutions. Regardless of the truth of the breakup and the root cause of the breakup, I told the customer that 1 month can be reunited. I also dictated some similar cases to increase your confidence in saving. After you pay the fee, I will be disconnected for half a month. The one-month service time is up, and the fee will be renewed!
The scientific recovery period of a real breakup is at least 2 months. If it is for the purpose of updating to help you recover, the result will definitely be worse!
Next, let's learn what disconnection is, its function, its application and non-application!
One: What is "breaking off diplomatic relations"?
Disconnection, as the name implies, is to completely disconnect each other at the beginning of the recovery operation, just like you disappeared, suddenly disappearing into each other's world, without disturbing or contacting each other. Including: not looking for each other, not taking the initiative to meet, not taking the initiative to call, not liking each other's circle of friends, not commenting, not entering the space and so on.
It seems that this relationship has been completely abandoned, but in fact it has left room for reunion, which is very effective in actual combat.
Two: What is the function of freezing disconnection?
Let both sides calm down, avoid the situation getting worse again, and slowly resolve their negative impressions in each other's hearts.
(2) Create a sense of freshness and mystery. Freshness and mystery can play a very good role in attracting love.
(3) create a strong psychological gap. "What you can't get is always in turmoil." Only when the other party really loses you will they know your preciousness.
(4) Create enough time and space to enhance charm.
Three: not suitable for disconnection.
① The breakup type is fake breakup.
If the other party doesn't really want to break up with you, but is angry at the moment, or meets a certain demand of TA through a "fake breakup", then freezing the break-up at this time may change you from a "fake breakup" to a "real breakup"!
When you are together, your sense of need is very low.
In love, you are the passive party, and the other party actively pursues you. Usually, I take the initiative to find you more frequently and invest more in my feelings.
Then when we break up, TA's mentality is unbalanced, and I feel that I don't love TA enough, or that I don't love TA. At this time, the disconnection just happened to catch the other party's guess. Greatly increased the difficulty of recovery.
③ The reasons for breaking up are some objective reasons.
If you are still in love, but separated for some objective reasons, such as parents' opposition to breaking up, long-distance love breaking up, etc. In these cases, it is not advisable to choose freezing to break up.
Especially when a long-distance relationship breaks up, because of the distance, it is invisible and intangible, and there are some long-distance relationships. Because of the time difference, there are few opportunities for contact and communication. If we break up again, it will be even harder to recover.
You can still be friends after breaking up.
If you can get along with each other normally after breaking up, and send a message occasionally like an ordinary friend, then you are a smart person with more discretion and wisdom. Your image in the other person's heart is not so bad that there is no need to freeze and break off relations with your feelings at this time.
However, I have to remind you that you may be able to control it well for a while, but after t a occasionally throws out a message that cares about you, you may be tempted to tell TA what you think, which is inappropriate.
Four: Suitable for disconnection.
All your contact information has been hacked.
If TA has stopped answering your phone, returning your messages, or even hacking you, then your image in TA's mind is at least temporarily poor. At this time, you must use emotional freezing to prevent TA from feeling your existence, so that TA will gradually dilute your bad impression and even begin to recall your goodness.
Although there is contact, the other party is very cold to you.
This situation is a little better than the first one, but the other party still has a bad impression on you, just embarrassed to delete you on its own initiative.
At this time, if you can't clearly understand your emotional situation and continue to harass TA, it will develop into the first situation. At this moment, you should leave some dignity for yourself and disappear into TA's sight.
The other party broke up because of some of your reasons.
If it's because of your clingy, infringing on TA's "free black hole", or your "work, trouble, princess disease", making the other party psychologically exhausted, or because your trust is too heavy, you only know how to repay the favor and choose to break up.
At this time, the other party who broke up may be enjoying the freedom of being single and enjoying a zero-stress life. If you bother TA again, it will strengthen the correctness of the other party's decision to break up. It is conceivable that the difficulty of recovery will soar!
Calm down first, and it's not too late to leave for a while and then contact.
After breaking up, you use unscientific recovery methods to save your failure and lose your dignity.
Men and women react differently after breaking up. After breaking up, men may enjoy the freedom and relief of living alone first. You can just look at the beautiful women on the street, spend the night with your friends, and you won't get a call from your girlfriend or wife.
This stage is the foreshadowing of recovery. Remember not to conTAct ta frequently. Under the guidance of professional teachers, do a good job in analyzing the reasons for breaking up or divorce and rebuild yourself.
The essence of love is attraction, and the essence of redemption is change. Attraction in intimate relationships between men and women depends on value and availability. Not humble flattery.
Finally, I want to emphasize a few points about "breaking off diplomatic relations":
A: Not all redemptions need to be disconnected. Be sure to analyze specific problems.
B: The cycle of network disconnection, when to start and when to end, should also be analyzed and implemented according to the specific situation. Sometimes it is subjective, sometimes it is objective and uncontrollable, but we can adjust it.
C: The most important and fundamental point of disconnection is that you have to make changes.
I understand the pain of breaking up, divorce or marriage coming to an end. I can't help but love, but I have given everything, but I can't help but watch TA leave. Hold back your anger? Wandering? Accept? Why me? Why are you doing this to me? What did I do wrong? Painful emotions and constant self-doubt!
Adjust yourself and happily fight a battle of "saving love" or "repairing marriage". However, when we are recovering, we must not rush to the hospital and mechanically copy some theories. Be sure to prescribe the right medicine under the guidance of a special person! Professional things must be done by professional people!