I don't want to meet her sister and get up for dinner when I go. Aunt Wu saw that we were busy greeting my mother and me. "Come in for dinner. I served my noodles last night. " My mother didn't sit for a few more minutes before she went to the kitchen with Aunt Wu, so I sat on the stool again and waited for her sister to eat melon seeds.
I knew my sister was in poor health from an early age and basically went to the hospital for a short stay twice a year. In the third grade, I had to stay in the hospital for a long time because of illness. When I was in junior high school, I heard from my mother that once my sister fainted at home at noon and missed the exam in the afternoon. The teacher called Wu Yi, and Wu Yi got a call from the teacher. She said something about her sister without asking why.
Sister Yu had a fever the next day, because the two families had a good relationship and I had a good relationship with her. We played together since childhood. When Sister Yu was ill, I basically went to see her when she was still in the hospital. I went to the hospital during the weekend holiday. Seeing a needle in her head, I said, "Why are you in the hospital this time?" Sister Yu said, "My mother said a few words to me. I couldn't sleep at night and got up on both sides the next morning."
When Sister Yu finished eating, I had nothing to talk about, so I asked, "What did you do last night? Did you get up in the afternoon or don't you remember? " Sister Yu said, "It's not that I don't want to get up. I woke up early. When my father called me for breakfast in the morning, the door slammed loudly and I didn't want to get up. The old Chinese doctor who treated me before said that the most important thing was to make me feel at ease, so I went to sleep again. " I'm speechless. I wonder if Sister Yu was forced to get up and didn't want to go to the hospital the next day.
This kind of situation of Yu Jie is rare, but in fact, as a child, Yu Jie also expressed her unwillingness to listen. No wonder the royal elder sister has a good relationship with martial arts. Aunt Wu always said, "I haven't spoken loudly to our daughter since I was a child."
What kind of children need whispering education 1 and obedient children?
It's hard for parents to find obedient children, so don't frighten children into being too obedient with loud voices. It is an indisputable fact that when they grow up to be too obedient, they will have no opinions. Everyone makes mistakes, and everything the master says is wrong. So do parents still have to ask their children to listen and then carry it out? Therefore, obedient children need parents' patience to cultivate convergence emotions and educate them in a low voice, so that children can thrive.
2. Most rebellious children eat soft but not hard.
I don't know whether whispering education is useful for every rebellious child, but through observation, it is found that the louder the rebellious child is, the more rebellious the child is, and often the parents leave the gunpowder range without saying a word together. I think it makes sense to cook frogs in warm water. In my opinion, Yujie has never had a rebellious period. It may have something to do with her health, and her family is also distressed. She doesn't want to go against the wishes of Yujie, but what is certain is that Yujie is the most successful partner I have ever seen except for her poor health. She did well in exams since she was a child, and now she works freely and earns a high income.
In short, children who need to be educated in a low voice are relatively more sensitive, more concerned about other people's attitudes and more vulnerable.
The child who always receives loud education is 1, and the relationship is shallow.
This is obvious. If the child wants to move forward, the parents have to shout for the child to turn back, so that when the child grows up, even if there are obstacles that are easy to break through, he must grit his teeth and walk a long way. Natural children can't get support on this road, and the relationship between children and parents will not be good. This is normal and regular.
2. Describe plain, mediocre and inferior.
This state is a state in which children are dormant after they get used to shouting. When parents call smart children into this state, I wonder, will parents regret when their children grow up?
3. Children are prone to self-esteem.
Children's young minds are forced to accept their parents' bad emotions, which will certainly be hurt and hit to some extent. What's more, they will vent their self-esteem by shouting and cursing. Self-esteem has a bottom line, and children will not love themselves more. This is all harmful!
A little physical injury can be treated with time and medicine, but I don't know how to deal with mental and spiritual injuries.
How do parents educate in a low voice? 1, forbear, and seek other ways to lead children's energy to the road.
There are too many bears, and every bear I want to contact has a headache, not only full of energy, but also full of injuries and damage values. Parents of such children will not meet, and they will not stop until they shout a few words. But in fact, there are other ways, such as giving children an interest class and choosing football, basketball, martial arts, dance and so on according to their interests. It is called helping children find like-minded friends. We don't need to give children verbal reminders everywhere, so that children can learn more from themselves.
2, change your way of speaking, which is equivalent to an exercise.
It is said that being a mother is rigid, but I know that the rigid side will only appear when the child is hurt. We are too rigid or too soft in front of children, which is often inappropriate. When a child does something wrong, tell the child clearly that it is wrong, but don't add other emotions, such as hating iron and not turning into steel. Instead of whispering, we express our thoughts in a more rational state, which is also a kind of cultivation for us as parents.
The most obvious advantage of the low-key education environment is that it really promotes the parent-child relationship. After all, from the human point of view, we don't like to accept other people's negative emotions. If you want to have a warm family atmosphere with your children, educate them in a low-key way. It is not a loss to try low-key education.