Yes, why do you have to get married?
Girls are loved at home. In particular, there is a rule that in most families, boys are closer to their mothers and girls are closer to their fathers. The girl grew up under the care of her father. I hope he can tolerate and love himself like his father in the future.
Like a bird, it will fly away from its nest to feed alone one day. When everyone grows up, they should leave their parents and set up their own home. With the growth of parents' age, their roles have changed, and children take care of their parents instead of them. At this time, children will bear the responsibility and burden of life. For a woman, how much you need someone to love and support you.
In fact, women are very easy to satisfy. An old couple, an engineer, has been away all the year round. Occasionally, I come home with a cup of tea and a newspaper and sit cross-legged on the sofa. The lady is very busy, but she is all smiles. The children asked her why, and she said, "As long as he sat there, he smiled at me when I mopped the floor, he raised his cup when I wiped the coffee table, and he said to have a rest when I finished my work. That's enough. "
Yes, what women need is a kind of spiritual support, a kind of recognition of existence. No matter how capable CEO she is, or a roadside vendor selling sour plum soup, she doesn't need much to know her men, as long as a warm smile and a kind word are her motivation for survival.
Still single, you ask why you want to get married. Answer this question yourself. Because women need those eyes that care about themselves, no matter you are young or old. No matter how many wrinkles there are on your face, those eyes never leave your front and back; When you come home from a hard day, you need a hug to forget your troubles; When you beat your opponent and finally get promoted and raised, you need someone who is happy for you and who can share the fruits of your victory.
When I was young and beautiful, there were countless men around me. At this time, you think it doesn't matter whether you marry or not. You look down on all men like a proud queen. Your existence doesn't need anyone's approval. With the growth of age, there are fewer and fewer eyes. Only the man you call your husband will always care about you, love you and look at you.
An old lady married her second husband ten years after her ex-husband died. She was seventy years old that year. In the eyes of many people, getting married at this age is nothing more than finding a wife, just to find someone to say a few words and give a glass of water when taking medicine. However, the old lady stands at the door with crutches every day waiting for her husband who sells baked sweet potatoes to come back. If one day he comes back late, the old lady will stand in the wind and rain and feel sad. Seeing her husband's smoking barbecue car appear in the alley, she will be elated and knock on the ground with a cane. When eating, the mouth with few teeth will always drop the rice, while the husband will pick it up and put it in his mouth. The old lady's face is full of happiness.
A woman is always a girl, no matter how old she is, she needs someone to hurt her. This is why women want to get married.
Most married women will sigh: "Not married well" and "not married to the right person". Some even broke through many obstacles before marrying him, just to say such a word. Nobody forced you to marry him. What did you do in the early days? "It's all because I looked elsewhere." "Hey, who is married and not married?" "Living at home is the same as marrying anyone." Although Qian Qian was absolutely dissatisfied with him, they all accepted his fate in this way. Because you can't believe your eyes. If you are given another chance to choose, you will marry the wrong person.
What kind of man do you choose to marry yourself? Who is the only thrill?
24-year-old Qingping is a modern girl who just graduated from university and works as a secretary in a design company. Her boss is a 33-year-old man. Similar to Du Lala's experience, she fell in love with her male boss. And from the bottom of her heart, she feels that this mature man has a sense of stability and security that college male students don't have. Without many twists and turns, they got married soon.
At first, everyone admired her. She met a successful person as soon as she graduated, so she didn't have to fight for a house from scratch like the women around her. He had a hard time alone, and she picked his fruit easily and shared his fruits. Sisters said that she married well, and she also felt that she married the right person. However, as the days passed, contradictions emerged.
He asked her to quit her job and find another job because he thought his wife would be laughed at as his secretary. She only listened to him, quit her job and re-submitted her resume online. He often complains about the hardships between words, because he is the only one struggling, and she can't understand the hardships anyway. What she couldn't accept most was that he kept his mouth shut and said, "You are born after 80".
Finally, one day, she couldn't stand it any longer and began to fight with him. Although there was no divorce, she decided to move out and live alone. She doesn't believe in the hardships and struggles of life. Is it necessary for a man to move out and crush his wife? Moreover, she also feels that success without struggle is so unreal.
It can be said that Qingping was carried away by a man's success, only seeing his material success, but not really understanding the man's heart. He married Qingping, but he didn't want Qingping to share his achievements. He has a feeling in his heart that Qingping is not qualified to share the achievements without participating in his struggle, so he often complains about Qingping.
Ping. From this point of view, he is not loving Qingping from the heart. For a man, if he really loves a woman, he will give her the best. Deep down in his heart, there is more or less a feeling that Qingping got a bargain from him. Such a small person who is worried about gains and losses is also a small person at the age of one hundred.
Jingjing's experience is just the opposite. She met a male editor-in-chief at a friend's party. The male editor-in-chief happens to be the editor-in-chief of her favorite magazine. Jingjing was naturally familiar with the magazine, so they chatted very speculatively and talked about the advantages and disadvantages of each column. During the conversation, Jingjing found that the other person was a very passionate and romantic person. He is handsome, gestures, gentlemanly and well-read, and Jingjing was fascinated by him at once. Although the economic conditions are average, there is no house or car, and the salary is medium, Jingjing feels that people with material conditions are more important. Such a high-quality man is just what he is looking for.
The editor-in-chief never forgets to send flowers and send good night messages in the morning, and with his literary talent, he often creates some interesting messages, which amuses Jingjing. Soon, the two entered a period of love and lived together. However, in just one month, Jingjing moved back to the dormitory. She said that since she moved there, she has been the nanny of the editor-in-chief, cooking, washing clothes, cleaning the room and shopping with a basket on her arm? It was beautiful at first, and I was praised by the editor-in-chief every time I served it. But after a long time, the editor-in-chief will get used to these things, omitting praise. When I got home, my shoes were littered and my clothes were dirty. I plunged into the washing machine and wrote his manuscript, ignoring Jingjing. Where is the romantic feeling? Jingjing was so wronged that she had to pack up and run away.
This jingjing, which emphasizes feelings instead of material, was carried away by romance. I only saw the romantic side of the handsome and talented editor-in-chief, but ignored that the editor-in-chief is also a human being, and even a prince can't live without eating, drinking, living and traveling. Passion has cycles. In real life, men with poor self-care ability need nannies more.
Both Qingping and Jingjing made the same mistake-one leaf is blind. We only see one thing about each other, and we extend it to all. A man who is confused by the success of his career, a man who is misled by his handsome appearance and has no rational all-round observation in front of him.
When choosing a man, it is best to observe it in 360 degrees.
Is he prone to violence?
A girlfriend once told me that her ex-husband told her his childhood impression: once he saw his mother kneeling on the ground and kowtowing to his father, and his father broke his forehead, and his father always beat his mother. He grew up in this fear. When he was in love, his girlfriend sympathized with him, but unexpectedly, shortly after he got married, he himself exposed this tendency and often flew into a rage because of a little thing. Finally, one day, an urgent telegram asked him to record an address on the other end of the phone, but he couldn't find the pen for a while and punched her. Of course, the two finally divorced.
If that man tells you that he was abused as a child, or saw his mother being abused with his own eyes, you should observe carefully in your dealings with him.
Is he just doing it for sex?
It is often said that men are animals who think with their lower bodies, and their control over sexual desire is far less than that of women. Men can try their best to please women they don't love at all for sex. He only approached you for sex. If he had more than one or two women before you. Be wary of such a man, don't be so naive to think that you are his last woman. That kind of thing only exists in TV series. Men who are too impulsive in sex, like lower animals, find it difficult to change their nature.