The book Six Chapters of a Floating Life has always been regarded as a model of marital harmony, and the word "floating life" in the title is taken from Li Bai's poem "Preface to the Spring Banquet of My Brother Taoliyuan". Time flies, and a hundred generations fly by. And floating like a dream, for joy geometry? "
The author Shen Fu recorded his life with his wife Chen Yun in the book. Although Chen Yun and Shen Fu live in poverty, they can support each other and love each other. Until Chen Yun died, Shen Fu missed them many times. This should also be why my friends and colleagues read this book!
But when I was reading this book, my feelings changed from initial envy to final regret and grievance, and I deeply felt that Shen Fu was not worthy of Chen Yun.
After reading it, I just want to feel: if you marry, you will get it. If you marry, don't marry Shen.
Shen Fu, the word three white, is Shen Fu's wife Chen Yun, the word.
In Shen Fu's life, young Shen Fu is definitely a happy man, especially after marrying Chen Yun. Shen Fu showed his love many times in the book, so that when I read it, I was fed dog food frequently, and I envied and hated it while reading it.
What kind of woman is Chen Yun? Can make Shen Fu so happy.
The core of this book is "boudoir", and the protagonist of "boudoir" is Chen Yun. Coupled with the later Leisure, Chen Yun is a woman who is beautiful, talented, interesting, gentle, virtuous and good at cooking.
Look at beauty first.
Chen Yun is the daughter of Uncle Shen Fu's relatives. I've seen her since I was a child. Thirteen-year-old Shen Fu fell in love with Chen Yun at first sight. After returning home, she told her mother that she would not marry Chen Yun.
After seeing Chen Yun for the second time, Shen wrote:
There is no need to translate such a beautiful description. A little fly in the ointment is that the teeth are slightly exposed, but the whole person gives people a lingering feeling.
I have to say that this is indeed a young romantic. I can observe it so carefully that I can still remember the details of my teeth after many years. Shen Fu really loves Chen Yun.
Look at talent and interest.
Chen Yun has been very clever since he was a child. Bai Juyi's Pipa Trip is so long that you can recite it again. Not everyone can have this ability. She also wrote poems such as "Autumn invades the thin figure, frost dyes the chrysanthemum fat", "Touching my spring sorrow more tactfully, teasing him to leave his feelings more entangled" and "A flood of autumn water shines cold".
In Shen Fu's married life, Chen Yun and Shen Fu read books, talked about history, enjoyed the moon and commented on flowers. This kind of spiritual communication adds fragrance to drinking tea and reading at night, which makes Shen Fu simply unhappy. Such a happy scene described in the book can be seen everywhere in the boudoir.
In our current words, there are many scenes that are very ceremonial and enhance happiness, such as engraving together and enjoying the moon together.
Even if the family is poor, Chen Yun can grow flowers and vegetables and enjoy himself. It is really unusual for a woman to have such a mentality and interest in life.
We now say that the most dangerous situation is that there is nothing to say between husband and wife. The reason why this happens is that two people have different academic qualifications, knowledge and vision, so they can't communicate. Shen Fu has no such problem at all. It is completely consistent to describe Chen Yun as a confidante.
As for embroidery, embroidery was a skill that women should learn at that time, not to mention it.
After Chen Yun married Shen Fu, she was affable, gentle to her servants and respectful to her in-laws. She got up before dawn and was afraid that her in-laws would say she was lazy. She also knew very well what her daughter-in-law should do.
Later, she took the initiative to help Shen Fu take a concubine, which was rare in ancient times. At the same time, she is also worried about Shen Fu's concubinage. This very worrying thing was done by Chen Yun alone, no matter what she should or should not do. In the end, she was wronged, scolded and wronged for these things.
This kind of woman is virtuous and housekeeping, kind to people and gentle in character, all of which are displayed in one thing.
There's a saying, grab a man's heart, grab a man's stomach first. Chen Yun is such a good cook that he can grab a man's stomach.
Because Shen Fu's income is really unstable, both Shen Fu and Chen Yun have a hard time. Generally speaking, ingredients should be used first to make a good taste. The difference between Chen Yun's good cooking is that she can make good taste even if it is not a good ingredient.
She is good at using those cheap and affordable cooking techniques, whether it is melons, vegetables, fish and shrimp, once it reaches Chen Yun, it will have a different good taste. This is also the difference of domestic economics in Chen Yun.
Married, what can you ask for?
For such a beautiful woman, her biggest dream in this life is not to make her husband rich and famous, but to live an ordinary life with her husband.
One September, after the Shen Fu family enjoyed chrysanthemums and ate crabs outside Suzhou, Chen Yun said:
Build a house, buy a vegetable field, grow some vegetables, and mix poetry with wine.
As long as she can live a stable life with Shen Fu, she will be satisfied.
This is almost the minimum requirement for a woman to her husband, but Shen Fu didn't even give her such a day before Chen Yun died.
When I read Six Chapters of a Floating Life, I changed a lot. In the boudoir, most of them are showing their love, but the more they read later, especially when they read the unpopularity and sadness, the more they feel that Shen Fu is not worthy of Chen Yun. Even Chen Yun's death, Shen Fu is also responsible. If Chen Yun had not married Shen Fu and married another lover, and if Chen Yun's life in family of origin had changed, he might not have died early.
Why do you say you want to marry Shen?
First of all, because Shen Fu can't even support his family.
As a man, the biggest responsibility is to support his family and shelter his parents, wife and children from the wind and rain.
Shen Fu failed too much at this point. Shen's parents are separated, so most of the hardships in this life are borne by Chen Yun.
Shen Fu is very kind to Chen Yun and has deep feelings, but life can't be full of affection and water.
Before Chen Yun died, Shen Fu could hardly support his family. Whether working as a clerk or doing business, Shen Fu finally had some money and trusted others to lend it out. As a result, he borrowed it and did not return it.
When Shen Fu was at home:
I haven't taught for many years, and there is a painting and calligraphy booth in front of my house. I can't earn a family meal for three days. I am tired and anxious. My 14-year-old daughter Jun Qing's legs are shaking, and she says it's not cold. My family is like this. Chen Yun swore not to call a doctor. Besides, even if she wanted to see a doctor, she couldn't afford it.
Originally, my family was poor, and I still did this kind of work. After being cheated, it is still his wife and children who suffer. Can't say they're not stupid. All their possessions were used to pay off debts, so Shen Fu's family was kicked out of the house by Shen Fu's father.
See here, I wonder, Shen Fu also read books all his life, where did he read these books, even bacon can't take home, even if Chen Yun craft again good, you can make a good meal with ordinary vegetables, but a smart woman can't cook without rice. It's nothing. Even though Chen Yun is a good cook, she can't cook a meal empty-handed.
Chen Yun's illness is a blood disease, which should be some kind of hemoptysis. He didn't see a doctor in time. It's not bad to last eight years.
There is also the question of concubinage. Chen Yun helped Shen Fu get a beautiful concubine named Hanyuan. Shen Fu just didn't want to at first, but finally acquiesced. How can this last? Finally, someone else took it away. I don't know what Shen Fu was thinking. At that time, the family situation was average and I had to take a concubine. This reminds me of Shen Fu's pledge of eternal love, which is a bit fake. Maybe I don't know the culture of concubinage in ancient China, but I also see the generosity of Chen Yun.
Having lost his livelihood, Shen Fu kicked him out of the house and went to a friend, so his daughter had to give him away as a child bride and his son went to school. Such separation is a kind of harm to the sick mother.
Chen Yun and his wife went to a friend's house. Whether traveling or not, as long as they are stable and happy, her illness will get better. In the middle, Shen Fu finally found a job, but was soon laid off. Shen Fu had to travel many times to ask for old scores.
Because he was worried that Shen Fu's livelihood and nutrition couldn't keep up, he was very angry with Shen Fu's family. Although Shen Fu's father later clarified the misunderstanding, he was so poor and sick, and went back and forth again and again. Chen Yun finally disappeared.
On his deathbed, Chen Yun did not forget to tell Shen Fu to go home to honor his parents and remarry.
Although Shen Fu said he would not continue to marry, it is difficult for a beautiful woman to remarry.
Shen Fu was in great pain.
Later in his book, he once said:
It's ridiculous to attribute Chen Yun's death to his deep affection!
Then Shen went home.
Have to say, Chen Yun's final result is related to Shen Fugu. We hate The Family of Birth. It has bad habits now. In feudal society, the family that practiced patriarchal clan system must be one hundred times more powerful than the family that came from the family. Why isn't Yun angry?
It's a pity that Chen Yun didn't look forward to the day when she said she would build a house, farm land, be well-fed and live a stable life. But Shen Fu said he had the ability to achieve it, but Chen Yun was gone.
This situation in Shen Fu, even now, is also of great reference significance.
For a woman, it is not rich or expensive, but a stable life is the most important thing, and if a man can't support his family, everything else is useless.
If you get married, you will get Chen Shuzhen. If you want to marry, don't marry Shen.