Many parents always feel that their children are not focused enough. In fact, it may be that adults are too impatient and turn children into a slogan and an action.
"You give me the bag back to my room! Mom came out of the kitchen, wiped her hands on her apron and read to Xiao Xin who had just arrived home and was sitting on the sofa watching TV. " Oh! Xiao Xin reluctantly picked up the bag, walked back to the room, and then sat on the bed staring blankly. Mother came in and saw Xiao Xin sitting there in a daze. She said angrily, "What are you doing? Didn't I say I had to do my homework first when I came back? Come on! Sit in your seat and take out your schoolbag! Take out your homework, contact Ben, pencil box! Xiao Xin sat at her desk and slowly picked up her schoolbag. Mom grabbed the schoolbag and took out everything she needed for her homework at once! " As slow as you are, how late do you have to write your homework? Open the contact book! What is your homework today? There are exercises in Mandarin! Take out your Mandarin practice! "Mom opened the Mandarin exercise to the page to be written and gave the pencil to the child." Write! Mom then picked up the eraser, "Oh! This word is rewritten too ugly! At the same time, my mother erased the words written by Xiao Xin. Recommended reading: "Dr. Yang" has the same child, two parenting styles and two behavior patterns. What happened?
One password, one action.
Many mothers will report that their children's homework is always delayed for a long time and they have to stare. But in this way, it is actually to make children more inattentive! Because as long as I hear my mother's instructions, I don't have to think about what I want to do and how to do it. So your concentration is naturally not in your studies, but you want to start swimming. As a result, the mother teaches "seriously" while the child is immersed in her own thoughts, which will make the mother even more angry!
Mom, stop being a "general" and give orders quickly! It's time for the child's brain to start When you see a child sitting on the sofa watching TV, you might as well ask the child, "What are you doing? What should you do now? This kind of questioning makes children start thinking and planning, that is, they begin to imagine every step they want to do, and the brain will naturally focus on these things. This practice is to make children responsible for their learning concentration!
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If you are responsible, you must bear the consequences yourself.
After listening to Xiao Xin's mother describing the situation at home, I asked her, "Is this a good result of supervision?" "I am tired, my children are tired, my homework is late, and the parent-child relationship is not good," my mother said slowly.
I asked her to prepare a countdown timer when she got home to help Xiao Xin set the time for each assignment, which should not exceed ten minutes. Before each assignment, tell Xiao Xin the amount of assignments that need to be completed during this period, and then press the countdown timer to let Xiao Xin "manage independently"! As long as mom checks Xiao Xin's homework when the timer rings, if she does well, she can have a rest for three minutes. If not, she can only use one minute to go to the toilet to drink water. After the break, my mother will set the next ten-minute homework goal.
So, Xiao Xin's mother tried for a week. When I got back to the clinic, I really saw Xiao Xin and her mother come in hand in hand.
"Teacher, your method is very good! Not only Xiao Xin became absorbed, but even I felt relaxed! Of course, without her mother around, Xiao Xin not only has to use her brain to arrange homework, but also "distracted" to deal with her mother's instructions, so she becomes more focused, and her work speed and accuracy are higher. And mothers don't have to spend much time with their children. In addition to having time to do more things, they also see their children's progress in every section of homework inspection, so their attitudes towards children are different.
Sometimes, the best way to manage is to "ignore" children! Perhaps this is the ancient so-called "inaction"!
Postscript: It was originally suggested that mom could start to lengthen the homework time of each paragraph. Unexpectedly, Xiao Xin took the initiative to ask her, "every break is only three minutes. Can you finish your homework in one breath and rest for a longer time? " Since it was put forward by the children themselves, of course, let the children do it! Because children have begun to plan their own actions and become responsible for their own concentration! Zhang. The child's functional therapist authorized to reprint the original source: The child's inattention is actually that you care too much!