As a counselor, what if you don't like to talk?
Well, I joined an online platform, worked as a consultant, and then many people came to chat, not to solve psychological problems, but because they felt there was nothing to talk about! If you don't answer, there will be no bill. If you answer, I don't know what to talk about! Are people so boring nowadays?
Wei Hongqian replied:
Hello, people on the Internet talk to psychological counselors, not solve problems.
This is actually a question of building a trust relationship.
If the other person meets you in real life, he may be infected by your unconditional concern and gentle atmosphere, and it is easy to trust you. The process of establishing a safe and stable trust relationship between you will be smoother.
After the trust relationship is established, solving the problem will be put on the agenda.
On the network platform, the other party sees pictures and words, and can't intuitively feel the characteristics and professional atmosphere of your counselor, so you should explore in many ways.
Their small talk is just to test whether you are angry with him.
In fact, there is also the matching problem between visitors and psychological counselors.
In my opinion, it is more difficult to find a suitable counselor than to find an object.
For the vast majority of help seekers, online chatting may be one of the few ways to meet psychological counselors and establish relationships.
Then you can give a time limit, such as chatting for 15 minutes, what key information do you want to extract during the chat and provide your professional information to the other party to show your professional attitude.
In this case, you expect the free chat to be limited to 15 minutes. You won't feel consumed.
If the other person enjoys your 15 minutes of free chat and doesn't ask you to solve the problem, it's not that you did something wrong, it's more likely that the two sides don't match.
Good luck!